Secret Love for Trans*women

[Bionca]

Ila, smc and rockabilly - you guys are totally the guys I didn't intend this thread to be about.

Now I understand the desire for personal safety and how that plays out in dating a trans* woman. What I'm curious to know is how guys who responded in the other thread with answers more on the "very secret" end of the pole feel about the issue and how they handle it/ why they feel that way/ if it needs to change (in their perspective).

Lopey-

Having an existing relationship is a vastly different thing. One could draw paralells to men and women who come out a gay/lesbian later in life after marriage and families. Or trans* folks in the same position really. In that case I think the question is more "is this attraction worth the damage to my family, can I maintain both and still feel honest or at least mitigate any damage to any parties involved."