Should I do Some Porn?

[CreativeMind]

PART 3

So after all of my ranting, here's what I finally have to say to you, Bionca -- and I mean this friend to friend.

Be careful...I mean, be as insanely and as incredibly careful as you've EVER been about anything in your entire LIFE...when making this decision. Because once you cross this line, I can promise you this: it is one you can NEVER take back. The end result of this -- much as it might pay a few bills right now -- is going to have ramifications that will last the rest of your life. And not just for you, but those around you and involved in your life as well.

I have met people who have done porn and they will shrug their shoulders and say "Eh, it was a paycheck."

I have met girls who are twenty-somethings who will giggle like little school girls and say "Ooh, I had fun! And isn't that the point of life? To just have fun?"

And I've met thirty and forty-something porn girls who were just sooooo happy I would sit and talk to them at a party or wherever as women, for who they were inside, but who the entire time were knotted up and thinking to themselves, "Please don't let him mention my past. Please let him be a good guy and talking to me because he likes ME. Please don't let him ONLY be talking to me because I did a porn movie and he thinks I'll have sex with him. Please let him be a really nice guy who will just let me go back to being a normal woman again." Truthfully, I'm talking about women who were SO scarred and nervous and inwardly upset that even now...years after the fact...the experience of having done porn almost did make it impossible to talk to them because they were SO self-conscious of it. It truly was like wearing a scarlet letter to them. To the point you could see just by sitting with them that it was literally making them a wreck inside. But hey, I'm sure back in the day they thought the money was good, the attention was nice, and that things were going to turn out much, much differently.

I have known people who did porn, made money, got out, and accepted it. I've known people who did porn and it scarred them forever. The experience altered them, and it forever changed how they deal with themselves and now deal with others. As I said before, I've seen the good, the bad, the happy, the sad, the content, and the tormented.

Bionca, I know you are an INCREDIBLY bright and charming and beautiful lady and you're very open-minded. So to that end, I'm just saying as a concerned friend that this is not a decision you should rush into. Like I said, this is one you can't ever take back.

Hell, even if it is about the money...even if this is about you wanting to cross a line and do professional porn now....then get in touch with me and I'll talk to you privately about visiting Hollywood, where we'll send you out to some of the bigger name and more established production companies. Least then instead of making $1,000 bucks for the quick and now, you can go around to the legitimate production companies and line up work for an extended period (for example a 2 week vacation) and pocket even more cash. I mean, if you're going to DO porn, then I'd rather you did it out here with the bigger and more legitimate companies where you'll get better work, better working conditions, better money, not to mention safe and solid medical checks to ensure your personal safety and well-being. As I said, if you're going to do porn, then at least do it 100% right and with the right companies and professional people -- which means coming west and hitting the infamous Valley.

So, I'm not going to give a thumbs up or thumbs down on this one. For all my ranting it might seem like I was making a judgment one way, but that's not the case. This is a decision only YOU can make because YOU are going to have to live with ALL of the ramifications that will ripple outward from this. This is your life and it's your call entirely. However, like everyone else here, I just want you to make a decision for all of the right reasons and NOT for any "in the moment" quick reasons which could ultimately work themselves out, if only given a bit more time.

Either way, whatever you decide, you're my friend and always will be.
And I'm sure that I speak for everyone here when I say we ALL love you no matter what you decide to do.

[MistressStevie]

Digital Memory is very long. I have digital records of an amazing amount of stuff going back to the 80s. As soon as my scanner is done with it's current project that digital memory will be back to the 70s for everything personal.

I'd scan all the books and magazines on the shelves if it did not destroy them too. What you do like that will never go away in terms of media memory.

Personal memory lasts as long as you do (and those close to you). If you and
they are comfortable--do it. But, once done--it is not taken back.

Plus there is a legitimate increase in risk that may offset present financial return. -mS

[ila]

No, do not do it.

