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[Jenae LaTorque]

Originally Posted by Trogdor

My turn!


Why is it that when a girl has a friend that they've been friends for years, and when said friend asks her out, she gets so freaked out and disgusted, as if her own brother or sister (yes, I've seen a lot of lesbians get burnt this way, too) asked her out, yet she's got no problem....in fact she seems to prefer it....when a total stranger she just met in a bar or club asks her out?

And why do girls always seem to prefer punks, jerks and rejects (you know the type: The ones who drink heavily, have skull and snake tattoos all over their arms, do at least one sort of drug, been arrested a few times and part of some no name rock band that's never going to go anywhere....double if he/she's the drummer) to decent guys and girls....and only go after the good ones when they realize they lost their looks from so much partying, drinking, and drugs?

Last question.....why is it that it seems that all the interesting, attractive, desirable people one wants to be with appear to occupy the coastal regions of this country 95% of the time, as opposed to any of the inner states.

Thank you.

1st question - Wow, you could write a book on this one; in fact, I'm sure someone has. People tend to categorize other people in their life and when you try to jump outside of said category, it may be upsetting to them. This would be more so with younger less experianced women. Women also tend to be disgusted with men who make bold advances without some sort of pre-game warmup (flirting).

In most cases, if a girl is interested in you to fill the role of paramour, then she will make some sort of signs that lead in that direction. Just as you should make some hints(signs) that you are so interested. The game is kinda like hold'em poker - you may make a small bet, to guage the relative strength of your hand, before you decide to make a large bet or go all in. If you go all in blindly you may be out of the game.

As for that total stranger that she goes out with; I am sure there is some interplay prior to the acceptance. Even if it just a look or two.

Question 2 - Why do good girls like "bad boys"? I suppose this is a result of our culture. Lots of movies, books, etc. portray the romance of "the pirate and the lady" , "the outlaw and the church girl", etc. Girls tend to fall for this type of fable; they like the danger and the challenge, and: they think that they can reform "the bad boy" which just goes to prove what a hell of a woman they are. Plus - "bad boys" are not so boring. lol !

The truth is that most people don't change easily, we are creatures of habit. People who live a dissolute type of life tend to keep on doing it until circumstances force them to mend their ways. So in actuality, few girls do save the "bad boy".

Question 3 . Interesting, attractive, desirable people? Birds of a feather flock together? Actually, I find the gold everywhere. Then perhaps it is all in what you percieve as gold.