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Shemale Sex Lover, thanks for your reply. I admit, I too felt that the "Requirement" of disclosing gender was a bit odd. I don't have a problem revealing it myself, but quite honestly, that's the sort of question that I usually leave blank. However, that is also the sort of question that generally forces a person to pigeonhole themself into one of two limited categories. I was so relieved to go to a doctor's office that actually gave the option on the gender question to denote, "Transgender, Alternative," or "Prefer not to answer."

I understand where you're coming from, but given the unique nature of gender expression (especially in a forum such as this!) I would be tempted to AT LEAST add the option of "Prefer not to disclose." Or something along those lines...That way those people that prefer to remain more anonymous, or less forced into labeling themselves, still have that benefit. At the same time, if they get PM's that go against their conception of themselves, they can at least have HAD the opportunity of defining their gender from the outset.

In regards to the whole communication issue, all of my screen names are gender neutral...More as a matter of coincidence than by design. And that said, over my years of interacting with people on the internet, my gender has seldom been ANY sort of issue to hamper my ability to effectively communicate. But then again, my goal was never to pick up someone or date.
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I was arguing a point of principle on what should constitute a requirement for being on this forum. What's done is done, and I'm not sure most people are too fussed about this.

To be constructive I think that GRH makes a very good suggestion here:

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I understand where you're coming from, but given the unique nature of gender expression (especially in a forum such as this!) I would be tempted to AT LEAST add the option of "Prefer not to disclose." Or something along those lines...That way those people that prefer to remain more anonymous, or less forced into labeling themselves, still have that benefit. At the same time, if they get PM's that go against their conception of themselves, they can at least have HAD the opportunity of defining their gender from the outset.
By having an option along the lines of "Prefer not to disclose" then you're saying - 'we require members to select an option regarding gender identification because we believe it makes for better communication but if you prefer not to specify then you may choose not to disclose'.

Maybe "Prefer not to disclose" would be better put as "Gender undisclosed" or "Gender unstated" as this would make more sense when it appears with the username on posts.

Regarding more selection choices you could consider having "Other" and allowing people to type in their own description.

Well now I'm going to get off my high horse on this. I shall go and change my underwear and be a transvestite for the rest of the day.

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Thx, that clears that up. I've never understood before how the reputation thing works and I've been wondering what those green buttons are for. Every now and then I click on them hoping they'll take me to nirvana or somewhere but nothing happens!
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Do they? Highly debatable, I'm not sure how you can speak for all human beings. Certainly it can be the case when some people adopt different behavior towards the opposite sex that it's despicable. Also, surely it's not possible in some cases of gender self-identity to define an 'opposite'.
Its in the nature of things, my friend. Like poles repel, unlike attract. Haven't you ever heard of magnets?
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Its in the nature of things, my friend. Like poles repel, unlike attract. Haven't you ever heard of magnets?
Hmm..... er..... um.....
Magnets? Magnets magnets magnets magnets.... *scratch*.... er... um...
*stumped*..... magnets?..... *more coffee*...... er.... er.... *maybe*.....

Ok.... let's have a go.....

Magnets? Is that really a good metaphor for gender identity and how it affects behavioral interaction? I beg to disagree: *smug*

Magnets only have two poles, if we are talking about gender identity that doesn't scan. And if we're talking of attraction / repulsion what about all the vagaries in the toing and froing, all the points inbetween, it's not always as polarised as 'she loves me, she loves me not, she loves me, she loves me not'. And finally...
(*here's my really big gun haha*)
.... in this context how do you make magnets work for homosexuality, as in two people sharing the same gender identity being attracted to each other?

VoilĂ*. Stick that in your pipe and smoke it!
(*triumphant*.... *hmmm*.... *not so sure*.... *he'll find a way of weedling out*....)

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After setting much tobacco to fire, I have come to this inference.
There are always 2 poles in all cases that involve partners. Even among Homosexual relationships. One is more dominant (Lesbian => Dyke type) another is submissive (more feminine type).
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After setting much tobacco to fire, I have come to this inference.
There are always 2 poles in all cases that involve partners. Even among Homosexual relationships. One is more dominant (Lesbian => Dyke type) another is submissive (more feminine type).
Case solved, Watson! Anything once explained is easy.: Holmes
Sesame, I love you, but you are WAY over simplifying all things sexual/intimate. If everything boils down to that dichotomy, why not ask for people to express their preference to be a "top" or "bottom?" "Submissive" or "masculine?" I'm sure that you would find a WIDE range of sexuality that appreciates submissive masculinity, submissive feminimity, dominant masculinity, dominant feminimity, etc. Further, your reckoning doesn't even take into account homosexual men, nor does it account for a relationship where the partners are seemingly matched in terms of switching ends of being "receiving" and "giving" on a more or less equal basis. Sorry if you feel the need to justify your own communications by pigeonholing people into a finite set of categories-- I myself do not follow this trend.
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Ok, Ok, GRH,
I am not over-generalizing the nature of relations.
My idea is, whatever the gender of the partners are, in a longterm relationship... they gradually fall back into the two stereotype behaviors of nature: masculine and feminine. And I am not only referring to sexual relations.


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If partners switch ends frequently... maybe they are experimenting, OR,
Those can be described as getting a kick out of role playing, may be?
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