Telling your partner of your love for shemales

[km1]

Good luck WudLuv, hope it all works out for you. I really have no advice (not that you ask for any) as I'm not married and do not have a serious girlfriend.

[WudLuv2try]

Thanks, km1!

I wasn't going to ask, but I had to.

Seeing you're not married and don't have serious girlfriend, have you... ?

[Daveybouy69]

Looks like this topic came up a while back but its still relevant for a few (many?) of us, myself included.

With my own situation it is unlikely that my wife would be receptive to my attraction to transsexuals, mostly due to her upbringing and partially due to just her own nature. In fact it would most likely be the beginning of the end of our marriage if I brought it up.

While I would love to be open with my wife about it she wouldn't be able to take it - it doesn't mean that she doesn't love me or vice-versa.

The only thing I can say on this is that you have to use your own common sense, as people have pointed out before everyone's situation is different.

[franalexes]

The starting point would be understanding some basic point. Man will tell a woman he loves her to get sex. Woman will give sex to get love. Somewhere in there is a balance and most don't understand it.
So lets say that guys are sex oriented and women are love oriented. The contrast may start to appear.
I had never heard the 90% figure before but it seems about right.
Is anyone an expert on what someone else thinks?

[Kakariko]

In my opinion, honesty in a relationship is exceptionally important. I have a girlfriend and we've been dating for several years and I've told her about my various interests, including Tgirls. She isn't into it at all and probably wishes I wasn't so much, but I'm glad she knows. I would never be able to keep anything like this from her. I tell her everything of importance.

That being said, I can see how it can be different for others. Some people here are married and would have come across Tgirls after being married. Obviously, if they had gotten into Tgirls before marriage, they may have been able to talk about it with their partner. After being married it changes things, as a marriage could potentially be ruined if someone found out their partner was into Tgirls. Of course, it all depends on how open-minded one is and what sort of upbringing they had etc. It isn't easy telling someone you love something like this. It can be scary not knowing how they'll feel, how it will affect them and how it will affect the relationship.

chelsea, my advice would be to let your partner know. I'm not sure how close you and your partner are, but I believe honesty is always the best answer. If you do let her know, please let us know how it went. All the best!

[ila]

I want, someday, to be married to a transwoman or at the very least in a LTR. The original question then becomes rather moot as my wife/partner will be trans and she will obviously know of my desire for transwomen. I do know that my someday cannot happen soon enough for me.