Secret Love for Trans*women

[Bionca]

Ila, smc and rockabilly - you guys are totally the guys I didn't intend this thread to be about.

Now I understand the desire for personal safety and how that plays out in dating a trans* woman. What I'm curious to know is how guys who responded in the other thread with answers more on the "very secret" end of the pole feel about the issue and how they handle it/ why they feel that way/ if it needs to change (in their perspective).

Lopey-

Having an existing relationship is a vastly different thing. One could draw paralells to men and women who come out a gay/lesbian later in life after marriage and families. Or trans* folks in the same position really. In that case I think the question is more "is this attraction worth the damage to my family, can I maintain both and still feel honest or at least mitigate any damage to any parties involved."

[fatbloke]

I Think Some Of The Problems Are The Stigma Attached,the Vast Majority Of People Are Intolerant Of What They Don't Understand And Affraid,unfortunatly To The Point Of Violence In A Lot Of Cases.
When I Was At School I Was Bullied A Lot,and Pretty Much All My Adult Life.i Would Try And Stand Up To These Nasty Pieces Of Garbage At School And Basically End Up Getting Humiliated,i Was Always On My Own,and My Socalled Friends Would Join In In A Way,just So That They Could Be In With The Cool Crowd.
I Also Suffered A Lot Of Abuse As Well,so The Thought Of Letting People Know About My Attraction To Transexuals Does Not Fill Me With Confidance.
I Would Love To Have A Trans Partner,tell The World "f*** Off,im Happy,get Urself A Life",but After Years Of People Sniping At Me,i'm Not Sure I Could Take The Abuse.call Me A Coward If You Want,i Proberbly Am,but Life Can Just Beat You Down

[belfagar]

I have trouble with this, I am not ashamed. I choose to keep this part of my life private. It's a for me thing only. I simply watch and wank. As of late I wank for my health. Plus its simply fun for me to indulge in these lovely ladies. It's been a while for me round here, how ya been Bionca. I might say your quite a looker.

[01101101]

Originally Posted by Bionca

Now I understand the desire for personal safety and how that plays out in dating a trans* woman. What I'm curious to know is how guys who responded in the other thread with answers more on the "very secret" end of the pole feel about the issue and how they handle it/ why they feel that way/ if it needs to change (in their perspective).

I guess I feel like I am attracted to attractive people and that includes m2f/trans etc. (New, I don't know all the abbreviations people use. Sorry.) I would not lie if someone asked or hide my interest if it were there, but I'm not going to wear a t-shirt about it, either. I guess it is kind of like "white privilege", only in the context of sexuality. Maybe it is me being a chicken.

[belfagar]

I don't think I would like my wife to find the material i have on my comp. If she did however I would never lie. I would explain things to her and leave the ball in her court. I am not ashamed. It is my "hobby", Not hers. I have no desire to explore a sexual relationship with any other lady, I'm married. If I was single, Well than all bets are off. I would love to have met a woman like Bionca when I was single. I met my wife instead. Love is one thing, Love for masturbation and Personal excitement are another. Beautiful woman excite me. enuff said.....

I'm not ashamed of my attraction to transwomen, I'm just affraid of how it might be handled amongst my family and friends. I mean, most of them accept homsexuality and transexuality, but others dont (for the most part, the older generations of my family). I dont know whether it would be accepted or not.

I am also a very shy perosn. I keep a lot of my thoughts and emotions to myself. When annoyed I certinately make my presence known, but otherwise not.

[belfagar]

Good to hear buddy. I like your avatar. been said before im sure.

[Reslemock]

So far no one in my family know my attraction for T-girls because I don't know how they would reacted to the fact that I love girls with a pennies. There are the time that I wish that I could just say it out loud but... I don't think the would understand.

I posted my reply just now in that thread, so no need to rehash it here. I'll just say that I hope someday to be in the "everybody knows" category. (You'll have to read my response in the other thread Bionca linked to in order to completely understand that...yes, I am hopeless, indeed!)