It's not all about sex and orgasm...

[smolderingtemptress]

Just please figure it out and deal with it BEFORE you decide to get with a tgirl. There's nothing worse than a guy freaking out after you've had sex because he feels "gay". Kills the mood, and wastes both people's time.

[Leggmann81]

I understand your confusion. When you grow up having people tell you that it's not normal or not natural to have these feelings, you can't help feeling that your doing something wrong ... even though your not. Sex is a spectrum of colors, not just black & white. Everybody falls somewhere in that spectrum, and what you need to work out is where exactly you fall inside it.

[WudLuv2try]

I think it's very true that 'sexuality' is like spectrum, like Leggman81 says...

There's 'Male' in one end, and then there's 'Female' on the other end. And in between, myriads of possibilities.

I think the special thing about Trans-sexuality is that it explores the possibilities in betweens... and not be extreme.

[WudLuv2try]

"Everybody falls somewhere in that spectrum, and what you need to work out is where exactly you fall inside it." --- Leggmann81

If the 'spectrum' logic could be applied to 'orgasm' as it does to 'sexuality', it would be much easier to work out where we fall inside...

[randolph]

Originally Posted by WudLuv2try

I think it's very true that 'sexuality' is like spectrum, like Leggman81 says...

There's 'Male' in one end, and then there's 'Female' on the other end. And in between, myriads of possibilities.

I think the special thing about Trans-sexuality is that it explores the possibilities in betweens... and not be extreme.

The following is part of an erotic story I have written about transexuality.

Randolph finished breakfast and sat down at his laptop computer to work on his journal. As he thought about the events of last evening, he began to wonder about his sexuality. The experience with Kim rattled his mind. Was he gay? It never entered his mind that she was a shemale until she revealed herself. Everything about her seemed female, her looks, her voice and her demeanor. Yet, once he got over the shock of seeing her cock, he enjoyed sucking it. He thought to himself, if I am gay, why do I love Misha and love having sex with her? If I am not gay why do I like sex with Kim? He thought about these seemingly conflicting feeling for sometime without resolving anything.

He decided to go for a walk, perhaps he to get a better idea of how to relate to these feelings. He began thinking of an article he read about chimpanzees and Bonobos. Sex for Chimps is pretty much fucking a female Chimp in heat.
The Bonobos are different, they exchange sexual favors with various members of the group. Apparently, it is there way of resolving conflicts without violence. They pair off to mate and have babies but they also enjoy sex with male and female partners. Randolph thought perhaps humans were originally more like Bonobos before religion and culture established rules and mores to control our behavior. If that is the case then his pleasure with Kim does not mean he is gay but it can be natural to love someone sexually when the energy is right.
Amazingly, he has met two people who also seem to believe this way, who love sharing their sexuality with people they like. Randolph was beginning to feel that this is a very good way to experience sexual pleasure.

[WudLuv2try]

I've read the first part of that story... wasn't aware you were the writer.

Thanks for the later part of the story.