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03-01-2009
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So here's REALITY CHECK 4 for you... The fact that she just wants to know when and where and that's all she cares about -- in other words, she's not interested in talking to you a lot more beforehand, in order to "know you" as a person -- should really ram home the point that this is ONLY a business deal for her. She's going to show up, make you feel good, get you off...at which point you pay, she leaves. Wham! Bam! Thank you, Ma'am! So, it's sort of ironic that you used the phrase "to go so fast" because that's exactly what SHE wants to see happen. She DOES want it to go fast. Again, she's NOT coming to see you to cuddle with you on the couch while watching TV and to chat. NOR is she looking to spend lots of time getting to know you. From what you wrote, I get the impression that deep down inside you'd still like your "first time" to be a bit special... ...Unfortunately, she's looking at her "when and where" watch on her wrist and the comic book thought balloon that is floating over her head REALLY says: "I hope this kid cums fast. I have a 3:00 after this guy, and if I can get through them both by 5:00 then I can work in that guy who just emailed me. Heck, maybe I can even get in that other guy who just left a message on my machine as well. I thought there were only going to be two today, but my bank account will be much happier if I can fuck all 4 of these guys by 9:00." Gee, for a "first time", it doesn't sound so special when it gets put THAT way, does it, pal? Quote:
At which point Ben Stiller goes wide-eyed and asks "What are you talking about?" and Chris Elliot shakes his head and says "You mean all this time you've been going out on dates with a loaded gun? Don't you know that the ONLY time when a man thinks clearly...when he can hold a conversation with a woman and actually talk to her as a woman... is AFTER he's blown his load? For guys, that's the only time when we DO think straight!" To which Ben Stiller replies "You're right! No wonder my dates always go bad! I've been going out with a loaded gun!" So, as Chris Elliot accurately rattles off the terms, go choke the chicken, spank the monkey, flog the dolphin, or unload the gun before you do something now that you'll regret later. Because not to sound too girly here, even for a man your "first time" should be fun and romantic and special and a cherished memory, and so many more things. I know you might feel anxious to "do it"...you might feel it's something you need to do for all sorts of personal reasons all your own...but not to sound TOO old or fatherly here (hey, I'm not that old!), I'm just saying you should do it for the right reasons and because it's something YOU are ready for and because you are doing it with someone you WANT to share yourself with, on THAT intimate a level. And here's my other 2 cents: anyone here who is telling you to just "go for it" and go with your urges and NOT think things through doesn't have your best interests at heart and is only thinking with an sexual urge. It's almost as if they want to get off vicariously THROUGH you. It's like they want you to go have sex and then come back and post about your "first time" -- with a TS no less! -- which will then give them a possible hot post to stroke off to. Which is utterly silly. You don't need any of that, pal. This is YOUR life and this should be YOUR special moment and, in the end, this will be YOUR cherished memory for life. Or at least it should be a cherished memory. And that's the other thing to remember: this is a ONE TIME deal. You don't get a "do over" and there is NO rewind button. What happens will always be your first time -- whether it comes with happiness OR regrets. So with that in mind, since you seem a bit nervous or questioning right now and (by your own admission) your mind is saying "Nooooo", maybe you should wait a bit longer until the time IS right or you DO find that one special person to lose your virginity to. Gee, would I be TOO old fashioned to say you should at least wait till it's someone you actually love? My point is, this should be as spectacular as YOU want it to be. And there's nothing wrong with waiting. Hey, compared to you, I didn't lose my virginity till a few years out -- until after I was out of college and in my early twenties. But you know what? It was great and I'll always remember her and that's something no one can ever take away from me. So don't let anyone take it away from you either, pal. Quote:
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So, yes, I think you just answered your own question. Again! Anyway, sorry I wrote so much, but I thought this was an important topic to discuss. Best to you, pal, and I hope that no matter what you do, it turns out all right! 
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03-02-2009
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wow, creativemind i really appreciate that reply, it definitely helped.
i decided to not do it.. the night i wrote that, a few minutes later the chicken was choked, and it's very true, the mind thinks much clearer. it was probably written out of my sexual urge if anything... now that i'm thinking clearly, i think about how it would actually be if i went through with it and i can't stand the thought of actually doing it anymore. taking into consideration every little detail, from how i would greet her, to how i would walk, to my body posture, to the thought of going into her home and feeling like i'm in a foreign place... i don't even think i'd be able to get my dick hard to honest now that i think about it. not to mention the std's. getting std's my first time? hah that'd be a trip. screw it. i'll just keep my money and use it for something worth while. i would love for my first to be a genetic girl just for the sake of tradition i suppose (don't get me wrong, i love real girls just as much if not more as tgirls), but sometimes i doubt my own ability to talk to girls. i go to college so there's plenty there, but it's still tough. especially when i don't know how to keep a conversation flowing with a girl. as for the emotional thing, about having some sort of desire for a connection instead of just sex, i realize that it'll never happen with a hooker. and just for masculinity's sake, i don't really care much when it comes to all that shit, but sure it would be nice. so that's another reason to stay away for now i guess? anyway, i'm pretty sure i'm just gonna wait. pron is really a brilliant thing, and should be praised by psychologists, therapists, and scientists, lol because it can really keep you from doing some stupid stuff. Last edited by guest; 03-02-2009 at 12:37 AM.
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03-02-2009
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Your 18 and your sence of sencibilities is telling you what you already know
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03-02-2009
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don't worry honey,
I'ts better to have regret of something you've done than have regret that you it never done. Just try once if you like it go on if you don't you didn't wasting years of doubting if you would like i or not. much love kendra
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03-02-2009
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03-02-2009
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pal-
Creative Mind probably gave you the best advice ever. As a general rule, that voice in your head is telling you something important. Maybe you really aren't at a point where you can handle the mind-fuck that comes from sex with a trans*woman (it happens.. trust me). Maybe you are telling yourself that your first time shouldn't be a financial arrangement. Dismiss it or not, but you will always remember your first time as long as you live. You may eventually have hundreds of partners of all genders in every imaginable way and combination. They can become a blur of naked flesh and you may forget names, dates, and places... but your first time will always be clear as the day it happened. Do what you need to, but remember that will only happen once in your life.
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