Are TGals the marrying type?

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by LoverofShemales

Personally, if I found a woman who was interesting, funny, with a little sarcasm on the side and she just happend to have something extra... that would be cool! I wonder though, are Trans-women suspicious by nature when it comes to guys because of the booty call thing? and does that subsequently make it difficult for them to completely be themselves? Just thinking out loud?

Well, I can only go by my own history dating this past year after my break up. I have a hard-won suspicion of guys that I didn't have a year ago. What's the point in opening up to someone over dinner when you will won't see them again?

Most guys have the fantasy of being with a trans*woman and they play ut the date and probably fully believe that they will take a gal out for drinks and a movie and then get some nookie. They play it out that it develops into a steamy long-lasting affair (maybe even convince themselves they want a relationship). Then it dawns on them (probably at some point between making a date to meet and arriving) that their plans will involve the public, and eventually their friends and family.

The fantasy becomes a reality with the potential of ridicule and not quite so sexy. So, I have taken the position of "believe it when I see it".

[twistedone]

I gave up on any kind of marriage after my divorce 10 years ago. Not to say that people can't be happily married. Its just not my thing.

[Talvenada]

Originally Posted by Bionca

Well, I can only go by my own history dating this past year after my break up. I have a hard-won suspicion of guys that I didn't have a year ago. What's the point in opening up to someone over dinner when you will won't see them again?

So, I have taken the position of "believe it when I see it".

BIONCA,

The point is two-sided: it is your chance to present yourself to a potential lover/mate, and your chance to see/look for traits that you admire. It's a process of elimination that no one can escape from. It's the way we mate, and if we're lucky we get lucky--and that is not a physical reference.

Oh, it is out there, but the trick is finding it--is not easy.

[hankhavelock]

I ditto Mizzy B, and let me add that I've made a very good Danish chat friend who is a transsexual woman very politically active and doing a lot of important leg-work for improving conditions for gender recognition in Denmark. Even in Denmark, one of the supposedly most sexually liberal countries in the world, you still need full SRS to be recognized as an m2f-woman (or f2m-man for that matter).

That's of course totally absurd and so unsurprisingly based on laws made by the usual hetero fascist establisment to whom a dick sticks out of a MAN and a REAL woman has two million pussies... screw them... eeee... yikes... not really...

They never really got the point... gender identification happens between the ears... NOT between the legs.

Regarding marriage, sure, I think many transsexual women are ready for that - what ever legal manouvres are necessary to make it truly legal. I think they are about as ready as anyboby else.

I don't want to sound like a joy-killer here... but trans-women are really not all that special... oh, surely they are, but then again not really. A trans-girl is just a girl like any other girl. Yep, to me a trans-girl is the real deal and the kind of girl who just happens to like a guy like me, but when we strip it all down to the real issues of commitment and stuff, then a trans-girl differs little from a bio-girl in her needs and wants. A relationship with a transsexual woman differs from a relationship with a bio-girl, but only at the surface and maybe by the topics you two discuss in private. The mechanics are more or less the same. Surely, a trans-girlfriend brings a certain spice or edge into the relationship, and that is to be thoroughly enjoyed (what else is the whole point, really?), but in daily interaction the mechanics are the same.

So no, I cannot find a reason why you shouldn't be able to tie the knot legally with your transsexual girlfriend once you get that far. And should I be stupid enuff to say YES for the third time, well... then it will be, obviously, with a transsexual woman. Maybe that wouldn't be so stupid at all...

Peace!

H

Originally Posted by hankhavelock

A trans-girl is just a girl like any other girl.

And there you have it.

[donedeal230]

any girls would like to chat just let me know

[cockluva]

I hope one day to find, settle down and marry a beautiful t-girl, There's nothing better in the world when you love somebody and somebody loves you, A feeling i haven't had now for a very long time.

[suzie]

I would really love to marry the right man, but it's true to say that society does not take kindly to any gender issues, and being early in the transition phase I have found a lot of prejudice, so any man is also going to have to put up with it, for life. Are there any men out there who could stay the course? If so get in touch