Dislike of smales after masturbation?

[ocinteeni]

i think "guilt" was the wrong word entirely.... i know what i want and what i like... im just saying its a wierd feeling and i dont know why i get it.....

No I think guilt is the perfect word to describe what you are feeling. I have felt that way after cumming many times, not so much anymore. Over the years I have had to change my mindset from one that believed it was wrong for me to be attracted to transsexual women to one that knew it was ok. I believe the guilt can be a result from not wanting to disappoint your loved ones, like friends and family. I know for me I have always felt like if my family and friends knew of my true attraction they would disapprove and think less of me. This has conflicted with my attraction for transsexual women. And thats why when you are masturbating and your hormones and true feelings take over you disregard these ideas of disapproval and after you cum and its all over those ideas of your loved ones disapproval come rushing in and you feel awkward. Almost like your parents or friends have walked in on you jerking it to some tranny porno, but its truly your "after you cum mindset" that caught you in the act.

And I totally agree it would be unfair for the receiving end of this reaction. It is a personal dilemma that me and you have to deal with ourselves first before seeking out a transsexual relationship.

Maybe that helps, I know it is the mental dilemma I have faced. Perhaps you too...

[fatjeffrey]

Originally Posted by ocinteeni

No I think guilt is the perfect word to describe what you are feeling. I have felt that way after cumming many times, not so much anymore. Over the years I have had to change my mindset from one that believed it was wrong for me to be attracted to transsexual women to one that knew it was ok. I believe the guilt can be a result from not wanting to disappoint your loved ones, like friends and family. I know for me I have always felt like if my family and friends knew of my true attraction they would disapprove and think less of me. This has conflicted with my attraction for transsexual women. And thats why when you are masturbating and your hormones and true feelings take over you disregard these ideas of disapproval and after you cum and its all over those ideas of your loved ones disapproval come rushing in and you feel awkward. Almost like your parents or friends have walked in on you jerking it to some tranny porno, but its truly your "after you cum mindset" that caught you in the act.

And I totally agree it would be unfair for the receiving end of this reaction. It is a personal dilemma that me and you have to deal with ourselves first before seeking out a transsexual relationship.

Maybe that helps, I know it is the mental dilemma I have faced. Perhaps you too...

firstly a disclaimer.. im not trying to offend at all... im just speaking my mind


but you know...maybe ur right... i think most of the 'disgust' comes from me thinking too much, and thinking, they were men originally, and the thought of having sex with another man utterly disgusts me , especially as i dont find them attractive one bit, but an attractive shemale is very tempting...

[jimnaseum]

Here's a twist.
Sucking a cock is actually pretty easy, just like bending your own finger back til it snaps would be pretty easy, once you got past the mental alarm process.
How many of you would blow a little sweetheart like Sweet Shemale but would balk at blowing a black shemale? What about the stigma there?
I've been thinking lately about a big black cock but I really have mixed feelings. I've been out with black girls, but black dick seems taboo, I'm American. I wonder if it tastes any different. I'm trying to get my head around it.

[Bionca]

I had this huge post written about desire and guilt and social status and how that factored into relationshup of any sort with trans*women. The thing is, I wasn't able to word it in a way that didn't sound angry or attacking. I don't feel either of those things, but I think given my perspective it is hard not to come off that way.

Maybe this is one of those times when it's best to let the men speak....

[panic669]

I agree with the Freudic analysis about guilt, social acceptance etc.It raises a dilemma when your subconciousness says "avoid cocks of men, shemales, even strapons" but your whole nervous system says "bring it on", especially if it's attached to a hot shemale body! I'm not being gay by mentioning men, I just want to show that this applies to more than one areas of desire.

[jimnaseum]

At the battle of Cold Harbor (I think) Gen Robert E Lee flanked the Yankees three times in one day and it was like murder. I was surprised to hear him say "It is good that war is so terrible or we could grow to like it too much"
If I had a date with Bionca, I'd have to respect her. Friendship is expensive these days!
I'm lately leaning toward finding a thin-ass black ho with a big cock and making her my obedient sex slave. Screw her feelings. When I perfect my cock sucking technique she'll cum to respect the White Man.
In other words, if I want to do something nice I'll adopt a third world baby via Unicef. If I want to get off bigtime, I'll get me a little bitch that needs to be slapped around a little bit. This PC crap is making us all sissies. I'm gonna go out and kill me somethin! (not literally)
Shemales shouldn't make men feel like jerk-offs.
They should make men feel like the most baddest cats in the jungle.

[Loki]

I remember when I began watching shemale porn. At first it was just kind of a curiosity, which eventually led to masturbation. I recall a bit of guilt and awkwardness after orgasm. I have always considered myself straight and still do. I have never been attracted to men. So I can understand anyone that may feel a little confusion in the beginning. It did not take long for me to come to terms with my attraction to transsexuals. I am comfortable now with the fact that I am attracted to beautiful women who happen to have cocks.

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by jimnaseum

Shemales shouldn't make men feel like jerk-offs.
They should make men feel like the most baddest cats in the jungle.

Then men should stop being jerk-offs

You want to treat someone like a cheap whore, pay for it, do the deed and move on. No shame in that at all - just be honest with yourself and your partner so nobody gets hurt. That's not specifically directed at anyone.. just following the thought process.

[ladyboyadmirer]

Originally Posted by fatjeffrey

firstly a disclaimer.. im not trying to offend at all... im just speaking my mind ...

Yep Jeffrey, That's the very reason we join these forums, to speak our mind and to find answers to our questions. I didn't find your post at all offensive and I'm sure it wasn't taken as such. Some good replies made too. Regards