is flirting with a shemale same as flirting with a girl??

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by rockabilly

It's so poetic in it's simplicity yet so elusive in practice. Like Morrisey said "it's hard to stand tall when your small", being self concience is my problem. But getting to know someone first lets me get into a comfort zone and open up more ( no pun intended )

"Shyness is nice, but shyness can stop you from doing all the things in life you'd like to." - The Smiths

As someone is is painfully shy in person, I totally understand. Being oblivious to other's flirtations doesn't actually help either *shrug*

[rockabilly]

Hi Bionca, you a smiths fan too? I find it hard to pick up when someone flirts w/ me. I think it's because of low self esteem. I do great w/ friends but meeting new people ... I just clam up or start rambling. But posting here seems to help. I don't really have anyone to talk to about my love for trans women And being surrounded by redneck bigots does nothing to put me at ease. Sorry to rant talk to you later Ms. Bionca

[racquel]

Are you the son and the heir of a shyness that is criminally vulgar?

There are clubs if you'd like to go ... you could meet somebody who really loves you. But if you go will you stand on your own, and leave on your own, and go home and cry and want to die?

[The Conquistador]

Originally Posted by racquel

But if you go will you stand on your own, and leave on your own, and go home and cry and want to die?

That's how a night on the town usually pans out for me! It's as if you know me...

[baasje43]

Being happy to have met with several tgirls in my life, I can say that there are fundamentally two types of tgirls. And as it seems not much in between.

The first group is assertive and will immediately respond to any interesting smile, and come over to you in order to hunt you down. Sometimes they even are no real tgirls but crossdressers. They always are well endowed and functionally good sex.

The second group is shy. You sometimes find them just outside the special pubs, and they are blushing as soon as you look at them. Most of them are exquisite slender and some do not have a big cock, some do have one though. But they are unsecure of your reaction on the fact that they have a penis, wanting to be seen as a real girl. Just try to reassure them as soon as possible. Just say: "I know..." can do it.

The two tgirls I live with now are both of the second category. But I had extatic experiences with some of the 1st one (TY Bianca...)

Bottomline is: show your appreciation, and love them the way they feel good by.

[racquel]

baasje43 -

So you're saying that all tgirls are either super-horny or super-shy?

I have met a lot of crossdressers who fit into those categories, but even then it's going too far to generalize them all like that. I know plenty of non-shy tgirls and crossdressers who are pretty horny and far from shy, but they're certainly not "responding" to everyone and "hunting people down" in clubs. They're just out being social.

And about the OP, it sure would be nice if more people treated us like girls and talked to us like girls. Apparently there is some kind of stereotype that trannys are just horny guys in skirts and it's OK to walk right up to them and say you want to fuck. It's sad, and the last thing we need is people giving out advice that half the tgirls out there are super-horny and you just need to make it known that you're ready for action.

I would have to say that the average tgirl is even more complex, difficult to understand and unpredictable than the average GG.

[rockabilly]

Hi Racquel , Tgirls may be more complex but i think in the end they want respect and love and above all acceptance. Some of guys can be pretty complex too Talk to you later

[rockabilly]

Originally Posted by racquel

Are you the son and the heir of a shyness that is criminally vulgar?

There are clubs if you'd like to go ... you could meet somebody who really loves you. But if you go will you stand on your own, and leave on your own, and go home and cry and want to die?

Hey sweetheart, I am human and i need to be loved...just like anybody else does. : kiss:

[BigToy4Asia]

Originally Posted by Bionca

"Shyness is nice, but shyness can stop you from doing all the things in life you'd like to." - The Smiths

As someone is is painfully shy in person, I totally understand. Being oblivious to other's flirtations doesn't actually help either *shrug*

Bionca: your advice is some of the best, most helpful, most well thought out - most intelligent I have read. And I imagine that applies to far more topics than just this forum.

So it fascinates me that you consider yourself "painfully shy in person"... but then I've said the same about myself in the past, so, I can kind of see where you are coming from.

Anyway, I just felt like saying something encouraging, because you are truly inspirational. Which country do you live in? I imagine you'd be a fascinating person to have coffee with!