Does liking shemales make you gay?

[belfagar]

No. Your the one struggling with this and only you can be gay or not. I am not gay. Homosexuals dont like female forms like we do. I just love t-girls.

[twistedone]

Sigh

An age old question I've read a hundred....if not a thousand times?

Only YOU can answer these questions.

1. Do you get only sexually aroused with the thought of sex with a person of the same sex? If so, you might be gay. Accept it.

2. Do you get sexually aroused with the thought of sex with both sexes? If so, you aren't gay, your bisexual. Lucky dog, you have the best of both worlds.

3. Do you only get sexually aroused with the thought of sex with the opposite sex? Your a heterosexual.

It really doesn't concern me what your answer is. Either way, your life can still be fun and exciting. Thats up to you.

[Bionca]

I consider myself heterosexual who at one point mis-identified as a gay man. So, I'm a straight girl with gay-male sensabilities.. talk about the best of both worlds....

Oh god, I'm such a tranny fag-hag

[LoverofShemales]

First of all... thanks to all who took the time to reply to my question and to be honest, the more time I spend here at this website, reading responses and questions... I actually feel special and unique because of the level of open mindedness (is that a word?) and honesty of those who visit here.

Thanks again for the responses and after everthing... I am who I am and that's it!

[tommyver1]

Originally Posted by Bionca

I consider myself heterosexual who at one point mis-identified as a gay man. So, I'm a straight girl with gay-male sensabilities.. talk about the best of both worlds....

Oh god, I'm such a tranny fag-hag

Hey Bionca, you are not hetero, you are divine...
I love your spirit, I'm "married" with lovely Tgal and you have the same irony
and good spirit...

[brianna]

I enjoyed the comments from Hank, Bionca and others. In my opinion, we are all different, and to try to classify or peg us as stereotypes, it's not going to work most of the time.

I feel that all of us are subject to criticism, verbal attacks, and attempts at humiliation, no matter whether we are straight or anything else. To adjust our life, our outlook, our relationships, and our behavior largely based on other people's thought and comments is to not be true to ourselves. You can judge how much of a conformist to be, but I suggest we always move toward bettering ourselves during our lifetime.

And to answer the original question "am I gay?", I'd say no. That's not where most of us are, since many of us are attracted to the female form.

Sorry if I sound preachy- just expressing myself.

lots of love...

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by brianna

I enjoyed the comments from Hank, Bionca and others. In my opinion, we are all different, and to try to classify or peg us as stereotypes, it's not going to work most of the time.

I feel that all of us are subject to criticism, verbal attacks, and attempts at humiliation, no matter whether we are straight or anything else. To adjust our life, our outlook, our relationships, and our behavior largely based on other people's thought and comments is to not be true to ourselves. You can judge how much of a conformist to be, but I suggest we always move toward bettering ourselves during our lifetime.

And to answer the original question "am I gay?", I'd say no. That's not where most of us are, since many of us are attracted to the female form.

Sorry if I sound preachy- just expressing myself.

lots of love...

I agree completely - it would seem that the people who so vigorously need to label us as gay or what ever are the ones who have not really grasped the depths of transsexuality - neither for transsexual woman nor for the guys who are attracted to trans-women.

I usually smile when people present "absolutes" - they just need it to make their lives fit into the little boxes that the moral majority taught them are the true ones.

Besides, who cares if we are gay or str8 or freaks or just ourselves? We are a small minority of folks who happen to have a different outlook on sexuality and gender-identity. And as long as WE can handle it then that's all that really is important.

Peace!

H

[lblavr]

I never had sex with a man and after spending my first night with a ladyboy I felt so guilty and was afraid I might be gay.
today I enjoy cocks and cum more and more and I accept whatever I am.

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by twistedone

The only person that has to be happy with it is ourselves.

Stop the inner turmoil, accept what you are, and enjoy the heck out of it.

BRAVO!

[Bionca]

Very nicely put Twistedone. In Show Me Love's defence, he is right though. Once it is determined that your girl is trans, you become a "fag" as far as most people care.

