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[Bionca]

I'm glad you are open to talking with your bf about his attraction or interest in shemale porn. Open communication is the key to a great sexual and non-sexual relationship. Approaching this with an open mind and without judgement can only be helpful to both you and he.

Do I think he's trying to tell you he's bi? No, at least not in the classic definition of "bisexual". I'm sure if you asked about his feeling toward men, even "pretty" or "femmy" men he wouldn't be into them. Most guys with an interest in shemales struggle with their sexual identity and usually come to the conclusion that they are, in fact straight - with the inclusion of pre-op trans women. Others will come to the conclusion they are bi, but can't "get into" most other men.

Without knowing your bf it's hard to tell what he's thinking/feeling when he looks at trannie porn. I'm trying to put myself in the place of a non-trans guy (it's harder than it sounds). Probably, he likes the idea that it's taboo and transgressive - he likes it because he isn't *supposed* to like it. It's the mixture of titilation and shame that's the turn on. If confronted with the opportunity to live the fantasy, he'd probably be initially excited and then bail. He'd bail because part of the excitement is that it's so far removed from his daily life and bringing it into his life in person would kill some of the "buzz".

I'd say you probably have nothing to worry about as far as him emotionally or physically or even sexually distancing himself from you. This is probably firmly tucked away in his mind as a fantasy. Like any fantasy, you can use this to enhance your own sex play with him - or leave this as something you don't share together. Like a tranny treat that is his and his alone.