Secret Love for Trans*women

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Originally Posted by Bionca

Lots of you guys are either afraid or ashamed of your attraction. I guess I'm curious why you feel that way and what , if anything, do you think can be done about it? Or, do you think anything should be done about it - and you comfortable with the secrecy/ that's part of the attraction?

I am neither ashamed nor afraid. I embrace this attraction, and don't mind who knows about it. I don't hide it. But I don't advertise it generally, for no reason other than my belief that it's not particularly anyone else's business, unless it comes up as a matter of course.

And just to prove it, Bionca, I would glady stand next to you in a public square and say so.

However, I certainly recognize just how many people are afraid or ashamed. Society's mores certainly wreak havoc on our ability to live happy lives according to what we really like and want. And it is that phenomenon that, in part, spurs the other phenomenon of men who act on their attraction and then, out of fear or shame, do harm to the trans women with whom they have a relationship. This saddens me, but I see all over it the mark of a society that sees "immorality" in matters sexual rather than, say, in people being left to live in poverty and deprivation.

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Hi Bionca, I think 4 some people hiding their sexual identity is a matter of survival. My former neighbor was an openly gay black man who everyday had eggs and rocks thrown at his house and car, and one time had his tires slashed. He would always joke about it "are they doing this because i'm gay or black? " The police would respond but nothing would ever be done "Just kids being kids " one cop said. WTF. James moved to Miami 5 months ago. The last thing he said was "be careful, & take care of yourself"