How do meet my First Shemale?

[JodieTs]

Originally Posted by Bionca

@Jodie -
Yes, you are 100% correct.

The point I was trying to make is that trans women don't only exist is clubs or escort ads or Craigs List, or online dating sites. We do laundry, get food, have jobs, go to movies with friends, take walks, .. all that stuff. We are available in some pretty mundane places.

Now, yes any man here can have any type of relationship with trans women. He just needs to do a couple things, so few of them seem up to it though *shrug*

The problem is that trans is a curiosity / fetish for most of society.
And who shares that sort of thing with their family & friends?

One of my partners {polyamorous} does that all the time
but as I'm 100% stealth & he hasn't discussed the T thing with anyone else,
I'm not sure if that counts.
[It did when we started dating, as stealth was hyper-important; now I'm chilled out & not bothered. The further along I've gone, the better I've integrated, the less I worry about the T thing or people knowing...it would be so much easier if I was chilled throughout transition & immediately afterwards]

[JodieTs]

J said the easiest way to date a Ts, is to interact with us on tg boards.
Post on areas of common interest. Avoid sex topics.
See if you click.
Assess which Ts's are deranged
and which are very deranged*
then suggest phone / social contact.
If later, things move on to friendship and then romance,cool.
J wooed me for six months after our first meeting before I relented.


Oh, be prepared to put lots of time and ? or $:
Think flights, hotels, food, car rental
Because of our rarity, you will probably have to put a lot of effort into travel and resulting costs.
J lives 1400 miles from me,
Yep, he had to go that far just to meet for an afternoon, to see if we would be friends. He combined the trip with some work stuff.



*Fail! He ended up with me, after-all. Quack!

[smc]

Originally Posted by JodieTs

J said the easiest way to date a Ts, is to interact with us on tg boards.
Post on areas of common interest. Avoid sex topics.
See if you click.
Assess which Ts's are deranged
and which are very deranged*
then suggest phone / social contact.
If later, things move on to friendship and then romance,cool.
J wooed me for six months after our first meeting before I relented.

My experience is that women are very reluctant to have phone or social contact even if you click really strongly on a board, thanks in large part to the haters who have made them so legitimately fearful of taking any chance that a genuinely nice guy like me might actually turn out to be dangerous. This is very frustrating, because I am a very good friend to have and that's what I'd like even more than romance.

[shadows]

Originally Posted by smc

My experience is that women are very reluctant to have phone or social contact even if you click really strongly on a board, thanks in large part to the haters who have made them so legitimately fearful of taking any chance that a genuinely nice guy like me might actually turn out to be dangerous. This is very frustrating, because I am a very good friend to have and that's what I'd like even more than romance.

Not to mention the anonymity factor. It is really hard to find out a person's true personality through contact via the internet and the phone alone. A person can say that they are one way, but be totally opposite in the "real world"(heck, they might not even be the person they are purporting to be!) Even webcams aren't a sure bet, since they have been used to perpetuate a falsehood in the past.

If this helps at all, I think you're a good guy smc.

You are right that it is hard if not impossible to verify someone?s identity over the Internet. I have never been one to participate much in ?on line? discussions or ?chat rooms? or anything else precisely for that reason.

However, after my divorce, I joined e-Harmony and for the most part had a positive experience, finally meeting someone who is now my fianc?e. While that experience had a happy ending, there were some cases of people not being who they said and even a ?stalker.?

I still participate on ?TLB,? mostly because of friends I?ve made and because of my activities in the LGBT community in ?real life.? My other ?on line? activities include a technology blog and a Twitter feed. They are related to my teaching and I don?t share them publically here. My profile information is accurate. There are a few members here who I?ve communicated with outside of ?TLB? who can verify most of it.

My experiences lead me to echo what smc said earlier. People that I come into contact with in real life tell me I?m a really nice guy. I?m used to being a natural leader and my professional reputation at my university is stellar. Sorry, modesty was never my strong suit! I guess it?s someone else?s loss if they are too scared to take a chance. Unfortunately, as smc has correctly pointed out, the ?haters? have contributed to these fears. And the threat of violence against transwomen is very real. A sad situation indeed!

[Enoch Root]

Finding a cute transsexual woman presents the problem of the proverbial needle in a haystack... a haystack the size of the planet, and the woman can bite back if you're not careful about what you say.