Help...I keep thinking about being trans...

[Jamie French]

Also... trying to snag truly straight men is a one way ticket to getting beat up or killed. Don't go into transition thinking that you are going to get away with fooling anyone. No one likes to be tricked and you don't want to learn that the hard way.

[SluttyShemaleAnna]

Do you also have negative feelings about being a man?

[KittyKaiti]

Originally Posted by SluttyShemaleAnna

Do you also have negative feelings about being a man?

See:

Originally Posted by ConfusedMe

I don't feel uncomfortable with my male body, or my male life, I'm happy, I like who I am,

He is just a dude with a crossdressing fetish.

[SluttyShemaleAnna]

Ahh, I missed that bit. *Note to self, read properly!*

Yep, that's what I was thinking would be the answer tho, and same conclusion.

[ConfusedMe]

I've never really crossdressed or desire to (don't think I'd be passable at all and I'm not even ultra feminine to try and mimick women), and I don't want to fool men either (the straight guy comment was because I like straight guys, I guess you always want what you can't have). I don't know if it would be a fetish cuz it doesn't really give me any sexual satisfaction, it's just a fucking thought that is in the back of my mind all the time. Like last night, I was in a club with my boyfriend and friends having a good time and suddenly I got all sad because of all these thoughts and kept thinking it would be so awesome if I were a tgirl in that moment .

I don't even know why I'm posting here, think I just wanted to get some answers but I'm still very confused, just kinda want these thoughts to go away and stop draining so much of my energy and time.

[Melissa Pink]

Originally Posted by Jamie French

Also... trying to snag truly straight men is a one way ticket to getting beat up or killed. Don't go into transition thinking that you are going to get away with fooling anyone. No one likes to be tricked and you don't want to learn that the hard way.

I totally agree! It's risky enough being a crossdresser or transgender without trying to trick straight men! Use you best judgement and always be safe!

[e235845]

I think the easiest way for you to sort our your feelings is to
#1 suscribe to a TS Dating site
#2 get a couple of friends that can help you transform for the night ( but you have to go all out, no holding back )
#3 go a party/club in full drag. It is important that you go to a get-together organised by or ts friendy people. I DO NOT MEAN SOMEONE WHO IS WILLING TO PUT UP WITH YOU IN DRAG JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE FRIEND. the adventages of a party organized by a transexual person/organization is that the guys who attend are likely to be ts admirers and that they are gonna come after you like straight man do with women
#4 DON NOT GET WASTED!! I think it is important that you fully appreciate the experience

[ConfusedMe]

Originally Posted by e235845

I think the easiest way for you to sort our your feelings is to
#1 suscribe to a TS Dating site
#2 get a couple of friends that can help you transform for the night ( but you have to go all out, no holding back )
#3 go a party/club in full drag. It is important that you go to a get-together organised by or ts friendy people. I DO NOT MEAN SOMEONE WHO IS WILLING TO PUT UP WITH YOU IN DRAG JUST BECAUSE YOU ARE FRIEND. the adventages of a party organized by a transexual person/organization is that the guys who attend are likely to be ts admirers and that they are gonna come after you like straight man do with women
#4 DON NOT GET WASTED!! I think it is important that you fully appreciate the experience

Thank you for your thoughts. Can't do any of that right now, but maybe in the future.

[ConfusedMe]

No more replies?

[smc]

Originally Posted by ConfusedMe

I don't even know why I'm posting here, think I just wanted to get some answers but I'm still very confused, just kinda want these thoughts to go away and stop draining so much of my energy and time.

Originally Posted by ConfusedMe

No more replies?

So, which is it? You want these thoughts to go away -- which suggests that a first step might be to stop posting about them? Or you want more replies?

It seems to me you have the benefit of having a few of our finest women on this site -- REAL women like Kaiti, for instance -- telling it to you like it is.

[ConfusedMe]

Originally Posted by smc

So, which is it? You want these thoughts to go away -- which suggests that a first step might be to stop posting about them? Or you want more replies?

It seems to me you have the benefit of having a few of our finest women on this site -- REAL women like Kaiti, for instance -- telling it to you like it is.

That was harsh. Well guess what? I'm confused (read my name) I just wanted more opinions. Thank God one of the girls actually helped me through the PMs.

[smc]

Originally Posted by ConfusedMe

That was harsh. Well guess what? I'm confused (read my name) I just wanted more opinions. Thank God one of the girls actually helped me through the PMs.

I refer you back to what Kaiti wrote about the difference between wanting to be a transsexual and a woman. If you are still confused after that, I'm not sure anyone on this site can help you. Professional counseling might be more in order. Call me harsh if you must, but this is the truth.

(This post has been Kaiti approved.)