what is anal sex like?

[samantha69ding]

Originally Posted by dannoh

Hi, I'm sure this has to classed as a very newbie question, but, what is anal sex like? Is it smelly, is it painful, is it messy? What do people do to make anal sex better? If you use lube, what's your favourite?
I'm yet to experience anal sex, but I've just started looking to see if anyone in the south of the UK is interested (no joy yet) any advice will be warmly welcome, thank you xxx

How does it feel..?
I think you are referring to physical feelings & sensation.
As a former ladyboy I too have pondered on this question before but never have the guts to ask because it was a lot different back in the 80’s. Anal sex was a taboo and acceptance of transgender is not like today.

Anyway, as far as physical sensation goes, the explanation given by others are pretty much accurate but I find my own experience is not always as what they say. And for you to imagine how it feel like, you must have some sort of reference,… like experimenting with a good realistic dildo - not those hard plastic type or those vibrating type, real cock don’t vibrate. A good quality realistic silicon cock type dildo, as a point of reference.
Playing with fingers insertion don’t even come close. Things that I have tried - plastic toy baseball bat, carrot, banana, hammer handle, screwdriver handle - none of these come close.
Now from my own experience it ranges from wanting it to last forever to ass bleeding discomfort - but bare in mind that this was the 80’s and we have no internet, no knowledge of how to prepare for anal sex, no Lube (we used shampoo or Vaseline -yucks !), no butt plug, I was so n00b & dumb that the thought “would I get pregnant” had crossed my mind! Not kidding! All I knew then was to shit 1st before fucking which I learn it from inserting stuffs into my ass. And also I m a typical asian size, so at 16y.o I was only 157cm tall weighing about 50 kg - so cock size does matter. If I wrap my hand around his cock and my finger and thumb have a huge gap; I won’t want to put it in my ass. But a few of those alpha-male got aggressive and it really hurts, i literally shit out vaseline, blood and cum mix for the whole day & pain and sore for the next few days! So much for joy right?

But when I’m with the “right” guy, it is really like in heaven. Now if you have used the right dildo, you know how it feels inside your ass right? Then let’s imaging a step farther… take your hands off, not holding the dildo, but it magically slide in and out your ass…! how does that feel? …Now imaging this… there is a pair of stranger’s hand grabbing your upper thigh with his thumbs pulling open your bum cheeks and you feel his hand pulling your thigh towards him at the same time his cock sliding deeper and deeper into your ass and when your bump hit the base of his cock you felt his massive balls hitting your balls as you bounce back out feeling his cock sliding out your ass and it repeat over and over… get the idea?
And with that cock sliding in and out your ass… now, imaging… you have no control over how deep he slide his cock into your ass…. and also… you have no control over how fast his cock is sliding in and out your ass…

Do you get the idea now? and that’s just in doggy position!

There is another aspect which people rarely talk about is the emotional and psychological sensation. It makes a big different in overall feeling. I get no enjoyment from those rough fuckers who treat transgender like dirt or less than a human being. But however, even if the guy have huge cock like in 1 time, I think his must be about at least 7” and I have long finger nails and my thumb couldn’t touch my nails when I wrap around his cock, but him being so kind so nice, polite and gentle with me, it just melt my heart and I won’t resist him and do what he wishes. I just felt totally submitted to him. When he 1st penetrated me I cried out stop and he stop and the feel of know someone would listen to you… I think the pain it worth it and it is a different way of enjoyment, not the physical type but the emotional and psychological one. This is harder to explain.
So I hope this helps!

[filbert snerd]

good info here for the beginner, the silicon lubes are great but the less expensive ones will work but dry out or feel greasy while used. I shudder when a previous writer mentioned vaseline and blood. No, you don't want blood, it indicates a tear in the intestinal wall and you certainly do not want a tear, certainly use a condom on your penetrator. However, most tears will heal in 2-5 days if not severe, but avoid them by using a butt plug to expand anus and enough lube. A large dick (over 8 inches or very wide) should be avoided until you are practiced as a rough lover with a big dick can cause bleeding in a novice. Anal is wonderful to experience but takes a little getting used to to avoid pain and the dirtier aspects. To avoid the dirt practice cleaning until you are confident you are clean and use an 8 inch rubber dildo to check to see if you are clean. Everyone is different so practice with yourself or an understanding partner. Happy butt fucking to all, no matter which end you are plying.

