Nightmare time

[JodieTs]

Hi guiltydreamer

First of all, if the person has HIV
the stats for transmission are that you have approximately one in a thousand chance of contracting HIV, for every instance you have unprotected penetrative sex with that person. The odds vary dependant on their viral load at the time, and of course you can catch HIV with just one engagement. But those are the odds.

I sympathise as I am in a very similar place to you at the moment.
I'm a whore, & on 5th of December I was subject to non-consensual sex. A client, during loads of position changes, he removed his condom, without alerting me
Condoms don't just drop off.
The following day I went to the Genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinic for a complete range of tests.
This is something I have done every three months specifically because of my job.
I did this as the tests might pick up a problem.
Also, so that further tests, one month and three months subsequent,
can be connected to this first test,
ie time line.

My second set of tests were last week.
I won't know 100% that I'm clear till the results of the third test.
It's highly unlikely I've caught anything, but if I had, I would call the cops as this was sexual assault.
Both my partners are aware of this incident.


Moving on.
You have the following:

• This person who was aware they are HIV+ has had unprotected sex with you
  This is sexual assault.
  or
• This person is not HIV+ and they are trying to extort money from you.

You have a partner who is presumably unaware of all this.

Firstly, you are doing the right thing as far as the health checks are concerned. But you will not know you are clear for sure until a three monthly check-up.
If you are having unprotected sex with your partner you have ONLY two options

• You tell her so she can make an informed choice as to whether she will have unprotected sex with you till you get the three month test clear.
  or
• You don't tell her But you stop having unprotected sex with her

You do not have any other options on this one or you are effectively sexually assaulting her. Just think, in the very unlikely event you are HIV+
and you pass it onto her, you will have just totally fucked her life.

I would look up HIV support groups in your area that you can talk to. That may help.
I would also suggest you contact the police and tell them
You will possibly want to report this anonymously which I understand. Ask the police. Describe everything to them as you have here and ask them if they can look at this without you providing your name.
I would contact the part of the police who handle sex assault cases, as they will be up to speed on things like this.


Good luck. xxx

[shadows]

Originally Posted by JodieTs

Hi guiltydreamer

First of all, if the person has HIV
the stats for transmission are that you have approximately one in a thousand chance of contracting HIV, for every instance you have unprotected penetrative sex with that person. The odds vary dependant on their viral load at the time, and of course you can catch HIV with just one engagement. But those are the odds.

I sympathise as I am in a very similar place to you at the moment.
I'm a whore, & on 5th of December I was subject to non-consensual sex. A client, during loads of position changes, he removed his condom, without alerting me
Condoms don't just drop off.
The following day I went to the Genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinic for a complete range of tests.
This is something I have done every three months specifically because of my job.
I did this as the tests might pick up a problem.
Also, so that further tests, one month and three months subsequent,
can be connected to this first test,
ie time line.

My second set of tests were last week.
I won't know 100% that I'm clear till the results of the third test.
It's highly unlikely I've caught anything, but if I had, I would call the cops as this was sexual assault.
Both my partners are aware of this incident.


Moving on.
You have the following:

• This person who was aware they are HIV+ has had unprotected sex with you
  This is sexual assault.
  or
• This person is not HIV+ and they are trying to extort money from you.

You have a partner who is presumably unaware of all this.

Firstly, you are doing the right thing as far as the health checks are concerned. But you will not know you are clear for sure until a three monthly check-up.
If you are having unprotected sex with your partner you have ONLY two options

• You tell her so she can make an informed choice as to whether she will have unprotected sex with you till you get the three month test clear.
  or
• You don't tell her But you stop having unprotected sex with her

You do not have any other options on this one or you are effectively sexually assaulting her. Just think, in the very unlikely event you are HIV+
and you pass it onto her, you will have just totally fucked her life.

I would look up HIV support groups in your area that you can talk to. That may help.
I would also suggest you contact the police and tell them
You will possibly want to report this anonymously which I understand. Ask the police. Describe everything to them as you have here and ask them if they can look at this without you providing your name.
I would contact the part of the police who handle sex assault cases, as they will be up to speed on things like this.