I think that's part of the issue with a lot of guys. Guys who date me and gals like me need to come to terms with that BEFORE they try to date us or sex us up.

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by Bionca

Very nicely put Twistedone. In Show Me Love's defence, he is right though. Once it is determined that your girl is trans, you become a "fag" as far as most people care.

I think that's part of the issue with a lot of guys. Guys who date me and gals like me need to come to terms with that BEFORE they try to date us or sex us up.

Oh, come on now, darling Bionca... it isn't THAT bad! We don't have to come to terms with anything but our very own true way! Who cares what some strangers may whisper behind your back - and if they'd ever be gutsy enuff to confrount you, well, then just SMILE, throw out your arms and exclaim: YES! IM A TRANS-LOVER AND I'M SO HAPPY TO BE! And she loves me too!

[sesame]

Twistedone:

So what if a person calls you a fag, of queer if your gay. Its only a shallow label that fails to show your true self.

Are you willing to let a label run your life? Are you willing to allow someone to judge you and abide by their judgment?

Its really good stuff! Wow, man, Shakespeare would have been impressed by you. You could have inspired Dale Carnegie with that hot hot hot speech!

The only person that has to be happy with it is ourselves.

This one is pure inspiration.

[ila]

Originally Posted by hankhavelock

Oh, come on now, darling Bionca... it isn't THAT bad! We don't have to come to terms with anything but our very own true way! Who cares what some strangers may whisper behind your back - and if they'd ever be gutsy enuff to confrount you, well, then just SMILE, throw out your arms and exclaim: YES! IM A TRANS-LOVER AND I'M SO HAPPY TO BE! And she loves me too!

Well put Hank.

[LBLOVER]

It is all down to you

[twistedone]

It helps to feel secure about one's own sexuality then embrace it.

The cartoon character "Popeye" use to always say. "I yam what I yam".

Its my strong belief that the character was telling us to accept ourselves as we are.

Just my 2 cents worth.

Originally Posted by Bionca

Very nicely put Twistedone. In Show Me Love's defence, he is right though. Once it is determined that your girl is trans, you become a "fag" as far as most people care.

I think that's part of the issue with a lot of guys. Guys who date me and gals like me need to come to terms with that BEFORE they try to date us or sex us up.

[ShemaleFan_UK]

Who cares what people think or how they want to label us. Shemales are very special people and we are afficionados.

[porno4lyfe]

im a male, and i was wondering about it too, if i was gay, but im not i think there just hott and sexy.

[twistedone]

What more can I say? You are also right. People will still label you if you stray from what is the norm.

From my own personal experience though, labels cause more problems then benefit.

I'm older, and much wiser now, and I feel this is one reason why I have so much respect and admiration for the TS and TG. They have taken the bull by the horns, said "Screw it, I'm doing what I have to do for my own happiness and peace of mind".

That said, the TS and TG are really powers of examples for all of us.

Originally Posted by Bionca

Very nicely put Twistedone. In Show Me Love's defence, he is right though. Once it is determined that your girl is trans, you become a "fag" as far as most people care.

I think that's part of the issue with a lot of guys. Guys who date me and gals like me need to come to terms with that BEFORE they try to date us or sex us up.

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by twistedone

What more can I say? You are also right. People will still label you if you stray from what is the norm.

From my own personal experience though, labels cause more problems then benefit.

I'm older, and much wiser now, and I feel this is one reason why I have so much respect and admiration for the TS and TG. They have taken the bull by the horns, said "Screw it, I'm doing what I have to do for my own happiness and peace of mind".

That said, the TS and TG are really powers of examples for all of us.

Absolutely correct Twistedone - labels are only really useful as a kind of mental shorthand to describe groups of people based on commonalities. Aside from that, it's best to deal with people as individuals who happen to embody any number of labels at any given time - and break every single one of them all the time. The joy of personal interaction is getting past what we assume and finding the richness of each individual person.

