How and where to meet a shemale

[Trogdor]

Originally Posted by JodieTs

Well. the truth is this:
If we look totally like any other woman, you will not know we are Ts
{cuties are only a small % of Ts women}

I never get taken to be anything other than a Day-1 woman,
which makes me totally invisible to potentially interested men.
I'm in a long tern relationship so that fact does not bother me either way. But if I was single I still wouldn't care. I want people to like me for the person I am, not because I have a penis.
A penis is a rubbish reason to date. Sure, its funny when I walk through my lounge, naked, on the wat to my shower, waving my penis up and down, making:woo woo woo noises.
It's even funny the second or third time...
But after then, you really need a lot more to base a relationship on.

Long term relationships....well a lot of my friends met their partners when they didn't quite look the way they do now. Didn't quite pass. Early days. Still some / a lot of their male past apparent.
Their male partners dated them for who they were not for the external appearance.
Would you date a recent transitioned trans woman if she occasionally had a 5? clock shadow...


Finally, I only know a few trans friends who go on trans dating sites.
They are there to EXCLUSIVELY date other trans....

The rest of us don't need to
or more importantly, don't want to meet a man who we perceive to be fixated about that part of our bodies we loath...

sorry, did not know wanting to be with an attractive person in arelationship was so evil and horrible. Did not realize how selfish I am.

[JodieTs]

Originally Posted by Trogdor

sorry, did not know wanting to be with an attractive person in arelationship was so evil and horrible. Did not realize how selfish I am.

What's in it for your potential Ts date?
{She may be reading this}
You don't even have a face pic up and all you do is moan.
What would you bring to a relationship?

Interact on here and other boards.
Make FRIENDS only.
Remove dating from your mind.
Interact, and only consider more,
if there is a spark between you and hopefully a Ts.
Because you actually like each other
rather than because she is a "cutie" who has a penis.

If it is just the latter, no Ts would ever date you.
That is the reality
I apologise for being so evil and horrible for speaking the totally obvious truth.

[JodieTs]

Anyway, I met one of my partners off a trans board
based in the UK
He had the mindset of my last post.
We are now together for 2 years and totally in love.
A number of people on this board are now dating as a result of meeting on this very site.
I know nothing about how they started dating,
but I'm sure it was because they interacted, got on, liked each other,
and then dated.
Not coz of a cutie factor with anatomy in bold highlight.

[ila]

Originally Posted by JodieTs

Anyway, I met one of my partners off a trans board
based in the UK
He had the mindset of my last post.
We are now together for 2 years and totally in love.
A number of people on this board are now dating as a result of meeting on this very site.
I know nothing about how they started dating,
but I'm sure it was because they interacted, got on, liked each other,
and then dated.
Not coz of a cutie factor with anatomy in bold highlight.

I would say that interaction is the keyword here; that, and respect go a long way towards establishing a relationship.

I'm pretty sure that haste doesn't help anyone's cause.

[JodieTs]

That is so true.
My man chatted on a forum for six months,
three months of phone conversations,
a 1400 mile flight for a meal with me and several of my friends,
then three separate weeks just hangin' out, being friends
before I thought about dating him.
{He decided, a fair bit earlier, though...}

[Trogdor]

Originally Posted by JodieTs

What's in it for your potential Ts date?
{She may be reading this}
You don't even have a face pic up and all you do is moan.
What would you bring to a relationship?

Interact on here and other boards.
Make FRIENDS only.
Remove dating from your mind.
Interact, and only consider more,
if there is a spark between you and hopefully a Ts.
Because you actually like each other
rather than because she is a "cutie" who has a penis.

If it is just the latter, no Ts would ever date you.
That is the reality
I apologise for being so evil and horrible for speaking the totally obvious truth.

You'll get a face shot of me shortly. Most boards I have been on have a "Post what you look like" thread, just looking around for that first.

From my own experiences, once a person is a friends, say bye bye to dating, because every girl I've experienced do NOT date friends, aka, the dreaded 'friends zone'. I have seen people, and been one of them, where if a long time friend of a girl walks up to her and asks her out, she gets weired out, as if her own brother asked her out. I used to think otherwise, but by the time I was 20, I had so many friends who girls and yet no girl friends, it got not only embarrassing, it was down right frustrating.

I want a girl with a good head on her shoulders and so on, but I don't see why wanting to find one who's cute is so bad. You girls wanting someone tall and handsome is not evil, I think.

Originally Posted by aw9725

You really need to start by asking yourself what you are looking for in a partner. I can?t speak for everyone but my own list would be something like this:

Physical attraction between us
Caring personality
Similar interests
Sense of humor
Emotional stability

Of course I am looking for all that in the list. Problem is one particular poster getting upset when she reads I want the girl I meet to be very cute, also. It's like a struck a nerve with her or something. I don't get upset when a girl says she wants someone tall and handsome, or someone who has (insert famous personality's features).

Originally Posted by aw9725

Notice that list does NOT state whether or not my partner should be cis or trans, blonde, brunette, or redhead, how much they weigh, how much money they make, or what they look like. You also need to look at what YOU bring to the relationship. What are your best traits? How would you describe yourself? What do you like to do? What is your job? What are you most proud of doing in your life? What would a potential partner see in you?