[samantha69ding]

Originally Posted by filbert snerd

good info here for the beginner, the silicon lubes are great but the less expensive ones will work but dry out or feel greasy while used. I shudder when a previous writer mentioned vaseline and blood. No, you don't want blood, it indicates a tear in the intestinal wall and you certainly do not want a tear, certainly use a condom on your penetrator. However, most tears will heal in 2-5 days if not severe, but avoid them by using a butt plug to expand anus and enough lube. A large dick (over 8 inches or very wide) should be avoided until you are practiced as a rough lover with a big dick can cause bleeding in a novice. Anal is wonderful to experience but takes a little getting used to to avoid pain and the dirtier aspects. To avoid the dirt practice cleaning until you are confident you are clean and use an 8 inch rubber dildo to check to see if you are clean. Everyone is different so practice with yourself or an understanding partner. Happy butt fucking to all, no matter which end you are plying.

Lol... I know it was stupid of me but in the 1980's the situation was a lot different, I don't have money then. When I told my parents that I want to be a girl, they reduced my allowance to bare minimum and nearly dis-own me.
Vaseline, soap/shampoo were the only things that's affordable and I didn't know about sex lube until the 90's.
As for condom, I assumed condom were only for preventing pregnancy but since I m genetically a male - don't need it and usually the guys will bring their own. And then there were "creampie", Why most (if not all) guy unload it inside the ass? It is because we can't guaranty 100% clean rectum/colon and sometime they got poop on their cock and they do not want to hold it in their hand and jerk-off at the final moment. So they rather unload it inside and quickly go to the bathroom and wash it off. So it is not because we like bareback and creampie, it is just lack of knowledge.
An here is a kicker, you want to know how we (or at least I) clean our colon/rectum in the 80's? We use a 1/2" hose and squeeze a bit of mild shampoo (Johnson&Johnson "no more tear" baby shampoo - alert! advertisement! lol) and insert it into the ass and turn on the tap!
Ok enough... too embarrassing to talk about my stupid past! I m out of here!

[Pastorn]

It can be very painful for the one recieving if you are not careful. Be prepered for some surprises pulling out and you should definately use lube!!

[siennagrace69]

Anal sex is, put simply, heaven !

[Muyroo]

Though it may vary. Atleast for me its mainly about the feeling of being treated like a girl and also the realisation that hes deriving pleasure from it. The feeling of being gripped in his control is what actually excites. Apart from that the size of cock, thrust, lube.. etc does play a role.

[gretchen]

I have never had anal sex. But ever since I was 7 I started using like, my Mothers eye brow brush handle. Then moved up to tooth brush handles. OMG it felt wonderful. As I aged over 50 years I used homemade dildos, from toilet paper rolls, original small coke bottles (this was neat because the poop would go into the bottle) The biggest candle I ever used was 5" long and 21/2 inches wide. Lube used was either soap, Vaseline, or baby oil.

At 10 I gave my first blowjob to an older boy in the park. The next time I saw him, he called to me, I was afraid and ran away. At 11 a boy in my building and I began fooling around. I do believe I gave him blowjobs but I can't remember (is this normal?) doing it. It's like my mind won't let me remember. I do remember he tried to but fuck me. But I told him it hurt and made him stop.

Over the next 30 years I used all kinds of home made dildos. I got good at making them and no one ever knew. My Aunt almost caught me when she found some leftovers I had not yet thrown away. Her question was "Are you OK? Do you need help? Can I help you?. I told her everything was OK. I loved her very much and to this day wish I had asked her for help.

To this day I've never been able to have real anal sex or knowingly give a blowjob. I don't like men, don't find them attractive at all, but I do love cock.

My fantasies are all I have now. I can't get it up (Severe case of ED) anymore. But if I finger it like I do/did to my wife I ooze out a kind of nice tasting clear liquid or maybe it's pre-cum. I do have an organism when I do it. My wife hasn't been interested in sex of any kind since 1998. I have no anger for her she has her own problems and we have made a decent life for us these many years. Is this wrong of me to keep our relationship together all this time. Deigning my true self for us. I hope not. It may have been the one good thing I've ever done.

I know for all of my life I've been and am sexually confused. And forced myself to fit into the social norm. And still do for all of my 60+ years

When the time comes (not for a while yet I hope) I may leave instructions to put a nice brunette pixie wig, some sexy underwear, stockings and a slinky dress in my box.

Is all this crazy or what? What do you ladies think?
Bye Loves
Gretchen

[Julie95]

Anal sex is fantastic