Is there a sequence of events that you believe lead to your current sexual desires

[Bionca]

Originally Posted by kitty cox

I know to share your inner most thoughts is very difficult. The only things that I posted to you were complementary and flattering. All that I will say is that emotions are a very telling thing and when I get the kind of response that I got from you, I know I struck a raw never, somewhere, somehow. So please keep your reactive emotions at home. This forum is for people to share honest memories about events that happened during their formative years. This is the invitation that you received. If you are not ready that is understandable. If you read my earlier post, on the forum, I predicted that someone (just like you) would post just the kind of thing that you so predictably fulfilled. This type of behavior is not welcome at or on this forum. Find somewhere else to act out. A (shortcoming) often manifests itself like this. An individual will be presented with very uncomfortable emotions (by a set of circumstances or perhaps a question) and because emotions are energy they cannot be ignored, in a predictable pattern, the individual will replace the uncomfortable emotion with one that they are more comfortable with. In the case of men, it most often is replaced with anger, hostility and violence, because these are emotions that they are most comfortable with. It seems, you have not strayed, all that far from your birth gender. One of the most attractive things about a woman that you always want to be around is their gentle nurturing sprit. I predict that you will not be able to resist returning with another episode. You should be informed that I only posted a reply to your remarks for the benefit of the individuals that have participated in an honest review of early memories and to remind them that there are people that will come to this forum in a predictable hostility. You will receive no further recognition from me, until you grow closer to your goal of womanhood. I hope the participants will ignore and forgive your emotional episode. They should not allow you to draw them into your inner turmoil. I would hope they will choose to admire you for your achievements and leave it at that.

First, to answer your question : Birth happened - that's pretty much what set me on "my path".

Now, let's dig a little. Men are angry/ Women are nurturing - Bullocks. It's one of those things that CDs and TVs throw around to justify their identity, just like rubbish about how sexy women's clothes feel or how dull boy clothes are. It's a valid set of beliefs, and ones that are nicely held up and reinforced by our society. But I don't think it holds up to really thoughtful probing.

This should not be confused or compared with what is happening with Trans* women. Neither is better/worse than the other. What is problematic is that so very often CDs and TVs have this expectation that trans* women agree with/understand what the heck they are talking about.

For one thing, I didn't suddenly become less able to express being angry. I may be less likely to "pop off" (thanks HRT), but I still get just as pissed. I'm only more likely to let crap slide. I also don't and never have gotten any particular thrill out of any garment I have owned. Clothes cover my body, accentuate my figure, help moderate my temperature.

One thing that I think is important is to understand I (and most TS women I know) never had a feeling of having a "feminine side" that needed to be expressed. That is a conflict I never needed to deal with in any meaningful way. I knew I was a girl, I processed my life as a girl, I tried to be a boy, I figured out what was going on, I took the steps I needed to to get there.

As always, these are my own thoughts and experiences. I'm positive many trans women will not agree.