Thread For Our Bionca

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by Talvenada

BIONCA:

You are in a difficult spot: between a dog and a tree!

It's akin to a half breed, where the white relatives disown you, as do the black relatives.

Gay guys are attracted to guys who are masculine, which leaves straight guys attracted to females.

I don't envy your perplexing situation w/ relatives, friends, co-workers, etc., and there have been SRS's who have changed back after that 1st change.

So, the question is which is heavier the positives or the negatives, regarding your transition? Is there more good or more bad, as opposed to being where you were B4 your transition?

Please, elaborate your pluses and minuses.

Also, some of the other girls could chime in as well, please.

This is a good question actually, and one that I have asked myself a couple times. For me, transition was neither "good" nor "bad" but critical. Transitioning my body mentally/emotionally puts me at a base-level of functioning within my own body/life from a profound negative. It allowed me to live life at a comparative level with the rest of people who are not constantly wishing they were dead, planning how best to end it all, not to mention having no emotional relationship with their own bodies.

That could be seen as a positive, and I count it as such, in as much as any medical procedure is a positive when it improves the quality of a person's life. So, I can function daily at an even level with the rest of people free to bungle or improve my life as I will - and I have done both.

The down side is that transitioning has complicated some pretty basic and important things. I can't just get any old job - HAVE to make sure the company won't fire the tranny. Dating is complicated to say the least. Other relationships are also complicated by me being trans.

On the positive, I had to develop humor, a thick skin, a razor-keen survival instinct, and I think I can relate to people better having done what I did. Being trans has increased the empathy I feel for people and has given me a genuine desire to help others.

I also can honestly say I am at a place where I don't cringe when I look in the mirror. Not only that, but I can see someone who is kinda cute, has made her life worth something, and who is worthy of respect. None of those could have happened without transitioning.