How do meet my First Shemale?

[shadows]

Originally Posted by Bionca

Let's see... I'm having morning coffee in a local coffee place while I wait on the bus every week day. I have my job then usually have dinner and take the dog for a walk. I do some food shopping on the weekends and every once in a while I'll go to a club.

I meet people every day - so obviously meeting a trans woman isn't a big mystery *shrug*

It's a shame that some people don't realize that there isn't anything different with trans women and that they enjoy the same hobbies and regular pleasures in life just like everyone else in the world.

[Bionca]

@Jodie -

Yes, you are 100% correct. Most of the guys I have dated were connected in some way to the trans scene. It's funny though that my two longest relationships have been with guys I didn't meet in a specifically trans setting. My current BF and I met in a gay bar because a good friend used to date his brother. We just hit it off and it turned out he was a bit "curious". My first guy met me as a boy and while we dated I started to transition. He had dated trans gals before, so it wasn't a big issue with him.

However, aside from those guys, yeah pretty much all the dudes I've been with were introduced in one of the ways you mentioned.

The point I was trying to make is that trans women don't only exist is clubs or escort ads or Craigs List, or online dating sites. We do laundry, get food, have jobs, go to movies with friends, take walks, .. all that stuff. We are available in some pretty mundane places.

Now, yes any man here can have any type of relationship with trans women. He just needs to do a couple things, so few of them seem up to it though *shrug*

[JodieTs]

Originally Posted by Bionca

@Jodie -
Yes, you are 100% correct.

The point I was trying to make is that trans women don't only exist is clubs or escort ads or Craigs List, or online dating sites. We do laundry, get food, have jobs, go to movies with friends, take walks, .. all that stuff. We are available in some pretty mundane places.

Now, yes any man here can have any type of relationship with trans women. He just needs to do a couple things, so few of them seem up to it though *shrug*

The problem is that trans is a curiosity / fetish for most of society.
And who shares that sort of thing with their family & friends?

One of my partners {polyamorous} does that all the time
but as I'm 100% stealth & he hasn't discussed the T thing with anyone else,
I'm not sure if that counts.
[It did when we started dating, as stealth was hyper-important; now I'm chilled out & not bothered. The further along I've gone, the better I've integrated, the less I worry about the T thing or people knowing...it would be so much easier if I was chilled throughout transition & immediately afterwards]

[JodieTs]

J said the easiest way to date a Ts, is to interact with us on tg boards.
Post on areas of common interest. Avoid sex topics.
See if you click.
Assess which Ts's are deranged
and which are very deranged*
then suggest phone / social contact.
If later, things move on to friendship and then romance,cool.
J wooed me for six months after our first meeting before I relented.


Oh, be prepared to put lots of time and ? or $:
Think flights, hotels, food, car rental
Because of our rarity, you will probably have to put a lot of effort into travel and resulting costs.
J lives 1400 miles from me,
Yep, he had to go that far just to meet for an afternoon, to see if we would be friends. He combined the trip with some work stuff.



*Fail! He ended up with me, after-all. Quack!

[smc]

Originally Posted by JodieTs

J said the easiest way to date a Ts, is to interact with us on tg boards.
Post on areas of common interest. Avoid sex topics.
See if you click.
Assess which Ts's are deranged
and which are very deranged*
then suggest phone / social contact.
If later, things move on to friendship and then romance,cool.
J wooed me for six months after our first meeting before I relented.

My experience is that women are very reluctant to have phone or social contact even if you click really strongly on a board, thanks in large part to the haters who have made them so legitimately fearful of taking any chance that a genuinely nice guy like me might actually turn out to be dangerous. This is very frustrating, because I am a very good friend to have and that's what I'd like even more than romance.

[shadows]

Originally Posted by smc

My experience is that women are very reluctant to have phone or social contact even if you click really strongly on a board, thanks in large part to the haters who have made them so legitimately fearful of taking any chance that a genuinely nice guy like me might actually turn out to be dangerous. This is very frustrating, because I am a very good friend to have and that's what I'd like even more than romance.

Not to mention the anonymity factor. It is really hard to find out a person's true personality through contact via the internet and the phone alone. A person can say that they are one way, but be totally opposite in the "real world"(heck, they might not even be the person they are purporting to be!) Even webcams aren't a sure bet, since they have been used to perpetuate a falsehood in the past.

If this helps at all, I think you're a good guy smc.

You are right that it is hard if not impossible to verify someone?s identity over the Internet. I have never been one to participate much in ?on line? discussions or ?chat rooms? or anything else precisely for that reason.

However, after my divorce, I joined e-Harmony and for the most part had a positive experience, finally meeting someone who is now my fianc?e. While that experience had a happy ending, there were some cases of people not being who they said and even a ?stalker.?

I still participate on ?TLB,? mostly because of friends I?ve made and because of my activities in the LGBT community in ?real life.? My other ?on line? activities include a technology blog and a Twitter feed. They are related to my teaching and I don?t share them publically here. My profile information is accurate. There are a few members here who I?ve communicated with outside of ?TLB? who can verify most of it.

My experiences lead me to echo what smc said earlier. People that I come into contact with in real life tell me I?m a really nice guy. I?m used to being a natural leader and my professional reputation at my university is stellar. Sorry, modesty was never my strong suit! I guess it?s someone else?s loss if they are too scared to take a chance. Unfortunately, as smc has correctly pointed out, the ?haters? have contributed to these fears. And the threat of violence against transwomen is very real. A sad situation indeed!

[JodieTs]

Originally Posted by Bionca

@Jodie -
The point I was trying to make is that trans women don't only exist is clubs or escort ads or Craigs List, or online dating sites. We do laundry, get food, have jobs, go to movies with friends, take walks, .. all that stuff. We are available in some pretty mundane places.

This is both very true and also strikes a reminisent / uncomfortable note within my self.

From another message board:
Quote:
LORRAINEDAWE said:
Be honest non of us wanted to be trans did we ?

My reply:
Um....
I did. Seriously.

I bought two shemale porn mags, 15 years ago.
Wanked off over them for months, still have the mags.
[Though these days, it's mainly Tigger who 'reads' them]

Slowly I realised that you don't meet these pre-op porn star hotties in real life.
So what to do?
Eventually I figured that it would be fun to actually be a shemale porn model.
A few packets of contraceptive pills,
some ACME: "Ultra-Fast hair grow?" liquid,
A set of saucy undies,
& waited two weeks for the tits to grow {with pert sensitive nipples }
to the same size as the blond model on the cover of the mag above on the RHS.
A few phone calls, & hey presto
I'm livin' the fantasy.
You know, the fantasy that I took a bit too far.
{between you & me yes? don't tell my shrinks }


Tongue in cheek?