Why are you here?

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by Bionca

you are getting closer..

Think of my hot shemale cock as a volcano spewing a hot thick gyser of white salty magma...



eww.. I feel a little woosey now

Actually, as all TRUE SHEMALES, you're not human at all... you're a CALDERA of 6000 million degrees HOT spermagma ready to breed the SCARED little innocent boys (the socalled HETEROGAYS) who just secretly dream of being blissfully destructed by their REAL mama!

Interesting, baby... Oh MAMA... EXPLODE IN ME...

[sesame]

Hank:

breed the SCARED little innocent boys (the socalled HETEROGAYS) who just secretly dream of being blissfully destructed by their REAL mama

Are you high?

Too much Tequila today, senor?

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by sesame

Hank:

Are you high?

Too much Tequila today, senor?

Hehe... sorry... it happens now and then

[twistedone]

PLEASE, MAKE IT STOP!!!!

All this talk is making me so hot, and I just got out of a cold shower. Been in the shower so long, I'm looking like a raisin.

Originally Posted by hankhavelock

Actually, as all TRUE SHEMALES, you're not human at all... you're a CALDERA of 6000 million degrees HOT spermagma ready to breed the SCARED little innocent boys (the socalled HETEROGAYS) who just secretly dream of being blissfully destructed by their REAL mama!

Interesting, baby... Oh MAMA... EXPLODE IN ME...

[marlowe]

The poll has been up for a week now, there's been some voting and some people have posted their thoughts. So to get back on track (after the recent hijacking by Vulcanologists ), or perhaps just to give a shameless bump, I thought I'd review the results so far:

Firstly, I suppose I asked the question because it was a question I was asking myself - "why am I spending time on this forum?", and by extension - "what is the nature of my interest in, and attraction to, transsexuality and transsexuals, and where do I want to go with that?".
When I came to cast my vote I found it less easy than I thought to make a single clear choice (I'd forgotten that I made it multiple choice!). Even if one is trying to be objective I guess it's inevitable that if you compose the options then they will all in some way be bound to reflect your preoccupations.
Certainly I joined the forum initially to look at pics of transladies etc., and posting some pics seemed like a way of participating and 'belonging'. That's fun for those moments I'm feeling horny and looking for erotic stimulation, but it's limited.
So I opted for 5) I want to communicate with like minded people. I've enjoyed reading and sometimes participating in discussions both informative and humorous. "Like minded" is a bit generalised; it's obvious that people active on this forum share an interest in transsexuality, but that interest is varied and can represent very different ends of the spectrum, and they may have little in common. Within the forum people will mostly seek to engage with those that they feel they have something in common with (tastes, opinions, beliefs, experiences, etc.); they may be coming from a completely different perspective but that's what I've found rewarding and in that respect 'being here' has expanded my horizons. In a more specific way that's what I mean by "like minded".

To the polling so far:

1) I'm curious about transgender and want to know more (6 votes).
A few votes, not that many. That makes sense as there are many sites more obviously aimed at, and better suited to, informing about transgender. Though it may be that some (like myself) find themselves moving in that direction.

2) I get pleasure from looking at pics of transladies (15 votes).
Out in front on votes but only just. I'd have expected this to be a clear leader.

3) I'm a translady addict and can't get enough (12 votes).
Perhaps if we add this to the votes for 2) then it clearly reflects TransLadyboy's principal raison d'être as a forum to enjoy the pornographic representation of transladies. (It's a bit worrying that so many see themselves as addicts: maybe we need a TA? )

4) I have experience of transgender I want to share (9 votes).
I'm very glad that there are people here with experience who want to share this.

5) I want to communicate with like minded people (13 votes).
A close second to 2), clearly a sense of community is important. For some it seems to amount to a reassurance that there are others out there who admire transladies.

6) I want to make contacts for sex / dating / relationship (10 votes).
I'm surprised by the high polling here, maybe there's some wishful thinking. Yes there's a dating forum but it's not that lively and as others have pointed out there are better sites specifically geared to dating. I could be wrong, are people making contacts here? Am I missing out on something?

