Need Advice Please - TS Girlfriend

[randolph]

Originally Posted by Rachel

You'll have to come to New Jersey for that. Our gas is cheaper here. Only 2.00 a gallon right now for premium.

OK, I'll pay for the gas but what about the snow and ice?

:D

[Bionca]

This is tough... Personally I have seen so many guys get taken by Internet Trans-gals it really makes me angry. The thing is I have seen guys get taken by trans-gals who weren't even Trans* or gals or even in the country they claimed. A few years ago I was a member of a site where these three cute Thai gals were working scads of guys. It turned out they were all one guy in Arazona.

My first thought is trust your gut. My second thought is to put Internet stuff in perspective. It seems that Internet relationships develop really fast and go from zero to love in a month or two (I've been there too). Think about what you would do if a girl you saw for a couple hours a week on a date started to ask you to pay her rent. Would you?

You have the option to give her money and hope for the best. That's an option and it could be the case. She may really love you and happens to be in a super dire state right now and is looking for a little help. Personally, I've been is super dire straits and I would never ever think of asking anyone I had never met face to face to help me out.

I guess my point is, I have seen the aftermath of a broken-hearted guy who had his dreams shattered. Be aware when a gal asks you for money when the nature of the relationship is not economic.

[hankhavelock]

I do know a thing or two about Asian trans-women... and though it by many (not just trans-girls) is considered quite natural that the "rich Westerner" picks up the bill, then it's not so always. Far from.

However, do consider the cultural differences. Southeast Asia is still rather traditional in its views on who makes the money. Female emancipation is on its way up but nowhere nearly as far as in the West. So for many women it is still a goal in itself to find a man who can actually support her (and sometimes her family too).

And there's nothing wrong about that.

However, ofcourse you also find scammers deliberately trying to trick money out of people.

Where your chat friend fits in I obviously don't know, but I can personally and from my honest heart GUARANTEE you that there are so many sweet, wonderful and kind trans-women here in Asia who just long for a REAL relationship with a man who will love her in a normal and honest way.

So may I suggest that you widen your chatting activities and take your time. But be prepared to "pick up the bill" if and when you find a trans-girl you hit it off with. Either by going to visit her or by inviting her to you. Very few Asian transsexual women have the funds needed for travelling.

H