SRS - must you mutilate your self to become a "real" woman?

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by Kimmy_t

Constructive and well-written post by Hank with some valid points. Valid but I do not agree with all of them.

The thing that bothers me is that regular women can get vaginoplasties no questions asked, cash or creditcard? Coz they think their labia don't look like a pornstar's(photoshop anyone?). Castration for men is a tad harder but the hard part can be finding the doctor, but there's no big ruleset around it. Then consider stuff like facial plastic surgery or boobjobs.

I am pretty sure giving a t-girl the SRS she wants will produce 10 times the emotional happiness of someone getting her boobs filled a bit. But then why do they make it so bloody hard for us? I mean sure it is a hard decision, but it's our lives, we are mature well-thinking human beings, most of us tend to be reasonably intelligent too. Why all the hoops to jump through? I feel like a circus tiger with the way the Genderteam in my country treats me. They're very nice people though, they're just very strict.

I've heard of a transwoman who was 40 years old, had her own company, complete with employees, good reputation in the trade, successful person, profesionally. Imagine how humiliating it must've been to suddenly be treated like a child, having to prove that you want something, that you think clearly, explain yourself to some kind of jury. Suddenly you're not the adult anymore.

I think they should relax the rules a bit, period. If people make a wrong decision, then that's their own mistake. We can all make mistakes in our daily lives, and many of them are just as big as getting SRS.

A thing I do want to say, is that it's amazing how respectful some guys on this forum are. That's something that's completely new to me. I don't mean that offensively, on the contrary, it really gives me hope and faith in the future.

Kim

Of course there should be respectfulness regarding transsexuality - I hope that's what I have expressed throughout my many postings here.

However, I disagree with your notions to the degree that not all trans*women are as calm and under control of nobody like yourself. I believe that such an operation with such dramatic consequences must be done only after careful consideration, and I don't believe that every body is capable of making such a decision on their own with out guidance.

Besides, if it is such a strong desire, then you can go to Thailand and have it performed - these doctors are probably much more experienced than Western doctors anyway.

But my initial point was not really to challenge SRS - it was simply to state my belief that gaining legal female status should not be depending on a woman's genital habitus. It is absolutely ridiculous that the trans*ignorant hetero society (those who set the rules) should be allowed to make such rules unchallenged in a democracy.

If a transsexual woman decides that she wishes to obtain legal status as a woman, then that is HER choice. Not mine, not Barack Obama's, not any one else's than hers.

If it were up to me, she should be ale to make her decision and within a month have her new passport as a woman. With ALL the female rights including marrying. And nobody should ask her to strip or see doctor's papers.

What's the harm done? To what degree would this be misused?

I believe it is the right of a woman also to be a legal woman.

H