Also I don?t know how old you are--it sounds like you had a few bad experiences in high-school. Most of us have. You need to focus on what is ahead of you. Also, as others have said, it takes time to build a real relationship. Unless you are interested only in ?one night stands? you can expect to invest a lot of time into finding a true partner. Good luck!

31, going on 32. Oh yea, I had a rotten time in high school, no high school sweet heart, no senior prom, etc. In fact my first date ever did not come till I was smeggin' 20. Also, many g-girls don't bother waiting to build relationships, they just go and run off with anyone with the "Mr. Bad-Ass" vibe going on....you know the type....that guzzles a lot of alcohol, has skull & snake tattoos on his forearms, wears a lot of bling, does some sort of drugs, has been arrested at least once, and part of some no-name rock band that's never going to take off, and will end up abusing the girl both physically and verbally. Or in the very least o off with some stranger they just met in a club or bar. Least that's how it is like up here in Michigan.

The point is that all I am saying is that I am no longer interested in genetic females anymore, I posted earlier here or on another thread that they simply hurt me too many times and that I've had enough (if you eat something that makes you sick, and/or are allergic to it, you won't keep on eating said food, right? Of course not, you go find something else. Same with jobs, if you're in a job you hate for whatever reason, be it bad pay, the boss treats you like garbage, crappy benefits, etc.....you go try to find a different job, right?)
I don't see what everyone's up in arms about that. And as I also said, ts girls have treated me much better than any genetic female ever has done, I have great conversations, get along well with them, none of them has hurt me, and so on.

I feel I am being reasonable. Though I am sure some folks here want to find a plank for me to walk on.

[ila]

Originally Posted by Trogdor

You'll get a face shot of me shortly. Most boards I have been on have a "Post what you look like" thread, just looking around for that first...

Scroll up the page from this forum to this subforum "Member Introductions and Pictures"

Originally Posted by Trogdor

Of course I am looking for all that in the list. Problem is one particular poster getting upset when she reads I want the girl I meet to be very cute, also. It's like a struck a nerve with her or something. I don't get upset when a girl says she wants someone tall and handsome, or someone who has (insert famous personality's features).

31, going on 32. Oh yea, I had a rotten time in high school, no high school sweet heart, no senior prom, etc. In fact my first date ever did not come till I was smeggin' 20. Also, many g-girls don't bother waiting to build relationships, they just go and run off with anyone with the "Mr. Bad-Ass" vibe going on....you know the type....that guzzles a lot of alcohol, has skull & snake tattoos on his forearms, wears a lot of bling, does some sort of drugs, has been arrested at least once, and part of some no-name rock band that's never going to take off, and will end up abusing the girl both physically and verbally. Or in the very least o off with some stranger they just met in a club or bar. Least that's how it is like up here in Michigan.

I sense then that you know exactly what you want and aren?t really looking for any friendly advice or understanding. By the way I was born and raised in Detroit.

[Trogdor]

Originally Posted by aw9725

I sense then that you know exactly what you want and aren?t really looking for any friendly advice or understanding. By the way I was born and raised in Detroit.

Only advice I want is point me to a place near where I am with nice t-girls and let me take care of the rest. And you have my sympathy being born and raised in Detroit.

[smc]

Originally Posted by Trogdor

Only advice I want is point me to a place near where I am with nice t-girls and let me take care of the rest. And you have my sympathy being born and raised in Detroit.

Any other places people might be born and raised that you wish to denigrate? aw9725 has turned out pretty damn fine, if you ask me.

[Trogdor]

Originally Posted by smc

Any other places people might be born and raised that you wish to denigrate? aw9725 has turned out pretty damn fine, if you ask me.

Naw, my own neck of the woods is fine. ^_^

[jigenbakuda]

Question about matets.com.

Since you need to pay to use the site are the ladies on her more serious than normal? I once heard somewhere that match.com and the other big dating sites where more successful in creating relationships because the people on there pay, and to pay means you are more serious.

Just wondering if some of the ladies look at it that way and respect the men on there more because of it.

I really do not like the idea of paying for a night of love, and I would like to at least casually date a transgendered lady, but not sure the best way to proceed. This seems like the best way, just wanting to know some ladies opinion on online dating sites like matets.com.

Originally Posted by Trogdor

sorry, did not know wanting to be with an attractive person in arelationship was so evil and horrible. Did not realize how selfish I am.

You really need to start by asking yourself what you are looking for in a partner. I can’t speak for everyone but my own list would be something like this:

Physical attraction between us
Caring personality
Similar interests
Sense of humor
Emotional stability

Notice that list does NOT state whether or not my partner should be cis or trans, blonde, brunette, or redhead, how much they weigh, how much money they make, or what they look like. You also need to look at what YOU bring to the relationship. What are your best traits? How would you describe yourself? What do you like to do? What is your job? What are you most proud of doing in your life? What would a potential partner see in you?

Also I don’t know how old you are--it sounds like you had a few bad experiences in high-school. Most of us have. You need to focus on what is ahead of you. Also, as others have said, it takes time to build a real relationship. Unless you are interested only in “one night stands” you can expect to invest a lot of time into finding a true partner. Good luck!