Your girlfrend/wife a SUBSTIUTE SHEMALE?

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Originally Posted by tlover

Sounds like hes he's up to some of my tricks, i think you know he is definitely into shemales but he wont admit it, he's probably afraid of your reaction to it.
But it sounds like your not totally uncomfortable with the situation, i fact i think you are getting a bit of a kick out of it.
I would love my girlfriend to be as accepting about it but i think she would be upset.
I recon given time you will both come to accept this part of his sexuality.

I don't want to upset you but it could something much more than just a small part of his sexuality mabey he has been hiding this for a long time and its become a major part of his life.
I think you need to find out just how far he is involved, especially since you both seem to very open to each other normally where sex is concerned, why has this changed?

I am trying very hard to accept all of him, the only thing is ( and I am not the one with a problem as far as communicating goes) he won't open up and talk to me. I will admit that I am a little hurt that he would rather wank off watching shemales rather then making love to me. He watches his porno dvd every chance he gets. I kind of feel rejected. I told him I was hurt and felt rejected and he told me to throw his shemale dvd away he didn't need it. Though I know he had another one before and I will admit when I first found it I was sickened by it. (till I read up on alot and also came here) So I scratched the dvd and well, he got another one. I know that he can not live without his shemale dvd and if I throw the one he has away, he will only go and buy another one. Even after telling him my ideas and such, he has been silent.
Last night I dressed up sexy and went into the bedroom and got into bed, he told me he loved me and rolled over and went to sleep. Then he has the nerve to ask if I am mad at him. I got upset went into the bathroom took everything off and got fully dressed ( bra,shirt,panties and shorts)and then went back to bed. What was I suppose to do. I started crying but he didn't care.
All I can say as yeah I know his likes and have been very accepting of him and have been trying to indulge him and I get nothing. I don't know what else there is that I can do.
At first I thought that his facinaction with shemales was small, but being honest with myself I think it goes alot further then that. I think he would like to be with one and also I feel if he had ever gotten or gets the chance to, he will.
( I know this has nothing to do with it well the topic I mean) we have been together for over two years (living) and I brought up marriage and he said he wasn't ready to commit to me. I think and feel that his fascination with shemales has something to do with that.
He's an incredible man outside the bedroom but if he can't show me love then he will lose the only person that may know about his facination and someone who was/is willing to accept and indulge in his fantasies. I don't know what more I can do.