Does liking shemales make you gay?

[Naked Freedom]

its a common problem among people who feel to change their birth sex...

Rules created by the society are so strange. i don't know why everyone around have to bother with what one feels about self .... why just they tend to their own business? Why do they have to add to the already existin problems of people who want to change their sex? Why they cant let them be what they want? afterall they arent causing any harm to others......
Why is shame associated with these things???? why people change their outlook on people if they change their sex or their sexual preference (same sex ) comes to light ???????
and we thought homo sapiens are social animals..... if this is social then being lonely is much better.....
but again homo sapiens are emotional beings and cant let their loved ones be hurt by actions of their self....therefore tries to blend with the rules of the society to save their family from shame.....
pondering on these drives them crazy.... but still they will stick to it.... to keep their family binded and save them from shame.....
i dont know about the rest of the world but where i live the situation is very much like the way i have described above.....
i feel choked and want to flee and let my loved ones know that i am doing well as they know me but lead a life hidden from them which satisfies me?
but the thought of separation forever makes my heart cry..........

Sorry if i compounded ur problems but i very much feel like living in a cage.......

[ila]

crossingoceans, you need more help than you will be able to get on this site. I urge you to see a qualified therapist. I realize that this will not be cheap, but at least you will get the help that you need and deserve. I would also urge you to do some research and checking so that you can find a therapist that you feel comfortable with.

[hankhavelock]

I do agree completely with Ila - take this seriously, get some support and move on from there. This forum is probably not the place to expect true guidance. Yes, a lot of good is going on here, but I doubt we have many pro-therapists on board.

From your posting it's not completely clear if you consider yourself a trans* (at least I was in doubt as to your point about this), but no matter what then you sound like a very good person with a problem you have to come to grips with.

But you're undoubtedly completely ok! And all the hazzle you meet is based on stupidity and lack of empathy from your surroundings - and that is very common, sadly.

Best wishes

H

[tslust]

I agree with ila as well. I will say that I used to really struggle with trying to live-up to other people's expectations of what and who I should be. Ultimantely, its your life. Your opinion of yourself matters far more than anyone else's.

[Vanillas]

Originally Posted by ila

crossingoceans, you need more help than you will be able to get on this site. I urge you to see a qualified therapist. I realize that this will not be cheap, but at least you will get the help that you need and deserve. I would also urge you to do some research and checking so that you can find a therapist that you feel comfortable with.

crossingoceans, I agree with Ila and Hank. The best "help" you are likely to get on this forum are facile cliches along the lines of "Don't Worry, Be Happy" or "Life is too short to feel guilty." I, too, urge you to find a qualified therapist.