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Old 08-11-2009
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I have been with my girl for about a year - with a stupid lapse of a few months while I was stupid and got freaked out . She was good enough to accept my apology and we have been a thing ever since.

While I don't have any problems with porn (I actually kinda like it ) It is weird that I couldn't find anyplce to talk about this that wasn't either a dating site or a porn site. The guys on the porn sites seem lots more honest and willing to talk to each other than on the dating sites, so here I am.

I also think we need more representation and more talking among ourselves. One problem I have is that I think it's hard to date a t-girl, but I don't want to bring that up to her because she will probably take it the wrong way (sorry baby - being honest). Having a group online to ask questions or just rant and vent and work things out would be cool. Since dating my girl I start to understand that she has lots of problems just trying to have a life and she had gone through lots of crap. I feel like I'd just be dumping my own weirdness on her. Hope that doesn't sound dumb.
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I have been with my girl for about a year - with a stupid lapse of a few months while I was stupid and got freaked out . She was good enough to accept my apology and we have been a thing ever since.

While I don't have any problems with porn (I actually kinda like it ) It is weird that I couldn't find anyplce to talk about this that wasn't either a dating site or a porn site. The guys on the porn sites seem lots more honest and willing to talk to each other than on the dating sites, so here I am.

I also think we need more representation and more talking among ourselves. One problem I have is that I think it's hard to date a t-girl, but I don't want to bring that up to her because she will probably take it the wrong way (sorry baby - being honest). Having a group online to ask questions or just rant and vent and work things out would be cool. Since dating my girl I start to understand that she has lots of problems just trying to have a life and she had gone through lots of crap. I feel like I'd just be dumping my own weirdness on her. Hope that doesn't sound dumb.
Not dumb at all. I agree, that these relationships have many more hurdles than we'd sometimes like to face. Just a few examples may include:
1. Realizing whether it's our side interest or if it is truly what suits us for a relationship.
2. Getting over insecurities about whether you're gay or not.
3. Feeling comfortable in public when people may be staring or thinking your partnership is a bit strange.
4. Opening up to friends and family.
5. Being together when distance is usually invloved.
6. Work and financial considerations if you have to travel.
7. Accepting not having children.
8. Visas.
9. Cultural differences.
10. Just getting along and growing the relationship, which at times can be challenging as we're not so familiar with how to make a transwoman feel special and how to avoid hurting them.

These are just a few of the many possible obstacles on the path, but for some of us, who know these relationships make us truly happy, they must be overcome, and a support community, who's role would be to assist and advise through that journey would be of great value to both the MELT and Transwomen communities.

Thanks for your input and perspective Newdude Wish you continued happiness in your relationship
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I feel like I'd just be dumping my own weirdness on her.
I didn't really notice that before, but it's a very good point.

When we first spend time with and get close to a transwoman we're usually going through a dramatic phase of self-discovery and it's normal, but dangerous to want to run every idea past out new friend.

Some of this will sound childish to her and other things she'll have little idea about, because she not likely to see things from the same perspective as a transwoman desiring man.

It's better to spend more time on making her feel special; dealing with the psychological investigations amongst a community of like minds who've been through it.
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interesting thread. for a long time, i was desperate for some kind of "identity". as much as labels are just something for people who do not feel they belong to one thing so they can point out another group and say "i'm not that", there's certainly some appeal in having an identity, not a label. to me at least.

all the above points mentoned arevery good ones by the way. it's a very interesting discussion. for a long time i had serious battles with myself about whether i was gay or not. i now know i'm not, but straight is a term that doesn't quite fit either.

someone remind me what pansexual means?

by the way i do have a girlfriend (genetic), and she knows about my little "fetsih", but since i told her we have hardly spoken about it and im not sure how comfortable she is with it. i'm not UNattracted to vagina by a long shot, i'm quite partial to it, but i admit that cock is a preference (i certainly think cock LOOKS far better...the vagina looks like some vicious plant that wants to destroy whatever goes in it). having said that, i only think that in my head, and encountering it in real life might provoke an entirely different reaction. unlikely though.

back to the tpoic at hand though, yes, i would rather have an identity. on the other hand, only a handful of people know my true sexual preference, and i'm not sure how i'd feel about being open about my real "identity" in public. sometimes i think gay people have it easier than us because of (GENERALLY) how accepted they are now. but tgirl admirers? we're one of societies little "problems" that get ignored, like the tgirls themselves.

i can only hope that one day things will change, and we'll all be able to walk around, openly honest about who and what we are without fear of judgement for it
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someone remind me what pansexual means?
A pansexual is somebody attracted to people of all genders. And by all genders, I don't just mean men and women, but all the other ones in between - transsexuals, transvestites, intersexed, agendered, all the gender identities under the sun.
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sometimes i think gay people have it easier than us because of (GENERALLY) how accepted they are now. but tgirl admirers? we're one of societies little "problems" that get ignored, like the tgirls themselves.

i can only hope that one day things will change, and we'll all be able to walk around, openly honest about who and what we are without fear of judgement for it
I'm only commenting on this generally, and not directing this at you personally.

The general acceptance of gay people, while 40+ years in the making, didn't happen because people were quiet and afraid. It happened because some people couldn't/didn't want to lie and hide. With each individual person "coming out" eventually attitudes changed and more people were safe in being honest and so on and so on.
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I'm only commenting on this generally, and not directing this at you personally.

The general acceptance of gay people, while 40+ years in the making, didn't happen because people were quiet and afraid. It happened because some people couldn't/didn't want to lie and hide. With each individual person "coming out" eventually attitudes changed and more people were safe in being honest and so on and so on.
Quite true!!

And I think it's worth noting that it may be considerably easier to come out as a transwoman lover, due to the simple fact that the average straight guy usually finds them somewhat attractive.

With several friends I told, I showed them a few pics and once they confirmed they'd 'Do That' I informed them that is was a transwoman. That kind of made it hard for them to make a smart assed comment. :D
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I personally think that ladyboy lovers could be better described as "bi", rather "straight" or "homosexual". Or maybe "bi+"?
And I don't think we are any minority at all. Or at least we shouldn't feel and behave this way. We're as normal as any other people, so let's put all those hesitations aside. We just like beauty and that's not our fault if sometimes LBs are prettier than "natural" girls, especially those in Asia!
Well, that's how I think. Any suggestions?
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Hi there.

Beeing ignored is not always a bad thing.

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