dream came true - now what

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by horizontal

we have all been there....we have an ideal girl in mind,and we know exactly what we are going to do and how its going to turn out

but it never actually happens

and then it did. dream girl in every respect gets me into bed and the rest is fantastic - but why did she do it - and what happens now?

a bit more information but forgive the secrecy - i do not want to blow this one....i'm a mid forties healthy well built (in a sporty way) guy, not bad looking (so the ladies say), and with a family behind me but still in my life, so i limit my activities to absolute discretion and nobody i know knows what i like and what i do occasionally. disgustingly rich but keep it very well hidden

she is twenties and drop dead gorgeous, petite, looks like a girl when she wants to be a boy, clever, sorted mentally (unlike many),

she is filipina and working and studying in uk.

so why does she want to go out with me? she is surrounded by the london tranny world with what must look like much better prospects, younger, fitter, better looking, more likely partners - i cant ever be a long term prospect and i cant leave the rest of my life behind, which i would have to do, and she knows this

and i have no idea what to do next now that reality has struck -

so the question is, guys'n'gals and inbetweenies, does anyone have any experience of filipina ladyboys living abroad, and what should i be looking out for here - the obvious one is the money bit, but dont let that stop anyone commenting on the money thing - and as i said earlier she wouldnt know anything about what i have - but as her english is so good she may be able to distinguish accents and detect posh.

heeeeeeeelllllllllllllllllllpppppppppppppppppppppp pppppppp

Maybe she actually likes you!!!

Seriously, enjoy it and let it take its route. Maybe the London tranny world is not all there is for her - maybe she's just a normal, nice woman who fell for you and wants a normal, nice relationship...

H

[horizontal]

thanks - i will make the most of it.

the real question is ...is there anything i should know about filipina in general - i have a fairly good idea of thai culture and what is and isn't true and too good to be true but no idea about filipina -

any one know what i should know?

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by horizontal

thanks - i will make the most of it.

the real question is ...is there anything i should know about filipina in general - i have a fairly good idea of thai culture and what is and isn't true and too good to be true but no idea about filipina -

any one know what i should know?

I think I mistakenly posted my initial answer wrongly... here it is... I'm a bit confused now. BUT Asian ladyboys are neither worse nor better than any one else...

I do know a thing or two about Asian trans-women... and though it by many (not just trans-girls) is considered quite natural that the "rich Westerner" picks up the bill, then it's not so always. Far from.

However, do consider the cultural differences. Southeast Asia is still rather traditional in its views on who makes the money. Female emancipation is on its way up but nowhere nearly as far as in the West. So for many women it is still a goal in itself to find a man who can actually support her (and sometimes her family too).

And there's nothing wrong about that.

However, ofcourse you also find scammers deliberately trying to trick money out of people.

Where your chat friend fits in I obviously don't know, but I can personally and from my honest heart GUARANTEE you that there are so many sweet, wonderful and kind trans-women here in Asia who just long for a REAL relationship with a man who will love her in a normal and honest way.

So may I suggest that you widen your chatting activities and take your time. But be prepared to "pick up the bill" if and when you find a trans-girl you hit it off with. Either by going to visit her or by inviting her to you. Very few Asian transsexual women have the funds needed for travelling.

H

[horizontal]

luckily this girl is in the uk and we met in person

[Bionca]

Well the fact she is the in UK and attending school indicates that she is probably better off financially than the majority of people in the Philippines. She is probably going to school so she can avoid having to depend on men to make a living. She may be in a position where money is tight, and as Hank said, there is a cultural expectation as to the courtship roles (the guys pay etc..)

There is no monolithic Trans* anything, just as there is no monolithic Asian, or European anything. She probably fancies you and that is the sum total of her motives.