Help...I keep thinking about being trans...

[SubmissiveCrossdresser]

ConfusedMe i am having the exact same feelings!!! Most of the time it makes me very horny thinking about it so for me i think its a really big fetish...

[ConfusedMe]

Originally Posted by JodieTs

That sounds a healthy balanced approach.
Have fun! xxx

Thank yoU!!

Originally Posted by SubmissiveCrossdresser

ConfusedMe i am having the exact same feelings!!! Most of the time it makes me very horny thinking about it so for me i think its a really big fetish...

No fetish here...

[luvasiants]

Hello...

What i learned by the trans girl i knew is that they are women, their way of act, talk, feel, and expecially their mind is totally feminine...
They had big problems to accept (if and when they accepted) the fact that they are not biologically girls and do not feel comfortable with their male body. Their dream was\is not to be a "T-Girl", their dream was\is to be a woman.
My humble opinion is that ConfusedMe does not need "keep thinking about that all the time", he is a gay guy with a crossdressing fantasy, and "just start trying to dress like a girl and see where it takes me" is an "healthy balanced approach" as JodieTs said.

Regards

[ConfusedMe]

^Thanks for your opinion.

I'll let you guys know if I ever start experimenting. I have a boyfriend right now, and we live together and he wouldn't understand it so I don't think I'll be able to start crossdressing at the moment but I'll do it at some point.

Originally Posted by KittyKaiti

If your desires and interests are wishing you were a transsexual and not an actual woman, it may just be a fetish for you.

I wish I wasn't a transsexual. I wished and still desperately want to be a woman with a vagina and hell even a uterus, ovaries and eggs with the ability to have children. I wanted that XX chromosome, not this damn XY and "female" on my birth certificate. I don't want the harassment and discrimination because as a woman, I wouldn't have that problem.

I feel the same way Kaiti. Though if I had a second chose. I would be to just be a gay guy. So I wouldn't have to go through as much hardship as most trans people have to go through.

You may not realize this ConfusedMe. But being a transsexual is much harder than being a gay man. Homosexuality is much more widely known and accepted than transgendered is.

But from what I can tell from ConfusedMe post. He may be bi-gendered or genderqueer.
My advice would be to research more of the transgender spectrum and see where you fit. Than you should really find a transgender specialized therapist who you can talk to about this.

Now as a more constructive way of going about this (scene you are looking for insight).
Why do you feel that being a trans woman would be more fun than just being the gay man that you are?

Miranda

[Amy]

Sounds like autogynephilia to me.

HOWEVER.

I have at least two friends who began identifying as gay males, and only later realised they were indeed trans. At least one has definitely confirmed she is indeed trans while another is currently questioning if it is simply a fetish.

I myself was confused early on, as I suspected that the inhibitions being male caused to my sexual drives and the liberation I felt when engaging in what amounted to straight sex but with me in the role of a second female were symptomatic of it being fetishised (It wasn't, it was that I only felt comfortable and natural having lesbian sex).

I'd recommend seeing someone professional about it. As this can just eat away inside you for years.

[ConfusedMe]

Originally Posted by ThirdEyeGirl

I feel the same way Kaiti. Though if I had a second chose. I would be to just be a gay guy. So I wouldn't have to go through as much hardship as most trans people have to go through.

You may not realize this ConfusedMe. But being a transsexual is much harder than being a gay man. Homosexuality is much more widely known and accepted than transgendered is.

I know that. I've read a lot about transsexualism and know that you girls (and guys) have a much harder path to go through.

Why do you feel that being a trans woman would be more fun than just being the gay man that you are?

Miranda

Ummm...not really sure... It's just shallow small things that make me think that way. Looking like a girl just sounds more fun to me...Plus my personality is a bit feminine in some ways; not saying I'm a very effeminate man, just saying some of my traits are more sterotypically female, for example I like guys to chase after me not for me to chase them, and I'm more on the sweet tender side (when I want to).

I know it doesn't sound convincing but I can't really explain it .

Anyways as an update, I'm crossdressing for Halloween!!!! Yay!! My boyfriend and my best friend are too. They're just doing it for fun, I am too but it does have a deeper meaning for me. I just want to see where it takes me, I kind of think it will be the first time of many.

[ConfusedMe]

The day is coming I'm kinda excited and scared...hope everything turns ok and I have a great time.

If you guys care enough I might post what went down after that day.