New T-Girl in Transition

[rambozo]

Originally Posted by ila

Hi Dani,

I am sure that there are a lot of men in the world that are looking for a long term relationship. I am one of those who would like to have a long term relationship. I would especially like a long term relationship with a transwoman. She would definitely not have to hide her past or who she is from me. If I was in a relationship with a transwoman I would support her at all times. I would encourage her to be herself and I would not hestitate to introduce her to my family and friends. If she wanted to let anyone know her background then I would support her in that too. There are other men that feel this way also.

Anyone that would require to hide who you are and what you have been is not worth having a relationship with.

I wish you all the best for the future. You definitely have a hard row to hoe and I do hope you have many good friends who support you. I'm sure that you will always find a sympathetic ear at this site.

[Dani]

You guys are very supportive and I hope you are all right and that the future holds good things...Now if I could only tell my family and friends! I have attempted to tell a few people but the only ones that believe me are the Trans* group locally everyone else laughs at me like I am joking.

Thanks for the support and I look forward to jumping into the conversations here!

[transjen]

Trust me on this the first step is the hardest but things will get a bit easier as the little steps you take start to snowball it's a long road but there is light at the end of the tunnel, I wish you all the best
Jerseygirl Jen

[Dani]

Jennifer,

Thank you for the very kind words of encouragement. I have been fighting with this since I was 11 and I have always fluctuated in whether I want to do it or not being a Roman Catholic and hoping to someday be a politician (which in this day in age a Transgendered politician is not so far-fetched) but this time around I have found support from a support group in the downtown area but I still am afraid of not making my parents proud or even god forbid upsetting them!

Not to sound stalkerish Jen but I have read some of your posts and I think you are a great role model for someone like me!

[transjen]

Looks like we have a few things in common to start with i'm Roman Catholic also , and i knew i should have been a girl since i was 6 or 7, Since your just starting you should be able to hide this from your parents for the time being but sooner or late they'll start to notice the changes.
Telling my mother was the hardest thing i ever had to do and it didn't go over very well, Perhaps your therapist can help you out with how to break the news to your parents. But i don't think there is a easy way to do it if there is i wish someone had told me lol
I also had douts at first and was asking myself what the f are you doing this will never workout but i kept going looking back yeah i made mistakes and i proably hurt some people i never wanted too but today i'm very happy with my life
Jerseygirl Jen

[Dani]

Just curious do you still attend Mass? (even only on Easter and X-mas like most) or have you decide to go a more secular route?

I really wish there were an easy button like staples for this but unfortunately there is not! I have rethought my life pursuits and find that I can still be happy even if I am not the First Transgender President but I have thought about continuing medical studies in Physical Therapy or Nursing or even working (since I know the area pretty well) to work legally for Transgenders and GLBTQ matters.

Thanks Jen BTW where did you go for your SRS?

[transjen]

I'm sad to say that for awhile i went the secular route for a number of years I'm sure the nuns would say see what happens when you take a child out of a Catholic school and put them into a public school but lately i've been working my way back to the proper way every sunday and special days, I even joined a parish not the one i grew up in thou, Guess i'm to scared to go back to my old parish
The medical field is a very good choice as is computers, I got blackballed out of my old career and had to find other kinds of work i had a lot of crappy jobs till i landed my current job at Nations Bank
For the final surgery i wanted to go to DR MARCI BOWERS but there was noway i could afford her so i went to Thailand and got DR SUPORN
Jerseygirl Jen

[rockabilly]

Welcome Dani , Good luck to you in your journey. I wish you all the best in all you do. Welcome to the forum and i hope you enjoy yourself. Now i want and may have found a ltr w/ a great girl ... but as for now it is also a ldr which has it's downsides. But we are working w/ it.

[Dani]

Thanks Rock! It makes me feel so good that there are decent good men out there that are understanding of Transmen on their path to womenhood.

[rockabilly]

You are more than welcome Dani , just stay true to yourself and follow your heart. The rest will fall into place. :D

[JodieTs]

Originally Posted by Dani

...Now if I could only tell my family and friends!
I have attempted to tell a few people but the only ones that believe me are the Trans* group locally everyone else laughs at me like I am joking

When I told my brother & his wife, she thought I was telling an elaborate joke.
A year later she was chatting about a recent visit I'd made to them.
She confided to my mum
"If you didn't know Misha before, you would never know she was not born a woman"

It will all come together.

Support groups
http://www.tvchix.com/forum/index.php
The forums have lots of Ts's offerring advice help ect.


http://www.nuttycats.co.uk/furry/about_us.php
Ts only support group
You will be heavily vetted.
Don't mention my name, Misha, as they kicked me out after 3 years there!
Some knowledgeable Ts's there, but the site owner & two of the mods have severe mental issues {Their own theads talk about that} So just a heads up, still worth joining as the medical forum section is superb.

http://www.gendertrust.org.uk/n2/p01.php?id=2
uk based tg support group

http://www.gires.org.uk/
uk educational support...great leaflets you can download, which you can give to others to help them understand about this tg /ts thing

http://www.amazon.com/True-Selves-Un...4785217&sr=8-1
A great book which does the same. I bought for my parents. Mum read it twice & found it hugely helpful both for herself & when chatting with dad about it all. Dad is really supportive to me as well, but not really into reading non-fiction books.

Anyway there's some stuff to be going on with.

Also, despite this site being called transladyboy
(to my surprise & delight) it has some good people on it.
Ts's who talk sensibly,
the mods are really good
& on this forum, a lot of the men also come across as supportive.
In between the sex threads there are some really useful threads for you.

Hugs,

Misha. xxx