New T-Girl in Transition

[transjen]

No having SRS was more then enought and i sure as hell didn't want any other surgery on top of that, I never had full FFS instead i did a little at a time like having my adams apple shaved down a nose job and some softing to my face
Actualy i live on the east coast in NJ
Jerseygirl Jen

[Dani]

It sounds like one surgery at a time maybe more tolerable then two 6-8 hour long surgeries. I may have to consider that instead as I have a low pain threshold as it is. I like most Floridians am originally from New York specifically Stonybrook LI. So I know Jersey pretty well and it is a goregous state as long as you avoid the Turnpike! : ) jk.

I will try not to play twenty questions as often but I really can't thank you enough for the support and information!

Dani

[transjen]

You'll be happy to know that SRS doesn't hurt as much as you would think, Anywho i did the little at a time approach mainly due to lack of funds,As i got the money i would get something done and in time it all added up but as things are now i'm done with surgery so no more going under the knife for me
Jerseygirl Jen

[Dani]

That is awesome that you are finished. Just wondering if that is you in your profile picture? If so I am jealous! lol I was going to start with either a nose job or having my adam's apple shaved. I figured that one probably hurts enough. I just hope that I can afford things in a timely manner. I am still going to school full time so it is kind of nerve wracking to do the transition there too.

Dani

[Bionca]

Dani, just remember to pace any surgeries you may need the cost and recovery time for all of them are a pain. I'd also wait for HRT and hair removal before really tackling the face. The subtle softening of the face from both of those can do wonders and may mitigate your need for facial surgeries.

Also, dating as a trans woman can be a minefield. There are great guys, but there are also guys who talk a good game, but ultimately can't deal. Your first priority should be your education. Trans women in the US tend to be under employed, so any leverage you can bring to employment will serve you well.

[Dani]

Well completing my education is still one of my top priorities but what about the legalities in the future of having a degree as Daniel and changing my name to Dani has anyone on here dealt with something similar because I would hate to have Florida State give me a degree then refuse me a reprint later with my proper name. (Still not sure if Dani is what I will use post op)

I was planning on waiting until after laser hair removal and HRT to begin looking into facial surgeries and as next Wenesday quickly approaches I am more and more nervous about what to expect from my Therapy Session and what sort of timeline I am possibly looking at...

Dani

[Bionca]

First thing I'd look into with your school, is what sort of non-discrimination policy do they have? If it includes GLBT folks, you are probably OK. Legalities are going to be one of the toughest parts about transitioning. What does your state require for state ID's to change for instance. Documentation is one of the hardest parts to handle, so be prepared for a headache or two.

Transition happens at its own pace, so don't stress about that. I was lucky in that I had a therapist who wasn't invested in any outcome for me. She was open to the idea I was trans, but didn't make her living from people in transition. I'm a little conflicted as far as timeline for my process. On one hand, I wish I had started earlier - on the other, taking more time could have helped me ease into my life. In all though, I feel like people transition as they are able to and at the right pace. There is no expiration date on it, and it can be emotionally and physically taxing - so take your time and enjoy the process.