Ungendering and a Lack of Respect

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This debate goes on and on. I believe it can be hard to define a person's gender or sexuality if we don't know how this person defines him/herself. I don't think anybody wants to offend. But let's be honest, how on earth are we able to define a person if all we have to judge a person by are a couple of re-cycled pics from a professional adult site and a few diverse comments added by other viewers?