is flirting with a shemale same as flirting with a girl??

[Vanillas]

I am sure there are exceptions to the following but I believe the answer is: One should flirt with a translady the same as he would a genetic female. I have been chatting (online) with transladies on two very different sites. The first is what could be loosely termed a porn site. The models are referred to as shemales and men usually encourage them to either remove (yet another) item of clothing or to perform various sex acts. Perhaps calling such requests "flirting" might be a stretch. Still, the ladies are more responsive to respectful requests than demands and compliments such as "You have a nice smile" seem to go further than "I'd like you to stick that cock up my ass."

The second site is touted as a dating site for transexuals - and their admirers - and consists of a single chat room in which members hold multiple and simultaneous conversations. In this respect it is like a cocktail party and, like a cocktail party, the topics discussed are many and varied. It is all very above board (suggestive usernames are banned) but of course the participants can private message one another and take it to a more intimate level. I have not yet done that but I can tell you that I usually chat differently with members having female names than I do those with male names. Put differently, I am more apt to engage in flirtatious talk with the former. And (finally) here is my point: Without even knowing what stage in the transition process a given Translady is, I find myself talking/flirting with her no differently than I would a gg lady.

I hope this helps.

[srg.rod]

thanks i give it a shot

[Bionca]

You flirt with a Trans* woman, the same as you flirt with any other person. You make eye contact, try to strike up a conversation, feel like a fool for a few minutes, and hope for the best.

One thing I will caution you about is feeling embarrassed or guilty. We see that all the time and it gets pretty old pretty quick. Make sure that you are OK with yourself before you try to meet someone face-to-face.

Don't build us up to be some sort of mysterious exotic treat. We are above all else people and above that individuals. We each have specific likes and dislikes so there is no real "how to.." with Trans* as there is with cis* men or women.

[Creedence]

You want to know how to flirt with a transsexual woman?

You just flirt exactly how you would normally.

[rockabilly]

Good tips Bionca , But i have a shy personality and when i try flirting i sound foolish. I send messages to a tgirl i think is smart and pretty but i think i sound like a fool Am i just hopeless or what

[franalexes]

Originally Posted by rockabilly

Good tips Bionca , But i have a shy personality and when i try flirting i sound foolish. I send messages to a tgirl i think is smart and pretty but i think i sound like a fool Am i just hopeless or what

Okay, I'm game. Have at it pretty boy.

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by Bionca

We are above all else people and above that individuals.

That's the point I've always been trying to make...feebly... you are above all, and above all YOURSELF!

So well put, Mizzy B

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[rockabilly]

It's so poetic in it's simplicity yet so elusive in practice. Like Morrisey said "it's hard to stand tall when your small", being self concience is my problem. But getting to know someone first lets me get into a comfort zone and open up more ( no pun intended )

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by rockabilly

It's so poetic in it's simplicity yet so elusive in practice. Like Morrisey said "it's hard to stand tall when your small", being self concience is my problem. But getting to know someone first lets me get into a comfort zone and open up more ( no pun intended )

"Shyness is nice, but shyness can stop you from doing all the things in life you'd like to." - The Smiths

As someone is is painfully shy in person, I totally understand. Being oblivious to other's flirtations doesn't actually help either *shrug*

[rockabilly]

Hi Bionca, you a smiths fan too? I find it hard to pick up when someone flirts w/ me. I think it's because of low self esteem. I do great w/ friends but meeting new people ... I just clam up or start rambling. But posting here seems to help. I don't really have anyone to talk to about my love for trans women And being surrounded by redneck bigots does nothing to put me at ease. Sorry to rant talk to you later Ms. Bionca

[BigToy4Asia]

Originally Posted by Bionca

"Shyness is nice, but shyness can stop you from doing all the things in life you'd like to." - The Smiths

As someone is is painfully shy in person, I totally understand. Being oblivious to other's flirtations doesn't actually help either *shrug*

Bionca: your advice is some of the best, most helpful, most well thought out - most intelligent I have read. And I imagine that applies to far more topics than just this forum.

So it fascinates me that you consider yourself "painfully shy in person"... but then I've said the same about myself in the past, so, I can kind of see where you are coming from.

Anyway, I just felt like saying something encouraging, because you are truly inspirational. Which country do you live in? I imagine you'd be a fascinating person to have coffee with!