Shemale "Stealth"/Transition Question

[FoxySarah]

I work for the Department of National Defense, which requires an extensive background check to recieve the proper government security clearance, so It's not exactly a secret to my bosses what my sex is.
I'm also aware of a Military Officer who is transgendered, in fact she was still male when she joined the Forces, and her Military Medical coverage actually payed for her transition. I'm not sure where you're from, but Canada is a very gay/lesbian/transgender-friendly place.

[D.W.]

I'm from the bahamas, I see so this whole stealth thing they talk about is for the individual who screw themselves up for being so proud about it. Thank you foxysarah makes me feel good that I can safely continue what I love to do.

[merelypink]

good luck hope it works out

[SweetCharmer]

welcome D.W. and as for everything to come i hope your life is full of joy and at any part you don't fell 100% just sit back and think that you are doing something you chose yourself and i'm sure people will understand

[D.W.]

I love this place.

[Talvenada]

Originally Posted by D.W.

I'm from the bahamas, I see so this whole stealth thing they talk about is for the individual who screw themselves up for being so proud about it. Thank you foxysarah makes me feel good that I can safely continue what I love to do.

DW,

If where you reside is not trans friendly, like it is for Foxy, you may have to relocate for your own happiness.

It's a what you get and what you give up situation.

[Talvenada]

DW,

How far do you want to go?

Pre-op? Post-op? Other?

[D.W.]

Pre-Op, I um...still want to have children.

[Talvenada]

Originally Posted by D.W.

Pre-Op, I um...still want to have children.

DEE DUBYA,

Have you reached pre-op, or how far away from it are you?

How many children do you desire?

Talk with you later,

TAL

[Mel Asher]

Originally Posted by D.W.

Pre-Op, I um...still want to have children.

Dear D.W.

Your course appears only part-formed, and consequently fraught with potential snags.

I understand your overwhelming desire to proceed to Pre-op, but first I would really strongly advise you to have several samples of your semen frozen as a stand-by.

Also, you do not yet know what effect castration will have on your Libido. It affects different people in different ways, and you may be left with a lovely but unco-operative tool between your legs, and hormone supplements / Viagra may not be enough to do the trick.

Are your planning a long-term outcome to this, or are you simply going to take things a step at a time, so-to-speak ? Your personal family life will be profoundly affected too. Loving and being loved comes into this of course.

I'm not trying to discourage you, really. If it's what you want and need, then go ahead - but tiptoe as you go !

Best regards

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by D.W.

Pre-Op, I um...still want to have children.

Then stay pre-op - get a mean set of tits and leave it at that.

I think, however, that you must to some extend "grow some hairs on those gorgeous titties" to be a tranny in a transfobic world.

But can you deal with all the hetero-harrassement, you'll be fine...

Best of Danish luck to you, my lady in spe!

H

[local]

Originally Posted by FoxySarah

I work for the Department of National Defense, which requires an extensive background check to recieve the proper government security clearance, so It's not exactly a secret to my bosses what my sex is.
I'm also aware of a Military Officer who is transgendered, in fact she was still male when she joined the Forces, and her Military Medical coverage actually payed for her transition. I'm not sure where you're from, but Canada is a very gay/lesbian/transgender-friendly place.

To quote an old Canadian Army recruiting slogan, "There's no life like it!"
PS FoxySarah is foxy!

[Amy]

It can be very difficult. The hardest thing when it comes to passing may be the knowledge that family friends and former co-workers all know. And the lingering doubt over who they may have told. It can make you ovrcompensate, I feel.

[zcat1956]

A very intersting post to me as someone who also seems to always be measuring "how far I will go if I ever got the courage". Not likely to happen outside my bedroom. (OK I do like to learn from here...http://steppingoutsecret.com/)
I used to work at a Midwest aerospace giant (in US) and when a distant office worker went surgical, the word went around like wildfire and NOBODY would agree to share a bathroom with "it". The company had to build one just for him/her. The incredible lack of charity among the workforce was appalling. These were good people I had worked with over a decade (but to whom I was not out). When I got to meet him/her online (anonymouse both ways), I was communicating with a very very mean spirited person, and part of me knew exactly why he/she was that way. I sort of admired the street smarts aspect, but never had any inclination to befriend this person who had found the courage to "take the jump". Too bad. A good mentor might have helped me decide to jump... before I grew such a beer belly, and a sarcastic attitude towards those who regard us as "lower than circus entertainment". The psycho-social wall is just that for me. A wall I cannot see over. I am energetically curious to explore "what it is like to transistion". Every detail of the story is interesting to me, as I measure "Will I ever take that walk?" Thanks. I do love this place.