Your girlfrend/wife a SUBSTIUTE SHEMALE?

[tlover]

Sounds like hes he's up to some of my tricks, i think you know he is definitely into shemales but he wont admit it, he's probably afraid of your reaction to it.
But it sounds like your not totally uncomfortable with the situation, i fact i think you are getting a bit of a kick out of it.
I would love my girlfriend to be as accepting about it but i think she would be upset.
I recon given time you will both come to accept this part of his sexuality.

I don't want to upset you but it could something much more than just a small part of his sexuality mabey he has been hiding this for a long time and its become a major part of his life.
I think you need to find out just how far he is involved, especially since you both seem to very open to each other normally where sex is concerned, why has this changed?

[Imconfused]

Originally Posted by tlover

Sounds like hes he's up to some of my tricks, i think you know he is definitely into shemales but he wont admit it, he's probably afraid of your reaction to it.
But it sounds like your not totally uncomfortable with the situation, i fact i think you are getting a bit of a kick out of it.
I would love my girlfriend to be as accepting about it but i think she would be upset.
I recon given time you will both come to accept this part of his sexuality.

I don't want to upset you but it could something much more than just a small part of his sexuality mabey he has been hiding this for a long time and its become a major part of his life.
I think you need to find out just how far he is involved, especially since you both seem to very open to each other normally where sex is concerned, why has this changed?

I am trying very hard to accept all of him, the only thing is ( and I am not the one with a problem as far as communicating goes) he won't open up and talk to me. I will admit that I am a little hurt that he would rather wank off watching shemales rather then making love to me. He watches his porno dvd every chance he gets. I kind of feel rejected. I told him I was hurt and felt rejected and he told me to throw his shemale dvd away he didn't need it. Though I know he had another one before and I will admit when I first found it I was sickened by it. (till I read up on alot and also came here) So I scratched the dvd and well, he got another one. I know that he can not live without his shemale dvd and if I throw the one he has away, he will only go and buy another one. Even after telling him my ideas and such, he has been silent.
Last night I dressed up sexy and went into the bedroom and got into bed, he told me he loved me and rolled over and went to sleep. Then he has the nerve to ask if I am mad at him. I got upset went into the bathroom took everything off and got fully dressed ( bra,shirt,panties and shorts)and then went back to bed. What was I suppose to do. I started crying but he didn't care.
All I can say as yeah I know his likes and have been very accepting of him and have been trying to indulge him and I get nothing. I don't know what else there is that I can do.
At first I thought that his facinaction with shemales was small, but being honest with myself I think it goes alot further then that. I think he would like to be with one and also I feel if he had ever gotten or gets the chance to, he will.
( I know this has nothing to do with it well the topic I mean) we have been together for over two years (living) and I brought up marriage and he said he wasn't ready to commit to me. I think and feel that his fascination with shemales has something to do with that.
He's an incredible man outside the bedroom but if he can't show me love then he will lose the only person that may know about his facination and someone who was/is willing to accept and indulge in his fantasies. I don't know what more I can do.

[tlover]

If hes still not responding to you and as you have tried talking to him about it and indulging him i don't think there is much more you can do just now.
Perhaps he needs more time, mabey his interest in shemales has become a bit of an obsession and hes trying to get his head around it just as much as you are.

I know with my gf there was a period when became a bit obsessed with tgirls and was myself wanking off a lot to it and i neglected her a bit, but we where also going through a bit of a lull in the bedroom anyway, now things have returned to normal.
I have come to realize my obsession is now a bit like a hobby a pastime not a life choice, just another part of my sexuality.
I know one thing for sure, I'm very glad she doesnt know about it, i think it would cause just as much upset as you are feeling now.
Maybe your boyfriend is very upset you know about it and you bringing it up.

I think you need to cool down about it and give things time before you have ago at him again.
He is probably confused and you are felling rejected i think you both need time to think things through.

Just my humble opinion, mabey someone else has got some ideas on your problem.

[Imconfused]

He says he doesn't want the dvd anymore. I know he does. I am sure he will go buy a new one. and try and hide it from me. See a few months ago I found a dvd and the name of it was she d!cks and I scratched it, then I went and founf this one he has. So I know he likes shemales. I guess it is just a matter of time that he admits it. So I guess for now the only thing for me to do is leave it alone.
But I still think if I went into the bedroom with a strap on that might make him hard, cause yesterday when I was talking about shemales he got hard...But anyways

[tlover]

Originally Posted by Imconfused

He says he doesn't want the dvd anymore. I know he does. I am sure he will go buy a new one. and try and hide it from me. See a few months ago I found a dvd and the name of it was she d!cks and I scratched it, then I went and founf this one he has. So I know he likes shemales. I guess it is just a matter of time that he admits it. So I guess for now the only thing for me to do is leave it alone.
But I still think if I went into the bedroom with a strap on that might make him hard, cause yesterday when I was talking about shemales he got hard...But anyways

I think you shouldn't worry to much about the dvd, all men look at porn its that visual sex thing, it doesnt mean to much to a man.
Women are more stimulated my the mind.
I think you need to worry more about the no sex thing.
Maybe you could try the strap-on, i think you need to introduce it with bit of humor to ease the tension.
Maybe you could say something like- ill show you a real good time, better than them tgirls can!
Just a suggestion, i think your both in need of a giggle.