Good luck. xxx

Jodie, that was a despicable thing that he did.

I will keep my fingers crossed and hope that your tests all come back negative.

Guiltydreamer, I will do the same for you as well.

[guiltydreamer]

Hi Jodie,

Thank you for your friendly and considered post - I have enjoyed reading many of your comments and responses to others on this forum.

Some weeks have now passed since my 6 week HIV test, which was taken immediately following the BB sex episode I originally referred to. I then presented myself at the clinic 2 days after receiving the scary sms messages that I describe in the original post.

As always, the staff at my local clinic were amazing - supportive, calm and re-assuring but never judgemental. The nurse I saw considers the whole episode to be an unfortunate encounter with a likely junkie......well, possibly but I have consorted with this girl several times and she wa always a great sex companion and we did begin to develop a friendly bond to some degree, although she was beginning toi hustle formore money on the last 2 occasions which surprised me.

My current situation is that I was confirmed clear of any STD's again last week and I have another HIV test in 4 weeks - that will be the 3 month test following the original unprotetced sex (which I should clarify was me as the insertive partner, only for a very short time, no climax, no blood - thankfully no faeces (!!) on my penis.

I will also have a 6 month HIV test and am feeling positive that the results will be negative (could have crafted that sentence with a higher degree of skill).

What is interesting is that this sex worker is still advertising her services in the local paper.

The clinic advised me to report to the Police also. On balance, I realise that I probably should, but there is just no way that I will. For one, whilst I hold a general level of respect for Police, I do not trust them and I hold a professional position in the community that would be severely compromised if my sexual preferences were to be revealed. More importantly as you have deduced, I have a family who must come before me and their privacy is paramount.

Should a positive result lie ahead, then I will face up to my responsibilities and deal with the situation. I am not placing anyone at risk - my partner survived a serious cancer episode some years ago and we no longer share an intimate relationship even though our bond is otherwise strong and based on a mutual love and respect. She does not however know about my predilection for Asian Ladyboys.

Your story is quite shocking and unsettling. I truly wish for you a long happy and healthy life.

We all need to tread carefully at times and I have learned a valuable lesson from this recent unsavoury episode.

[guiltydreamer]

Originally Posted by shadows

Jodie, that was a despicable thing that he did.

I will keep my fingers crossed and hope that your tests all come back negative.

Guiltydreamer, I will do the same for you as well.

Thanks Shadows for the good wishes - much appreciated support.

[JodieTs]

Shadows and Guiltydreamer
This morning I got the following text message:
NHS-NoReply
A message from St Albans clinic.......
All your test results are negative.
So, OK so far.

[randolph]

Originally Posted by JodieTs

Shadows and Guiltydreamer
This morning I got the following text message:
NHS-NoReply
A message from St Albans clinic.......
All your test results are negative.
So, OK so far.

So good to hear Jodie. We love you.

[shadows]

Originally Posted by JodieTs

Shadows and Guiltydreamer
This morning I got the following text message:
NHS-NoReply
A message from St Albans clinic.......
All your test results are negative.
So, OK so far.

Jodie, I am so glad to hear that. Thank goodness. And thank you for letting us know the good news.

[guiltydreamer]

Originally Posted by JodieTs

Shadows and Guiltydreamer
This morning I got the following text message:
NHS-NoReply
A message from St Albans clinic.......
All your test results are negative.
So, OK so far.

Jodie,

Wonderful news - I can understand your (guarded) sense of relief.....here's hoping and wishing for you a similar outcome for the 3 month test - I am sure it will be.

You are someone I would enjoy sharing time over a coffee with....maybe when I pass through London in the Northen Hemisphere summer this year.....it would be my pleasure.

Best Regards,

GD

[JodieTs]

Originally Posted by guiltydreamer

Jodie,

Wonderful news - I can understand your (guarded) sense of relief.....here's hoping and wishing for you a similar outcome for the 3 month test - I am sure it will be.

You are someone I would enjoy sharing time over a coffee with....maybe when I pass through London in the Northen Hemisphere summer this year.....it would be my pleasure.

Sure that would be nice, drop me a line here when you are over.