Am I under some curse?

[tim4lb]

Lydel, I admire you for being so mature and brave for putting yourself out there for others to comment on. I agree that falling in love on the internet is difficult. I am a pragmatist and a realist as well. After talking to and dating numerous ladyboys in person, I generally feel as though the majority of guys on the internet who profess to be looking for love are in fact looking for everything but love. This is a gross generalization and I know that there decent guys out there (I really hope you find one), but so many of my ladyboy friends complain about guys playing games online. It is simply to hide anonymously and pretend they are someone they are not. It is possible to find online love, but it will take a lot of time and patience. If you are able to travel to other countries, this seems like a better option to me. Again no guarantees and lies and games are possible, but it seems more sensible to put faith in someone who you can see and read their feelings.

Shockn'Amaze is absolutely right - you shouldn't lower your standards. That was unfair of me to say and not really the crux of what I intended my feedback to you to be. Use all of the positive qualities you have "smart, practical, analytical, open minded and color/gender blind" to make an informed decision and don't get overly hung-up on appearance. I am guilty of this too, I'm not easily taken by someone I am not physically attracted to.

You seem like an intelligent, fun person. I wish you all of the best in your search. As written here earlier, be patient. The right guy is out there.

[cheersm8]

My response bossymax1981.
Don't wory about it, it's life. I have had loads of mingers after me ( mingers = brit term for 'fell out of the ugly tree and hit every stick on the way down' ). If you are not attracted to a person a simple 'seeya, wouldn't want to be ya' is a painless,simple, and quick solution. It takes around 4 seconds, then you can move on.

I just have to let it flow, having pressures and rules in myself makes me " crazy". So I take it slow but surely.

[aa2239]

Bossymax... although I sympathise with your plight, I would point out that you're not exactly the only person on earth who is holding out for their "perfect partner", so you can hardly consider yourself "cursed".

Secondly, as a black guy myself, I must object to your wording/phrasiology... "I usually attract men that are either black, overweight, or just ugly in general". You say you're not racist... but at the very least this comment is ignorant... it connotes that being black is as undesirable as being ugly, it puts "black" and "ugly" in the same group. Of course, everyone is entitled to their own preferences, and is allowed to act on those preferences when it comes to dating... but they should do so as tactfully and respectfully as possible, which I don't think you have done. I realise this is an international forum, and as such standards of English will differ widely... but in future please try to be more tactful when dealing with such sensitive issues as a person's race making them desirable/undesirable to you... and for that matter, any physical attribute.... from what you say, it sounds like the main problem with these guys is their attitude and how they approach you, not their physical appearance. Thank you.

Good news is, Im not racist at all. Infact, I love to have black man for a change. I am tired of white men, seems to be all around. Seriously, any races well do for me as long as he is genuine...That matters to me and to all here :-)

[twistedone]

I don't claim any beauty prize myself, in fact, there's been a few times I became horrified when I looked at myself in a mirror. And, my tropical fish tend to swim away and hide.

All kidding aside.

Are you focused merely on looks, or are you looking for someone that you can have a serious relationship with? Again, I certainly can't claim that I'm as white as snow, as looks are also important to me. As the ole saying goes, "Never judge a book by its cover".

I believed you and I'm not being cynical...Everyone has the chance but only once I give...

Thank you Tim. I am looking for young man now, I thought old men are behave and not butterflies, but they're more headache than heartache. Well,I can't say I know men so well hence I only have had 4 serious bf's so I have concluded, I am magnetic to wrong men. Being a Princess looking for love failed for 6years, so I try being escort and dirty then I might find " Love". I don't know, haven't tried though but I guess men like dirty women/lb not classy brainy...In short, men like junk not caviar. Hope I am not wrong but I let my doors to open. If there's someone who is real, then he can have me for life. WINK!