[twistedone]

Well said Bionca. Embrace the individual, their strengths and shortcomings all as one.

Originally Posted by Bionca

Absolutely correct Twistedone - labels are only really useful as a kind of mental shorthand to describe groups of people based on commonalities. Aside from that, it's best to deal with people as individuals who happen to embody any number of labels at any given time - and break every single one of them all the time. The joy of personal interaction is getting past what we assume and finding the richness of each individual person.

[hankhavelock]

Originally Posted by Bionca

Absolutely correct Twistedone - labels are only really useful as a kind of mental shorthand to describe groups of people based on commonalities. Aside from that, it's best to deal with people as individuals who happen to embody any number of labels at any given time - and break every single one of them all the time. The joy of personal interaction is getting past what we assume and finding the richness of each individual person.

AMEN! And "phew"... then just mmmmmmmmmaybe I'm not a flaming queen...

[lebguy]

Well I think this question was asked millions of times. Seriously why do we care. It's not our sexual orientation that defines our life. We ask these question because we are afraid what others will say about us if they know. If we are gays, lesbiens or we love shemales what difference will it make. We will still be successful people in this society. So I say you careless about other people's opinion and live your life and be happy. We come here only once so enjoy it.

Now to answer this specific question as most here said, we are guys who love girls but with a little extra and as far as I am concerned I like all kind of girls with a little extra or not and I careless what other people say.

[rocketman]

I think what you are most attracted to is being the less dominant lover...thats what attracts me to t-girls...its still an attraction to females...just the curiosity of being on the other end of things...

[ila]

Does it really matter? Enjoy your attraction and quit worrying what others think and you then you will have a much happier life. You are the only whose opinion matters to yourself.

[JamesWest]

There are some very good comments here. I think the comment, to each his own is very appropriate here. For me I can look at a nude transsexual women and get totally turned on, but when I look at a nude man it does absolutely nothing for me. It actually turns me off. I think we forget the meaning of the word gay, simply put gay means happy and if you are happy with a transsexual great! If you are happy with a man, whatever floats your boat. Most people are generally happy so I would say that most people are generally "gay". Let's stop putting labels on everything and love one another. That will put a stop to all kinds of hate and hate crime. Just some of my thoughts on the issue, take it or leave it.

James

[BLUEJS75]

Hmmm..I'm definitely not gay, nor am I attracted to guys. I guess it's the whole feminine look with breasts and something extra.

Let's face it, guys look at porn. We're turned on to the girl and watching a cock in action. Put the cock on a shemale and there you have it..the best of both worlds!

[Benito]

I don't consider myself gay but I wouldn't mind a shemales cock in my mouth.

[CFKane]

I seem to be attracted to female bodybuilder like Denise Masino and Renita Harris but I also find women like Brooke Hogan and Brooke Shields ( the way she looks now) attractive because they look like women with a hint of masculinity.

I don't get into guys that look like a guy in any way but I do find that women with the strong cheek bones and jawlines like Erika Andersch (former American Gladiator) a real turn on. I went from FBB to Shemales while I still like "normal" hot chicks like Vida Guerra and Melyssa Ford but I find shemales like Patricia Aruajo, Amy, Anita Costa and Carla Renata equally as attractive.

I feel like the lines regarding sexual physical appearance have become more and more blurred over the years in ways that past generations never had to deal with or even contemplate. We have steroids and growth hormones that can make a very pretty, feminine woman like Denise Masino (she has a 4 inch clit) and turn her into a different hybrid type that didn't exist 20-30 years ago on the level of today. We also have plastic surgeons, great make up techniques and hormone therapy that can make a guy look like the most beautiful women with perfect tits and ass, flawless skin as well as a face that is more attractive than 85% of all "women."

My basic point is that we are in a totally different age and that your grandfathers rule don't necessarily apply in this constantly evolving hybrid sexuality. I am not attracted to a feminine form that appears more than 25% masculine. In the fashion world you see it a lot with models like Fredrique and Brigitte Nielsen and a few others that made a name with an exotic look that had elements of taboo.

p.s.

