Grumblings

ila · #1 01-05-2009

Oh my gosh Bionca, my heart aches for you. That is not love. That is not even friendship. It was very callow of him to bring up your personal affairs at all. Drinking is no excuse either. It should be left to you as to what you want to reveal and when. That is not someone who has your best interests in mind nor will he ever protect you the way he should. His brother was also very rude, to put it mildly.

Amy · #2 01-05-2009

I'm going with the DTMFA consensus here.

randolph · #3 01-05-2009

Dear Bionca,
You sound like such a nice lovable person. The male ego can be cruel and insensitive. His behavior suggests that he is very unsure of his own male identity, actually goes for all male egos, the more macho they are the more insecure they are. I hope you can find a kind gentle male lover that is comfortable with who you are. They are out there but not many in bars.

cham · #4 01-05-2009

You are too good for him. Dump him!

Cham

jimmyblaze1 · #5 01-05-2009

first off I'd just like to say WOW you're stunning!

2ndly, this guy sounds pretty insecure in himself and his choice to be with you...not secure enough in himself to just cast off the jokes his brother etc makes and tell him to knock it off like he should.
Maybe he does actually tell the truth - that he DOES really like you BUT my guess is he's gone into that "scared little boy who makes bad stupid judgements" mode...I reckon so.
Sad...maybe talk to him about it? Yes I reckon this option...if you like him more than "very casual" as you say, which I think you might as you've let it get to you this much, then talk to him kitten =/

The saying shit about your sexlife while drunk?...well - just a stupid macho thing us guys do...surprised it's in FRONT of you, not when you weren't around but hey.
I first skimmed this and was like WOAH his brother sounds like a complete DICK! Then I read his brothers gay, and changed my mind...
HE'S A BITCH! lol, I've seen this before a bit - a fair bunch of gays think ill of trannies, same with lesbians...they're just idiots, pay no attention, you're beautiful. And you should know that! Why else would you post such a radiant pic as your Avatar? huh?

Anyways these are far from words of wisdom I'm too tired to really be eloquent, but if you like him talk, if you think about it and it's NOT worth it and you'd be better off without then move on.
Take care, hope everything goes alright either way :D

ladyboyadmirer · #6 01-22-2009

Quote:

Originally Posted by cham

You are too good for him. Dump him!

Cham

I agree with Cham's abridged version. Hugs &

to you Bionca