New T-Girl in Transition

[chelsea]

pics?.....

[Dani]

I suppose I should change the wording that I am not personally looking ...yet! As I have just started transitioning I really have enough emotionally on my plate then to add a relationship to it I suppose I was just curious if there were really Males out there that were looking for long-term rather then a one night stand or for Jacking off material online. (Not that there is anything wrong with that!)

As a person in transition I suppose what I was getting at was whether I can look forward to a relationship with someone who accepts who I am (and was!) Or whether I would have to attempt to hide it to find love!

Looking for input from other Transgenders and males.

Hope this wasn't too deep for a forum that seems like a lot of fun good people!

[rambozo]

Hi Dani,
I wish you the best!

[ila]

Originally Posted by Dani

I suppose I should change the wording that I am not personally looking ...yet! As I have just started transitioning I really have enough emotionally on my plate then to add a relationship to it I suppose I was just curious if there were really Males out there that were looking for long-term rather then a one night stand or for Jacking off material online. (Not that there is anything wrong with that!)

As a person in transition I suppose what I was getting at was whether I can look forward to a relationship with someone who accepts who I am (and was!) Or whether I would have to attempt to hide it to find love!

Looking for input from other Transgenders and males.

Hope this wasn't too deep for a forum that seems like a lot of fun good people!

Hi Dani,

I am sure that there are a lot of men in the world that are looking for a long term relationship. I am one of those who would like to have a long term relationship. I would especially like a long term relationship with a transwoman. She would definitely not have to hide her past or who she is from me. If I was in a relationship with a transwoman I would support her at all times. I would encourage her to be herself and I would not hestitate to introduce her to my family and friends. If she wanted to let anyone know her background then I would support her in that too. There are other men that feel this way also.

Anyone that would require to hide who you are and what you have been is not worth having a relationship with.

I wish you all the best for the future. You definitely have a hard row to hoe and I do hope you have many good friends who support you. I'm sure that you will always find a sympathetic ear at this site.

[rambozo]

Originally Posted by ila

Hi Dani,

I am sure that there are a lot of men in the world that are looking for a long term relationship. I am one of those who would like to have a long term relationship. I would especially like a long term relationship with a transwoman. She would definitely not have to hide her past or who she is from me. If I was in a relationship with a transwoman I would support her at all times. I would encourage her to be herself and I would not hestitate to introduce her to my family and friends. If she wanted to let anyone know her background then I would support her in that too. There are other men that feel this way also.

Anyone that would require to hide who you are and what you have been is not worth having a relationship with.

I wish you all the best for the future. You definitely have a hard row to hoe and I do hope you have many good friends who support you. I'm sure that you will always find a sympathetic ear at this site.

[Dani]

You guys are very supportive and I hope you are all right and that the future holds good things...Now if I could only tell my family and friends! I have attempted to tell a few people but the only ones that believe me are the Trans* group locally everyone else laughs at me like I am joking.

Thanks for the support and I look forward to jumping into the conversations here!

[transjen]

Trust me on this the first step is the hardest but things will get a bit easier as the little steps you take start to snowball it's a long road but there is light at the end of the tunnel, I wish you all the best
Jerseygirl Jen

[Dani]

Jennifer,

Thank you for the very kind words of encouragement. I have been fighting with this since I was 11 and I have always fluctuated in whether I want to do it or not being a Roman Catholic and hoping to someday be a politician (which in this day in age a Transgendered politician is not so far-fetched) but this time around I have found support from a support group in the downtown area but I still am afraid of not making my parents proud or even god forbid upsetting them!

Not to sound stalkerish Jen but I have read some of your posts and I think you are a great role model for someone like me!

[rockabilly]

Welcome Dani , Good luck to you in your journey. I wish you all the best in all you do. Welcome to the forum and i hope you enjoy yourself. Now i want and may have found a ltr w/ a great girl ... but as for now it is also a ldr which has it's downsides. But we are working w/ it.

[JodieTs]

Originally Posted by Dani

...Now if I could only tell my family and friends!
I have attempted to tell a few people but the only ones that believe me are the Trans* group locally everyone else laughs at me like I am joking

When I told my brother & his wife, she thought I was telling an elaborate joke.
A year later she was chatting about a recent visit I'd made to them.
She confided to my mum
"If you didn't know Misha before, you would never know she was not born a woman"

It will all come together.

Support groups
http://www.tvchix.com/forum/index.php
The forums have lots of Ts's offerring advice help ect.


http://www.nuttycats.co.uk/furry/about_us.php
Ts only support group
You will be heavily vetted.
Don't mention my name, Misha, as they kicked me out after 3 years there!
Some knowledgeable Ts's there, but the site owner & two of the mods have severe mental issues {Their own theads talk about that} So just a heads up, still worth joining as the medical forum section is superb.

http://www.gendertrust.org.uk/n2/p01.php?id=2
uk based tg support group

http://www.gires.org.uk/
uk educational support...great leaflets you can download, which you can give to others to help them understand about this tg /ts thing

http://www.amazon.com/True-Selves-Un...4785217&sr=8-1
A great book which does the same. I bought for my parents. Mum read it twice & found it hugely helpful both for herself & when chatting with dad about it all. Dad is really supportive to me as well, but not really into reading non-fiction books.