[vapour159]

Originally Posted by Imconfused

He says he doesn't want the dvd anymore. I know he does. I am sure he will go buy a new one. and try and hide it from me. See a few months ago I found a dvd and the name of it was she d!cks and I scratched it, then I went and founf this one he has. So I know he likes shemales. I guess it is just a matter of time that he admits it. So I guess for now the only thing for me to do is leave it alone.
But I still think if I went into the bedroom with a strap on that might make him hard, cause yesterday when I was talking about shemales he got hard...But anyways

you say you confronted him about his dvd and scratched two is probably sending him the wrong message its like saying you don't approve although you say you don't mind if his longing for a shemale is so strong (if your up for it?) test him take him to a bar where they may be a chance of a meeting go along with it it may be a itch he needs to scratch (be sure your ok with this first any doubts don't do) one time maybe enough to get it out of his system if not and your ok with it as long as your there go with it it could be the best thing youv'e done

[Imconfused]

Originally Posted by vapour159

you say you confronted him about his dvd and scratched two is probably sending him the wrong message its like saying you don't approve although you say you don't mind if his longing for a shemale is so strong (if your up for it?) test him take him to a bar where they may be a chance of a meeting go along with it it may be a itch he needs to scratch (be sure your ok with this first any doubts don't do) one time maybe enough to get it out of his system if not and your ok with it as long as your there go with it it could be the best thing youv'e done

He would never got to a bar. He doesn't go any where. The only place he will be going if he hasn't already is the Adult dvd store to buy another porno. (cause he told me to take the other one away) The first one he didn't know I knew about it or didn't know I scratched it

[tlover]

My gf was very horny last night and i ended up using her as a substitute shemale again.
She likes to finish off on top sometimes sort of half lying on top, and as she did last night i opened my legs a bit, as she rode up and down faster and faster i opend my legs wide open pulling her into me harder and harder.
It felt like she was fucking me as her thighs rubbed between mine and her hips pounded into my arse.
I imagined she was fucking me with Daniels foxxes cock, all big and fat, she seems to suit Daniels cock.
It was fantastic i didn't want it to stop, then she cum twice, she loved it after a while i had a great orgasm.
I wish i could get her to wear a strap-on that would be great, but i feel all guilty again now.

[BlueRaven88]

Originally Posted by tlover

I have come to realize my obsession is now a bit like a hobby a pastime not a life choice, just another part of my sexuality.

haha not me. im at the point of no return i cant be with a normal girl now cos im only interested in shemales. its only a matter of time before i tell my family about it, and i will probably marry a shemale when im a little older (its legal in canada, spain, and i heard from my TS-girlfriend that its legal in hong kong aswell, but i dont know about that) so yeah but not everyone is like me, and some people may never be as far 'advanced' in what i like to call T-Fever (or, to rip off Resident Evil, the T Virus )

Originally Posted by Imconfused

He says he doesn't want the dvd anymore. I know he does. I am sure he will go buy a new one. and try and hide it from me. See a few months ago I found a dvd and the name of it was she d!cks and I scratched it, then I went and founf this one he has. So I know he likes shemales. I guess it is just a matter of time that he admits it. So I guess for now the only thing for me to do is leave it alone.
But I still think if I went into the bedroom with a strap on that might make him hard, cause yesterday when I was talking about shemales he got hard...But anyways

well, maybe you should try going in to him wearing a big strap on? i mean if you're really trying to accept and accommodate his obsession/fascination, then why not 'pop the cherry' as it were? by what you say, it doesn't sound like things could get much worse in the sex department for you. if this doesn't sound like something you could do, or something that doesn't work out, then the relationship probably won't work out if hes gone so far as to the point of no return (where i am, or past, at the moment) then my advice then would be to find someone else who can satisfy you and isn't into ladyboys/shemales/tgirls etc.

just my two cents

[warblade]

Well dude you probably are the few lucky ones who can pull that off

[warblade]

Well I don't knoe if would be able to tell her the truth or I don't have the corage to do it; I know it will break her heart. I love her to death... it just I can't keep my mind off Joy, I don't know there is something about Joy that drives me crazy