I see shemales like hot chicks, I would only bang them doggy and get a blow job but I am not interested in touching penis in any way. I do like to see thems jerking and with a erection will they are getting banged or blowing... but that's just me.

[DL_NL]

We don't live in a binary world, there's plenty between 0 and 1, i.e. hetero and gay. Life gets much easier when you stop pushing yourself into a single -perceived- niche.

[Pedro DB]

I was sitting upstairs in a bar the other night in Bangla Road, Patong trying to get some decent pictures for my blog. Suddenly a waitress appeared and pointed out onto the street. "Ladyboys!", she said in a warning tone. "I know", I replied.

"You Like?" she said a little taken aback. "I like everything I like" I responded. That's the truth - and presently includes Ladies & Ladyboys (Pre & Post Op) but not Men.

I've had the same discussion with friends of mine who also have similar interests and the short answer is that none of us believe we are gay. Having said that we don't care what anyone else thinks of us either. Accept us or take a hike is our motto.

My view is that I always take the most beautiful/sexiest whatever. Here in Thailand the Ladyboys are always sexier than the ladies - they just have a particular look and/or are more extrovert or (frequently) have a better build match for the average European.

My other friends who say they are only into ladies have had to agree that Ladyboys are incredibly sexy. So, who's kidding themself. Not me.

I don't consider myself as gay. Possibly, bi-sexual but generally don't even think about it.

Am I Happy? Oh Yes!

[trannycrazy]

Most people on this forum are not gay, we are attracted to the feminine features of beautiful women with a little something extra, if you were attracted to hairy arse men then you'd be gay, But there's no way i would suck a mans cock, and that probably goes for most people here, So just enjoy liking shemales, enjoy their beauty, and stop worrying that you're gay.

[SweetCharmer]

to help some people thinking of having sex with a shemale is that wonderful space between straight or gay when its neither

[ladylover]

I'm not gay. I had one gay experience while drunk with a friend. I thought, what the hell!? I hated it. I felt as though I needed to take a shower for days after the experience. My friend has asked me to "participate" with him several times since then, but I cannot and will not ever do that again. Even if I'm drunk, lol!

That being said, I did not know until recently that I am REALLY attracted to shemales. My favorite cousin had a sex change operation not too long ago. She (used to be he I guess) likes girls. This really confused me, but now I understand that is the way she feels. She was born a girl, but just had male genitals. She likes girls and that is what makes her happy. She used to be suicidal, but now all of those feelings are gone (since she had the operation). So, to me, she did the right thing by having a sex change.

After hearing this, I looked up shemales both pre op and post op. I was trying to understand why my best friend and closest family relative decided to do such a drastic change. While "investigating", I noticed that I am sooooooo attracted to shemales. At first, I kind of laughed and thought....."NO! They look just like girls! Therefore, I'm not gay and I don't like chicks that used to be dudes!"............

Right now, I'm in a wonderful relationship with a female. She's beautiful and everything that I've ever wanted. BUT, if I knew this before I got together with her, I would've pursued a relationship with either a female or shemale (which to me are females, but I have to be clear about things). My options would've been more open. I'm happy with who I am with though.

Now, when I look at porn, I like to look at females. Guys don't do it for me. BUT, almost every time that I look at porn, I will always check out shemales. There is something that makes my brain buzz while looking at shemales because I think they're beautiful (not all though! we like what we like).

I'll probably never experience sex with a shemale, because I want to spend the rest of my life with the girl that I am with and be monogamous. I'm happy with that. No regrets. BUT, if something happens to our relationship, you bet your ass that I would date a shemale and pursue a life together. But I wouldn't only pursue a shemale. I like girls. Some of them just so happen to have a dick! I'm an equal opportunity kind of guy.......


Sorry for the long post...but I'm glad to get this off my chest. I'm relieved that there are others out there that feel the same way. I hope you guys and gals accept me, and if I say something wrong...I'm sorry. I'm just trying to figure all of this out and accept myself for being...ME!