Does liking shemales make you gay?

You have probably read my other postings so you know it doesn’t matter to me if you consider yourself gay or straight. But speaking totally for myself, I am attracted to beautiful women. I was married to a beautiful woman and have always dated attractive women. Not men. Never have, and at 39, probably never will. Just to add something to this discussion I thought I’d post a few pics for you to consider. What has intrigued me is how this discussion keeps coming (no pun intended) back to “the cock” rather than the entire person.

The first two are Foxy Angel (one of my all-time favorites) and Mallory from “Mallory’s Feet” (to me a relative newcomer--and one of the cutest and sexiest girls I’ve ever seen). You can’t “see anything” in either picture--both are very beautiful and extremely feminine--most “straight” men would likely be attracted to either one of them. Don’t you think? I know I am!

Now consider the other two pictures. The first is Bev Francis, a champion bodybuilder. She is also the first woman to officially bench press over 300 lbs. When I was a teenager I followed her like I did “Arnold” and others. Anyway, I remember before I could do “300” myself, thinking “How can a girl do this”?

The last picture is of course Buck Angel, a well known transman and model. He also obviously works out and has a nice physique. I have read several interviews with him and he seems pretty cool.

Both Bev and Buck have vaginas yet I can say with certainty that I am not sexually attracted to either one--although I like and admire both of them. My question for those who keep insisting that we are all closeted gays is: Why is someone "gay" for liking cute, blond, Mallory (or Kelly Shore for instance)? Is it because she has a “cock”? Then is someone who likes muscular, shaven head, Buck, considered “straight” only because he has a “pussy”? Doesn’t make sense…

My own answer is that human sexuality is much too complex to be categorized and actually tends to fall on a continuum. Perhaps we are predominately gay or straight, but in reality, a little of both. Kinsey, I believe first proposed this idea. The following is taken from the American Psychological Association:

“Sexual orientation is an enduring emotional, romantic, sexual, or affectional attraction toward others. It is easily distinguished from other components of sexuality including biological sex, gender identity (the psychological sense of being male or female), and the social gender role (adherence to cultural norms for feminine and masculine behavior). Sexual orientation exists along a continuum that ranges from exclusive heterosexuality to exclusive homosexuality and includes various forms of bisexuality.”

I think that applies to most of us. LOL! And I think that most importantly we should learn to accept and celebrate who we are. As I’ve said in other posts, “It’s all good”!

Dr. A