Does liking shemales make you gay?

[sulka]

For me a shemale/transsexual girl represent the ideal woman.They use be more feminine and sexy than manny real women these days.

Interesting to see how old these posts are! I remember reading Bionca’s response to “ShowMeLove” long before I was a member here and I thought what she said was right on. I know that it helped me to better understand my own feelings and what I was going through in my life at the time.

We are about to enter a new decade--hopefully this will at last be the start of the “21st century.” The last two centuries have been largely about physical, mechanical, and electronic discoveries. Human beings are amazingly complex and we are only just beginning to understand some of the events that occur as we develop. I have always believed that our next real breakthroughs will occur as we look inward. The Human Genome project was just the start.

I have only been aware of my attraction to trans women for about two or three years now. Although “open minded” I too have gone through the same questioning of my sexuality that others have gone through. I read the posts in the “If U Like Shemales R U Gay?” thread and find myself hoping that these individuals will come to understand their feelings just as I have mine and realize that the beautiful “shemales” they are attracted to are indeed women--as are their trans co-workers or friends. Is it really so hard to accept that a person could be born female and yet have external male genitals or vice versa? Science is only now learning what goes on during those nine months and I believe that someday we will come to a more enlightened view of human sexuality and not be so quick to place labels on who or what we are.

As the year ends I find myself doing quite well; I have a terrific career, a beautiful new ladyfriend, and of course my many new friends on this forum with whom I have been able to share something very special.

Happy New Year to all!

[obinn]

Here is my long, highly personal and slightly boring answer. I guess I'm just expressing myself for the sake of it as I think we all realise that the OP is suffering from minor embarrassment and mild self-disgust because he enjoys something that he was brought up to disapprove of. Looks like natural attraction is a stronger force that cultural prejudices!

Drugs, sex, relationships - we all grow up with ideas about these things without having experienced them ourselves. We have learnt, from family, peers, or the media, particular prejudices against certain things and against certain members of society, who are stigmatized. I think virtually everyone would agree with that as it seems self-evident.

Like many people, I have tried to flush those prejudices from my mind. I try to question everything I hear and reach a conclusion on my own. If I lack the experience to form a conclusion, I rely on a trustworthy source until I can attain that experience.

Strip away your prejudices and everyone is equal.

If everyone is equal, the question isn't why do some people like TS girls; the question is why doesn't everyone like TS girls?

Actually, the real question is why do many people actively dislike and ridicule TS girls? What have the girls done to deserve it except to simply be themselves?

I grew up being attracted to girls. Some TS girls look exactly like genetic girls, so I am attracted to them. That seems perfectly natural - only the prejudices of society make it seem otherwise. In my case, that's why a straight man can become a TS girl lover. It broadened my horizons; I woke up to myself. Now a TS girl doesn't have to look exactly like a genetic girl (with one obvious difference) to be attractive to me.

Why should I be turned off because TS girls have a penis? Penis' aren't disgusting - I have one!

For reasons I don't understand, I don't seem to be attracted to men, sexually. I like the idea of it, so I guess that in the right circumstances I could go all the way with a man. I hope so - I want to experience everything life has to offer.

I don't want to limit my experiences because of the prejudices of my society. Doing that would reinforce those prejudices, and I'd be disappointed with myself if I did that.

TS girls are individuals, so I'm not attracted to all just as I'm not attracted to all women. And it's not because they have or don't have a penis that I am attracted to someone.

[pretty_ladyboy]

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its the case of "discrimination" I guess...

but for me as long as I live well I dont mind them