Anyway there's some stuff to be going on with.

Also, despite this site being called transladyboy
(to my surprise & delight) it has some good people on it.
Ts's who talk sensibly,
the mods are really good
& on this forum, a lot of the men also come across as supportive.
In between the sex threads there are some really useful threads for you.

Hugs,

Misha. xxx

[citoyen]

Originally Posted by Dani

I suppose I should change the wording that I am not personally looking ...yet! As I have just started transitioning I really have enough emotionally on my plate then to add a relationship to it I suppose I was just curious if there were really Males out there that were looking for long-term rather then a one night stand or for Jacking off material online. (Not that there is anything wrong with that!)

As a person in transition I suppose what I was getting at was whether I can look forward to a relationship with someone who accepts who I am (and was!) Or whether I would have to attempt to hide it to find love!

Looking for input from other Transgenders and males.

Hope this wasn't too deep for a forum that seems like a lot of fun good people!

here can not be given advice. It is a question of confidence
between two partners. but I believe love should not be built on disappointment. my best wishes and friendly greetings

[Dani]

I hope that disappointment isn't what my future relationships are based upon but I suppose everyone gets disappointed sometime!

[citoyen]

Originally Posted by Dani

I hope that disappointment isn't what my future relationships are based upon but I suppose everyone gets disappointed sometime!

a relationship must be re-conquered every day. disappointments are inevitable. and yet ...

[Dani]

Citoyen, that is very true!

The reason that my friend calls me Olivia is because of William Shakespeare's Hamlet. Olivia is to be Hamlet's wife and after losing her mind commits suicide! She jokes that Olivia is my new name because of my "sudden" (in her opinion) change of mind...obviously as my friend she wishes me no ill-will...but still.

I think I may have found a name that fits my personality, interests, and heritage but again. I am not even truly living part time so I am not going to box myself into one name!

Jen, that is so great!!! Congrats to you and Eric! I wish you guys the best!

Dani

[rockabilly]

Choosing a name is a big step. I'm partial to these names...
1. Sarah ( current flame )
2. Willow ( from Buffy the Vampire Slayer )
3. Caitlyn
4. Anna
5. Donna

I'm lucky as my name is Billy , I can readily change it depending on my mood...
1. William
2. Will
3. Liam
4. Bill
:D

[tslust]

Originally Posted by Dani

I suppose I should change the wording that I am not personally looking ...yet! As I have just started transitioning I really have enough emotionally on my plate then to add a relationship to it I suppose I was just curious if there were really Males out there that were looking for long-term rather then a one night stand or for Jacking off material online. (Not that there is anything wrong with that!)

As a person in transition I suppose what I was getting at was whether I can look forward to a relationship with someone who accepts who I am (and was!) Or whether I would have to attempt to hide it to find love!

Looking for input from other Transgenders and males.

Hope this wasn't too deep for a forum that seems like a lot of fun good people!

There are some guys that are looking for a long term relationship. But many are simply looking for a cheap thrill.

[Dani]

Jen,
I have picked out a few names that I like and similar to your method of finding a name a friend of mine keeps calling me Olivia which I like but not for the reasons she does!!!

TSlust,
I understand that and interestingly enough since I am still very masculine I have run into a few good guys and some other interested in thrills! They both have their places I suppose!

Thank you guys for the feedback on some of the issues I am facing.

Dani

[transjen]

Originally Posted by Dani

Jen,
I have picked out a few names that I like and similar to your method of finding a name a friend of mine keeps calling me Olivia which I like but not for the reasons she does!!!

TSlust,
I understand that and interestingly enough since I am still very masculine I have run into a few good guys and some other interested in thrills! They both have their places I suppose!

Thank you guys for the feedback on some of the issues I am facing.

Dani

Olivia is not a bad name do you resemble Olivia Newton John? FYI my old name was Jeff a name i hated and for finding a long term relationship yes it's very possiable my boyftiend Eric has been with me for almost 4 years now and next june we are planing on getting married so yes it can happen


Jerseygirl Jen

[johndowe]

Hi there.

Congratulations, Jen, hope you'll be happy.


JohnDowe.

[johndowe]

Originally Posted by Dani

Jen,
I have picked out a few names that I like and similar to your method of finding a name a friend of mine keeps calling me Olivia which I like but not for the reasons she does!!!

TSlust,
I understand that and interestingly enough since I am still very masculine I have run into a few good guys and some other interested in thrills! They both have their places I suppose!

Thank you guys for the feedback on some of the issues I am facing.

Dani

Hi there.

Why DOES she call you Olivia, and why do you like it?

Funny thing, when i took the name Sandra as my TV name, it was because of Olivia Newton John's character in the movie "Grease", if you are curious about me, you can go in the "General discussion" section, and look at the "Fear VS Respect" Thread.

JohnDowe.