[new believer]

I read the first few comments and agree. JtJ's initial 'hell yeah' was a bit much but got on board and calmed down(I suspect he did not to get blasted from the rest) My feelings....true it's up to you and how you want to see yourself for the rest of your life. Once done ,no reversing.
That said, we all only live once and as many before you,there are some regrets but many have an opportunity of seeing themselves immortalized and enjoy the days 'when their youth and beauty reigned'. If at a time AFTER you do a film or two, you become recluse or regretful, heck, just dye your hair or change your cut. People don't often recognize hollywood celebs in the supermarket even at the checkout. I have viewed very few short clips through this forum but also enjoyed a couple.
Whatever you decide,I think all of us will support you. And yes, when I say support, I'll buy your video(s) Good luck Ms B. NB

[franalexes]

My gawd woman , have you totally lost your mind? The real truth of the porn industry is out there. How did you miss it?
Jen hit it right. Not much need to say more. But I will, because you make me angry. No, wrong word. You make me upset and I respond verbally.
Consider, the level you have been recognized for, your intelligence et: all. on this forum. Not one of the "girls" in that ad' strip at the top of the page carries the same respect that you have rightfully earned on here. Over 23,000 members on this forum, 99% + are guys, ( tell you anything?) and the first 16 responces are 15 NO! and one "don't have a F clue."
Our lives are made great, not so much on what we are but what we overcome. I don't know of any porn star that has noteriety as a happy marriage or happy life for that matter. Strive for the good things in life. The bad things will come easy.
There was a girl from around here that had a chance at a shoot with Playboy. She did. She did one shoot. That ended it. Her success?; she lives in a mobilehome and has been married 4 times. There are more girls around that have more respect and a better life and they don't do porn.
Bionca, you have someone waiting in the wings that genuinly respects you to the hilt. Have you really opened that door? As we go down the hallway of life, some doors we miss we can never go back to.
The door to porn , when open, stays open. Your photos are their property. THEY OWN YOU.
Bionca, remember when we met, I asked if you were trying to change the world? Who is better equipt to do that? You and I or the girls in those pictures at the top of the page?
Okay girl. You pissed me off. yeah, I'll get over it. But it depends on you.

Fran

[Amy]

LOTS of my gg friends have done porn. It's good money, yes, but tthere's always been a degree less respect everyone's had for them since. It's generally unspoken, but it's there, behind your back. However, if that does NOT bother you....

[lebguy]

Well I don't know if someone wrote something similar to my reply but I am going to be frank with you. What I am writing is my own opinion, maybe I am wrong in some points and maybe not.

As much as we love you here and we know how great you look, how great is your personality, and how much some of us would like to see you performing in a porn movie there are some many aspects you need to take into consideration.

First, you need to bare in mind that once you go down that road there's no turning back. You will get used to the amount of money you're making and will spend accordingly, maybe you'll get rid of your current debt but you'll always have debts and I don't think anyone else doesn't have debts. Because you'll be making more money you'll think, I want a better life, which you deserve, but when you think to stop you will have to think that you'll be back to the way you're living now and you'll say no way I won't and you'll carry on doing it because you have to and you need to.

Second, your social life will be different also. Most of your time will be filming. Maybe you're saying, no I will be only doing few scenes and that's it, but then you'll say it wouldn't hurt doing few more scenes and you get carried on. So you need to think about it, how deep you'll go into the industry, then you'll need to think the quality of movies and all that. Plus you will have to probably move and leave your current job and the more money you're making might not be enough and I'll tell you why in my next point.

The last point I want to mention here is maybe the most important one. You know how many crimes are being commited against transgendered by twisted criminals. You being in a movie will make it public that you are a transgendered and will put you in danger and you know that. You will have to move to a place which is safe, there might be places that you can't visit alone due to that danger. Are you willing or ready to face all that??

That's what I have to say on this subject. Now it's up to you to put the advantages and desadvantages of it and you decide accordingly. Whether you decide to go ahead with it and do it or you decide not to get involved in the adult industry, I will be one of the people who will be there for you and help you out with advice whenever needed.

[smc]

Fran has said everything that needs to be said.