Would a TS escorting rule out romance?

[plblove]

I don't think it matters if she is an escort when you meet, as long as one is able to accept that when that relationship develops that she would consider not doing it anymore and letting me take care of her, but if she would want to continue the work after we were in a relationship I would have to think about staying if she wanted to keep working.

[bigforarse]

Ok none of this maters wheter its tgirl or your wife or gf. None of this bs phycholigal mumbo jumbo means anything.
Any relationship, no matter what, LOVE, TRUST, RESPECT and TOTAL HONESTY.
If u have all those nothing matters at all outside of that, ie if that means having sex as a job, or for pleasure so what?
If anyone knew real love u would understand that no questions or dilemmas need apply!

Originally Posted by bigforarse

Ok none of this maters wheter its tgirl or your wife or gf. None of this bs phycholigal mumbo jumbo means anything.
Any relationship, no matter what, LOVE, TRUST, RESPECT and TOTAL HONESTY.
If u have all those nothing matters at all outside of that, ie if that means having sex as a job, or for pleasure so what?
If anyone knew real love u would understand that no questions or dilemmas need apply!

Well thats pretty elitist and offers nothing to the conversation. Fact is, being a sex worker does complicate things and that is the purpose of the poll. You guys need to stop swimmimng in fantasyland and think about the reality. You guys speak in idealistic terms and describe a near perfect universe where men respect and treat TS wonderfully but the reality is it's all talk. Ther reality is you are in your cubicle and the boss is not watching so you can mutter a few grand thoughts to the crowd in between projects.

I'm sick of the false reality I smell on this forum and I'm gonna keep it fresh and real. Most of you have not even dated a TS let alone had a relationship with one.

[bigforarse]

Ok some people need to calm down. I may have been misunderstood, but i was not talking about a stand point of tgirls I was talking about human beings. And whether it is a tgirl or a wife, or a husband, gf, bf, etc it really doesnt matter.
Because the bottom line is this, no matter who your other half is, if u have full unconditional trust and love then it doesnt matter a damn what either partner does for a living!
Maybe people should sort out their regular relationships before waxing lytical about grandious social gestures. We are all humans in a hard world, the very few lucky ones who find real love do not ever need to worry about support or love because their other half who ever they maybe will ALWAYS be there.
Life is not a game its real. Best of luck to all!

Everything you say is true and goes into the "so what" category.

Because the essence of my quesition is, imagine your true love, the one you hold so much unconditional love for, admiration, attraction and devotion, imagine if that woman was spreading her legs three, four times a day for complete strangers. Imagine if she were driving to hotel rooms at three in the morning, leaving your bed for someone else's. Now imagine that. Don't speak in concepts, which is all I see so far, really imagine it happening. The woman you love, the woman you built a life with. She's sucking off strangers. She may even be liking it.

Now I would like a real reply.

[smolderingtemptress]

As a Tgirl who is actually trying to do something with her life, going to college and avoiding sex work, I'm appalled at the acceptance people have of this profession. Transsexual girls and women are EXTREMELY susceptible to the lure of escorting, hooking, whatever, even more so than genetic women, because other Tgirls who are supposed to be teaching them end up promoting this kind of job instead of pushing them toward a good work ethic.

You can be a tgirl and have a legal career (remember, prostitution is illegal in some areas) and earn your money legitimately. A few other tgirl friends of mine agree that when people begin to accept escorting, it does nothing to get girls out of it.

It's nice that we can look past what people do, but honestly, the chances for STDs are high, the chances of having a dangerous encounter with a client are high, and it's a risky business. It's better to encourage our fellow tgirls to try and make something of themselves instead of falling into the much stereotyped role of "tranny prostitute". It makes those of us who are trying to break through that caricature frustrated!

Originally Posted by smolderingtemptress

As a Tgirl who is actually trying to do something with her life, going to college and avoiding sex work, I'm appalled at the acceptance people have of this profession. Transsexual girls and women are EXTREMELY susceptible to the lure of escorting, hooking, whatever, even more so than genetic women, because other Tgirls who are supposed to be teaching them end up promoting this kind of job instead of pushing them toward a good work ethic.

You can be a tgirl and have a legal career (remember, prostitution is illegal in some areas) and earn your money legitimately. A few other tgirl friends of mine agree that when people begin to accept escorting, it does nothing to get girls out of it.

It's nice that we can look past what people do, but honestly, the chances for STDs are high, the chances of having a dangerous encounter with a client are high, and it's a risky business. It's better to encourage our fellow tgirls to try and make something of themselves instead of falling into the much stereotyped role of "tranny prostitute". It makes those of us who are trying to break through that caricature frustrated!

That's an easy story to tell, especially coming from a faceless nameless person who claims to be TS living the life. Maybe you should read my story, you will see I was in senior real estate management for over 10 years. I did what few TS can do and when I finally made the transition was booted out again and again. Fired five times in six years. It finally dawned on me that being an escort was easier and better. Yes, better. Being an escort is not a bad job. In fact, it's better than any other job I've had and I've had good jobs. My story is an excellent benchmark for measurinhg the level of tolerance society has for TS.

STD's, drugs, those are easy ways to dismiss the industry. Fact is we provide a service. There are frustrated married guys all over the world dying for a half hour with a TS alone on a couch. So an attractive TS sees that opportunity and then sees the other side of the fence- a world where virtually no TS has ever held a high level position of authority. We dont get those jobs. That's why it is an easy lure if you're TS to becoming an escort. That's the only thing you've said I agree with.

[bigforarse]

Ok you asked for a real reply and here is my attempt at a real reply because I still think you are missing my point. Is this a crusade as to the hard life a lot of tgirls have or is this a general debate on lovers when one works in the sex industry. Because thats all it is ie an industry, a job, and so what if she likes it, wouldnt any loved one wish for their other half to enjoy their job! Obviously getting up at 3 am is hard work etc, but who hasnt worked a few night shifts or awkward hours.
I really have to say the bottom line yet again, if true love exists between 2 people then no matter what they do or happens doesnt matter because at the end of the day the partners in whatever combination are together as one.
I truly am sorry if the people arguing against me have not experienced this feeling of total and utter trust and love, but it really is there for anyone honest, and the best time to find it is when you are not looking for it.
Sorry to anyone I may offend.

Originally Posted by bigforarse

Ok you asked for a real reply and here is my attempt at a real reply because I still think you are missing my point. Is this a crusade as to the hard life a lot of tgirls have or is this a general debate on lovers when one works in the sex industry. Because thats all it is ie an industry, a job, and so what if she likes it, wouldnt any loved one wish for their other half to enjoy their job! Obviously getting up at 3 am is hard work etc, but who hasnt worked a few night shifts or awkward hours.
I really have to say the bottom line yet again, if true love exists between 2 people then no matter what they do or happens doesnt matter because at the end of the day the partners in whatever combination are together as one.
I truly am sorry if the people arguing against me have not experienced this feeling of total and utter trust and love, but it really is there for anyone honest, and the best time to find it is when you are not looking for it.
Sorry to anyone I may offend.

I think that was a more honest answer and thank you. My point was, because it sounds like you're not sure what I objected to, it's easy to say in idealistic terms "love conquers all". But in realisitic terms a man may not be so open-minded if he lives with and loves an escort. In theory, though I agree with you that love, respect, honesty and trust is the foiundation for any relationship.