Once again I met the ignorance...

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by Bionca

One bit that seriously gets me is how totally impossible it is to have an organic relationship. Relationships center on being trans* - either BECAUSE of it, or IN SPITE of it. I can't just go out, have chemistry with a guy, and see what comes next.

I guess that by the sentence "either BECAUSE of it" you refer to guys who're basicly only in it for the sex?

I actually don't think it's impossible at all to have a very organic and absolutely sane relationship. Yes, ofcourse, we've talked about transsexuality - it would be kinda strange if we didn't - and yes, we most likely wouldn't have had a relationship at all, if it weren't for her transsexuality and my obvious attraction to "the third gender". But the relationships have been based on exactly the same aspects that I guess most people's relationships are based on: namely giant boobies, a big ass and comparing dick-sizes... Oh well...

No seriously, her transsexuality is ofcourse not in itself enough to base a relationship on. As being a woman (cisgendered) or a man aren't either. And I do dare postulate that I've had some pretty sane and deep relationships with some pretty sane and deep ladies - of what ever gender, I can even say. The dynamics of a good relationship are not genderrelated, I believe...

Or am I completely wrong here...?

H