To Hell with all of It

[new believer]

First and foremost Ms. B, glad your feeling better than your bout a few weeks ago in the hospitol. As for TDOR, I only became aware through your blog (and after it passed)and I'm sure many people have no clue to it's existing. Sometimes memorials just have a hard time spreading about. My point is ,I'm not making excuses for those who chose to ignore the plights of TG's but just don't give up on everyone or in the message. Write to a local/national TV news program 2/3 months before the next TDOR event. Explain to them the concept and also offer your assistance to help them cover the story. Then grab a few friends TG's or 'straight' supporters who are not the 'wild' and 'in your face' type, to present a viewpoint to the general public. People respond to other people being hurt but only if they are asked to help,not demanded. I know it sounds tough to swallow by some who believe(and rightly so) that everyone has a right to be treated with respect and not to be robbed raped and beaten,but face it,everyone is tired of being pushed around and everyone is in some form or other. Good luck. One more thing, contact others in other cities to do the same. Perhaps a string of coverage might just be the concept that is needed. Respectfully yours, NB

[Bionca]

Well, yes the ex is a jerk - and for the record I didn't even consider this latest attempt to "woo" me. I brought it up to show how my trans* friends were so resigned to a life of part-time secret relationships that this one was actually a "good catch". Some of my friends were obviously in the "you can do better girl" camp, some were kinda so/so, but there was a real majority who were telling me this really was about as good as it realistically gets.

I think it's this attitude that feeds the idea that guys are doing us a favor by paying us any attention at all. Seriously, why put up with someone who expects a diamond (figuratively) when there is someone just as cute willing to settle for a couple rocks.