Telling your partner of your love for shemales

[agedwards63]

Girls don't react well to competition for their magic pussies

[WudLuv2try]

I've not been covering up the trails behind my internet use, and my wife soon tracked me down to this website.

Of course she doesnt know my user ID, but she knows I'm downloading pictures from this site, and she was puzzled.

So she asked me one day,

"Are you gay? Do you want to be fucked in the ass?"

And I said,

"May be, never tried so I don't know. Can I try?"

And she said,

"No way! It's dangerous, you know?"

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Now, I think there's a slice of hope in that. She didn't freak out, she didn't say,

"You do it and I'll kill you."

She was just... worried about the safety issue, which means if I can take care of that, then may be there's a chance.

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Some time after the first conversation, she asked me again,

"Why do you like TS?"

And I said I don't know. And she asked,

"Is it because you want to have sex with other people besides me, and you feel less guilty if you had sex with another male, rather than a female?"

And I said,

"Would it make you less angry if I had sex with a TS?"

And she said,

"No. I'll still be angry."

And I said,

"Honey, I'm just curious, that's all."

And that's where we stand right now.

[km1]

Good luck WudLuv, hope it all works out for you. I really have no advice (not that you ask for any) as I'm not married and do not have a serious girlfriend.

[WudLuv2try]

Thanks, km1!

I wasn't going to ask, but I had to.

Seeing you're not married and don't have serious girlfriend, have you... ?

[Daveybouy69]

Looks like this topic came up a while back but its still relevant for a few (many?) of us, myself included.

With my own situation it is unlikely that my wife would be receptive to my attraction to transsexuals, mostly due to her upbringing and partially due to just her own nature. In fact it would most likely be the beginning of the end of our marriage if I brought it up.

While I would love to be open with my wife about it she wouldn't be able to take it - it doesn't mean that she doesn't love me or vice-versa.

The only thing I can say on this is that you have to use your own common sense, as people have pointed out before everyone's situation is different.

[franalexes]

The starting point would be understanding some basic point. Man will tell a woman he loves her to get sex. Woman will give sex to get love. Somewhere in there is a balance and most don't understand it.
So lets say that guys are sex oriented and women are love oriented. The contrast may start to appear.
I had never heard the 90% figure before but it seems about right.
Is anyone an expert on what someone else thinks?

[Kakariko]

In my opinion, honesty in a relationship is exceptionally important. I have a girlfriend and we've been dating for several years and I've told her about my various interests, including Tgirls. She isn't into it at all and probably wishes I wasn't so much, but I'm glad she knows. I would never be able to keep anything like this from her. I tell her everything of importance.

That being said, I can see how it can be different for others. Some people here are married and would have come across Tgirls after being married. Obviously, if they had gotten into Tgirls before marriage, they may have been able to talk about it with their partner. After being married it changes things, as a marriage could potentially be ruined if someone found out their partner was into Tgirls. Of course, it all depends on how open-minded one is and what sort of upbringing they had etc. It isn't easy telling someone you love something like this. It can be scary not knowing how they'll feel, how it will affect them and how it will affect the relationship.

chelsea, my advice would be to let your partner know. I'm not sure how close you and your partner are, but I believe honesty is always the best answer. If you do let her know, please let us know how it went. All the best!

[JodieTs]

Originally Posted by agedwards63

Girls don't react well to competition for their magic pussies

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[chrero]

No, she wouldn?t understand it. She would accept (I believe) a "normal" gay orientation, but not my longing for shemales.

[ila]

She's not my partner yet, but my lady knows of my love for transgender women. She wholeheartedly approves because she is a beautiful sweet transgender lady.

[Jayshawn!]

Dont do it unless you have to i wouldnt reccomend it

[O'Sully TS Hopeful]

Originally Posted by ila

She's not my partner yet, but my lady knows of my love for transgender women. She wholeheartedly approves because she is a beautiful sweet transgender lady.

And I'm so happy to be the lucky lady. In fact, I'm thankful for everyday I think about you. And I obviously more than approve.

[shadows]

Originally Posted by O'Sully TS Hopeful

And I'm so happy to be the lucky lady. In fact, I'm thankful for everyday I think about you. And I obviously more than approve.

I sincerely wish the both of you lots of happiness.

[ila]

Originally Posted by O'Sully TS Hopeful

And I'm so happy to be the lucky lady. In fact, I'm thankful for everyday I think about you. And I obviously more than approve.

And I'm so thankful for you.

[smc]

Originally Posted by ila

And I'm so thankful for you.

Isn't this where someone's supposed to say "get a room, already!"

Originally Posted by ila

She's not my partner yet, but my lady knows of my love for transgender women. She wholeheartedly approves because she is a beautiful sweet transgender lady.

I'm very happy for you my friend!

[ila]

Originally Posted by aw9725

I'm very happy for you my friend!

Thankyou. I am very happy and very thankful to have met such a sweet wonderful lady.

[valentinetabitha]

This is something I live in fear of (my wife finding out). Before we were married I told her I was bisexual, but it was something she blocked out. Recently I've reminded her and its something that she doesn't like but has apparently accepted. I worry that finding out that I'm a casual crossdresser and that the only dicks I look at come paired with at least an attempt at looking (socially) standardly female would send her over the edge.

Reminding her that I'm bi has been exceptionally freeing, but I worry it will make me too bold. I could push too soon and tell her that every once in a while I like to wear her panties when she's not home. I'm thinking that's not such a good idea.

[franalexes]

Originally Posted by ila

Thankyou. I am very happy and very thankful to have met such a sweet wonderful lady.

Some get to play backstop,
others get to be homeplate.