Feared or Respected?

[new believer]

Originally Posted by rhythmic delivery

in most cases its better to be respected. but in some walks of life fear is much more usefull.

Being better is a matter of perspective. I woud prefer fear. One has to EARN respect. And 'EARN' ='s work. I work enough already. With fear, no one(hardly) messes with you or simply leaves you alone. And sometimes one needs to be alone. Just ask Greta Garbo. NB

[d332_dot_com]

applying George Bernard Shaw's quote "Hatred is the coward's revenge for being intimidated" I would pick fear. If fear leads to hatred and hatred - perhaps (and a big perhaps at that) may be a stone's throw away from love, then at least there's some emotion involved.

Respect is just respect. I guess it's like some college degree. The people who have it think nothing of it. The ones who don't consider, it the end all of intelligence. Whenever I have conversations with girls who harp on respect, I thin - rightfully or wrongfully - they must not get much of it.

Then when you see the people who are always trying to get ill-treated....it's always the ones who get respect and power throughout their typical day. Think subs in S/M.

Respect is just following a set of polite rules. But fear is a powerful force that drives you over the edge, and make you do things you otherwise won't do.

And I like that.

[johndowe]

Originally Posted by d332_dot_com

applying George Bernard Shaw's quote "Hatred is the coward's revenge for being intimidated" I would pick fear. If fear leads to hatred and hatred - perhaps (and a big perhaps at that) may be a stone's throw away from love, then at least there's some emotion involved.

Respect is just respect. I guess it's like some college degree. The people who have it think nothing of it. The ones who don't consider, it the end all of intelligence. Whenever I have conversations with girls who harp on respect, I thin - rightfully or wrongfully - they must not get much of it.

Then when you see the people who are always trying to get ill-treated....it's always the ones who get respect and power throughout their typical day. Think subs in S/M.

Respect is just following a set of polite rules. But fear is a powerful force that drives you over the edge, and make you do things you otherwise won't do.

And I like that.

Hi there.

Most people misunderstand the consept of respect and fear, while you are right fear can make you do things you wouldn't, but usually all the wrong things for the wrong reasons, and in the end it causes more problems for everybody involved, violence never solves anything, it will close a discussion but the argument is stopped but none of the opinions have changed, other than the winner thinks he won the arguement and the loser thinks the winner is even more of an asshole, so nothing was accomplished and someone got beat, that's not very smart, is it?

And respect is how you treat yourself and deal with others in every part of your life.

Another thing, you (genericly speaking) owe more respect to others than they owe you, once you understand this equasion (as it were) you will understand respect and will be able to interact with others more effectively.

More forthcoming.

JohnDowe.

[tunlov]

Respected.

[johndowe]

Originally Posted by new believer

Being better is a matter of perspective. I woud prefer fear. One has to EARN respect. And 'EARN' ='s work. I work enough already. With fear, no one(hardly) messes with you or simply leaves you alone. And sometimes one needs to be alone. Just ask Greta Garbo. NB

Hi there.

As i said elsewhere, i'm back...

You say you have to work to earn respect?

Well, i suppose being cyvil to someone could possibly be considered work, or being polite and curtious too.

But having to intimidate someone or even beating them up to get the fear isn't work?

And then if the guy you beat up has freinds and they try to beat you up, if you run away, you lose the fear and by the way running is work in my book, and if you do fight them, well there will be a lot of people working to clean up that mess, irregardless of who won.

JohnDowe.