7) I'm bored and looking for novelty (0 votes).
There's a theory that continuing erotic stimulation requires novelty and that the popularity of shemale porn is partly a result of it's exoticism. Nobody?

These polls are light-hearted, one shouldn't read too much into them and it's hardly a large sample, but interesting nonetheless.

[marlowe]

I see Show Me Love has been banned, I suppose this was inevitable. I was about to post something on the thread of SML's most recent angry outburst when the thread was locked. It's not particularly relevant here but as SML said amongst other things "i can't fucking understand what the hell i'm doing here" it has a tangential relevance, so for what it's worth I'll post the gist of it here:

I was also initially annoyed by SML's incontinent angry outbursts, especially when they are abusive and directed personally at other bms which is totally out of order.
However it seems to me it's likely that the intensity of SML's anger must stem from personal experience and a predicament associated in some way with transsexuality. In a few other posts SML has made relevant points even if somewhat confused and confusing, and also alluded to severe mood swings. I don't think this is someone who came on the forum to be abusive because they got a perverse satisfaction out of that, nor that it is someone with a bigoted agenda who knows nothing of what they were talking about. I get the impression of someone quite disturbed and unable to help themself which is a shame. It's hazardous to analyize someone's choice of moniker (one person's playful irony could be another's deepest truth) but it seems there might be something desperate about using "Show Me Love".

I appreciate that the tone on this forum (in comparison to some others) is civil and generally amicable, and that's worth maintaining. I'm sure that SML received warnings and had tried the patience of the moderator. Also I realise TLB is not a social service,but I feel it's a bit of a shame that the forum couldn't be a place for SML, maybe there was an interesting story to tell.

[sesame]

That was very good. Your analyses are really thought provoking. The way you tried to get inside the under-currents of Show me Love's personality, makes me think about your background.
Are you related to the Psychiatric profession?

Even if you are not, well done.

I have noticed some things too. Fasten your seatbelts, please; For I am going to play the psychiatrist now.

1) His username... Show me love somehow speaks of his thirst for love.

2) The use of that HUGE image linked to all his recent posts... his Leaving of Large blank spaces to make a mark ... it made me feel that he is an attention seeker.

3) It seems that he tried not to be rude, but couldn't control himself most of the time. So he got into bitter arguments with some of the members here.

4) I think he had deep seated dislike for some taboo subjects discussed so openly in this forum. Being already cranky in nature, he couldnt stop himself but protest! Some of the Rigidly set down rules of the society: "this is good, that is evil"... are believed to be the Absolute Law by some, and any diversion from such codes are taken as an Abomination of Nature's Law. This kind of mentality is so rigid, ignorant and sad.

5) Some people are tempted by certain sexual orientations and feel guilty about it, at the same time. They are bound to experience mood swings. When they persecute someone else, they are actually trying to punish themselves. Funny dark alleys in the mind, ain't they?

Seriously speaking, I am trying to understand the reasons that made Show me Love so hateful.

For me this forum is a place to hang out with friends.
Its not a place for contempt, but love, appreciation and humour.

[ila]

Originally Posted by sesame

I have noticed some things too. Fasten your seatbelts, please; For I am going to play the psychiatrist now.

1) His username... Show me love somehow speaks of his thirst for love.

It's dangerous to play psychiatrist without actually having the patient before you to analyze. If one takes one's user name to decide personality then what should one think of your user name Sesame. So now I will play amateur psychiatrist without the patient before me.
Sesame - a grain. Does this mean that you perhaps think you are just one insignificant little person in the great mass of the world population. Or perhaps you think that you are a child at heart because you named yourself after a children's tv show.
So ends my great psychiatric analysis.

[sesame]

Wow!
ila, well done.
I am indeed like a grain when compared to this vast expanse of the world.
My identity is nothing when put beside the giants of the ages.
I AM insignificant when seen in the light of eternity.
My feelings are of little import in
front of collective suffering.

You are quite right about me and my username.:D