I love you because you're my girl

[jjayman3]

May be he is just very analytical. My wife has asked me the same question and I answered in the same fashion. I my mind I thought I was being passionate. I have very few things that I'm passionate about and take deep personal interest in. Those few things I do I consider as my own. So when I told my wife she is my girl. I was giving her a compliment in my mind, as in she is one of the few things I care about. Not that she was my posesion.

Anyways, you know your man. What are your thoughts? You knew him when the relationship was new. Has his answers changed? They might not be the most romantic but do they make sense for him?

Also, would you rather have a "romantic" guy give you the best answer and be full of shit or your man?

[johndowe]

Hi there.

First thing you HAVE to consider: Men & Women are VERY different emotionally, and see things from a very different perspective, and another thing men are less communicative and expressive than women, women remember dates of things in their lives, men don't, that's why we sometimes forget birthdays or aniversaries, not because we don't care, but simply because we see time and dates differently.

When he said: "I love you because you're my girl" he didn't say it like you understand it, he said it like I understand it, he loves you because you accepted him as he was, you stuck by him and you had a child with him and he stuck by you then also, it wasn't the ansewer you expected, but it was still a good ansewer, about the insurance thing, he wanted to mary you so you would have medical coverage, because he cares for you and your health and your child's health, isn't that love, even if it isn't verbalised properly?

I remember my first live-in g/f we were living togather for about a year and she comes out with "you take me for granted", my first tought was: "Yes and i wouldn't have it any other way" but if i'd said that, she would have gone balistic, only because she wouldn't have understood the ansewer.

What i meant by that was that, we were comfortable togather, at least i was, and i KNEW i could count on her and she could count on me, i respected her and she me, to me that was the best ansewer i could give but because i knew she wouldn't understand it as i meant, i enumerated alot of the things that she did for me and us as a couple instead, to me it was an inferior ansewer, but to her it was a better ansewer, so as i said, men and women are VERY different emotionally.

Also, when men love someone they accept it and live with it as such, but when women love someone they don't do it wholehartedly as men, they need to be told, and told often, as if their love would dis-appear if she wasn't told, and it does from my perspective anyway, so did she realy love him/me in the first place? from my perspective, when i love a woman i tell her once in a while, but not every day, if she needs to hear it every day so she would "stay" in love with me she should buy a tape recorder and record it, and not have mis-guided ideas that if i don't say it i don't feel it, all while i don't hear her saying it to me every day either.

Another thing, i have seen this often; a couple break up after living togather a few years she sais he doesn't love her, but when she leaves he is devastated; proof that he didn't love her? And she goes on with her life as if nothing happened; proof that she loved him?


JohnDowe.

[ila]

This thread is two years old and the OP hasn't been on the site in more than a year. All this advice is fine, but the OP hasn't been around to read it.

[Be_my_nude]

Originally Posted by ila

This thread is two years old and the OP hasn't been on the site in more than a year. All this advice is fine, but the OP hasn't been around to read it.

I'm confused too. How are we to know just how cobwebbed a post is and how long the thread has been stale ?

Your advice on this would be of value to those not in the know. Nobody likes to waste emotion and time on addressing an empty seat.

Thanks

[ila]

Originally Posted by Be_my_nude

I'm confused too. How are we to know just how cobwebbed a post is and how long the thread has been stale ?

Your advice on this would be of value to those not in the know. Nobody likes to waste emotion and time on addressing an empty seat.

Thanks

The date a post was made can be found in the top left corner, in the dark green border, of each post.

It's possible to find out when a member last visited by checking that member's Public Profile. In any post, by that member, left click on the member's name. A list will drop down and then left click on Public Profile. The Public Profile dialogue box will open. The date or time of the member's last activity is shown in the top right of this box.

[shadows]

Originally Posted by Be_my_nude

I'm confused too. How are we to know just how cobwebbed a post is and how long the thread has been stale ?

Your advice on this would be of value to those not in the know. Nobody likes to waste emotion and time on addressing an empty seat.

Thanks

The date can be seen in the top left corner of each post. Newer ones will go by hour, then by day, then by week, and so on. I am not sure how old a post has to be before it will say the actual date instead(over a month, perhaps?). I hope that helps.

As far as knowing the last time a particular Member visited, you can visit their Profile and it will say it there.

ETA: It looks like Ila beat me to it.

[jjayman3]

The post maybe old. However, the initial question is one that still plagues men and woman. The question will never be answered. But the answers have been insightful. Also, I would love to hear how the "right" answer has changed based on hormonal influence. If I'm offensive I apologize in advance. But members of this forum have a unique perspective as to the way hormones effect emotions and needs in a relationship.

[Be_my_nude]

Originally Posted by shadows

The date can be seen in the top left corner of each post. Newer ones will go by hour, then by day, then by week, and so on. I am not sure how old a post has to be before it will say the actual date instead(over a month, perhaps?). I hope that helps.

As far as knowing the last time a particular Member visited, you can visit their Profile and it will say it there.

ETA: It looks like Ila beat me to it.

Thank you both you, shadows and ila.

The post that followed yours was very interesting. It probably explains quite a few of the romantic assumptions ( and mistakes ) that I have made at various times in my life. And, surprise, surprise ! It seems that quite a few males do the same, especially in the earlier part of their lives. But there is also a saying : " There's no fool like an old fool ". Thank goodness I remain forever young !

2x

[shadows]

Originally Posted by Be_my_nude

Thank you both you, shadows and ila.

The post that followed yours was very interesting. It probably explains quite a few of the romantic assumptions ( and mistakes ) that I have made at various times in my life. And, surprise, surprise ! It seems that quite a few males do the same, especially in the earlier part of their lives. But there is also a saying : " There's no fool like an old fool ". Thank goodness I remain forever young !

2x

You are quite welcome.

And like it was mentioned above, even though the OP has not been here in a while, there is nothing saying that the information given here will not be of assistance to another Member.

[johndowe]

Originally Posted by ila

This thread is two years old and the OP hasn't been on the site in more than a year. All this advice is fine, but the OP hasn't been around to read it.

Hi there.

I noticed that after i posted...


JohnDowe.