Does liking shemales make you gay?

[Gor Gar]

Yes, I feel guilty some of the time, but not because I chalk it up to some sort of sin or anything along any religious lines. I used to work in an outpatient mental health facility, and we would sometimes get people in there suffering from sexual identity crisis, sometimes showing up crossdressing (and failing pretty miserably at being "convincing") and those particular cases were almost all brought on by sexual abuse at a very young age. Likewise, I have a male cousin who longs to be a lady, swearing and declaring he was born with the wrong plumbing, and yet he too suffered sexual abuse when he was very young.

So the main reason I sometimes feel guilty is because I feel like I just might be "cashing in" on somebody else's trauma. I don't know how or why all of these t-girls are or rather become what they are...the life decisions that have brought them to the point where I'm seeing pics or videos of them...but the nagging thought in the back of my mind is: "*What if* they were molested and/or abused? Am I feeding into their emotional turmoil?" In other words, I sometimes think I'm digging on exploitation of a deeper issue, and deriving pleasure out of somebody else's misfortune is simply not cool.

Another reason I feel guilty is that I sometimes think I'm doing nothing more than bullshitting myself. Every so often a "before" pic will hit the internet of a t-girl, and that kind of reality check is like a slap to the face. The way I see it is: I would never in a million years find a man attractive, but shave his body, grow his hair out, slap on some make-up and boobs, and suddenly I'm like "Oh what a beautiful woman!" Bullshit...I'm drooling over a guy that's had some work done. I'm not saying that is how I truly feel all of the time, just some of the time when I'm in those moments of guilt. Why? Who knows. Like our attractions, we can't always control our thoughts on things either, no matter how invasive they can be at times.

[Renegade91]

I go through stages where I'll try to block them out.
Lasts for a couple weeks but I always go back, I don't know if I'll ever be able to be completely comfortable with my lust for transexuals.

[randolph]

Originally Posted by Gor Gar

Yes, I feel guilty some of the time, but not because I chalk it up to some sort of sin or anything along any religious lines. I used to work in an outpatient mental health facility, and we would sometimes get people in there suffering from sexual identity crisis, sometimes showing up crossdressing (and failing pretty miserably at being "convincing") and those particular cases were almost all brought on by sexual abuse at a very young age. Likewise, I have a male cousin who longs to be a lady, swearing and declaring he was born with the wrong plumbing, and yet he too suffered sexual abuse when he was very young.

So the main reason I sometimes feel guilty is because I feel like I just might be "cashing in" on somebody else's trauma. I don't know how or why all of these t-girls are or rather become what they are...the life decisions that have brought them to the point where I'm seeing pics or videos of them...but the nagging thought in the back of my mind is: "*What if* they were molested and/or abused? Am I feeding into their emotional turmoil?" In other words, I sometimes think I'm digging on exploitation of a deeper issue, and deriving pleasure out of somebody else's misfortune is simply not cool.

Another reason I feel guilty is that I sometimes think I'm doing nothing more than bullshitting myself. Every so often a "before" pic will hit the internet of a t-girl, and that kind of reality check is like a slap to the face. The way I see it is: I would never in a million years find a man attractive, but shave his body, grow his hair out, slap on some make-up and boobs, and suddenly I'm like "Oh what a beautiful woman!" Bullshit...I'm drooling over a guy that's had some work done. I'm not saying that is how I truly feel all of the time, just some of the time when I'm in those moments of guilt. Why? Who knows. Like our attractions, we can't always control our thoughts on things either, no matter how invasive they can be at times.

An excellent post.
I haven't thought much about why a person wants to become a tranny. I was not aware that abuse could be the cause for some cases. Some men just seem to be wired to be women. I have some erotic feelings about femaleness although I have no desire to be a female or wear female panties. I love transsexual fantasies and would like to have a tranny lover, however. I never thought about transsexuals until I discovered them on the internet. Now its almost an obsession.
I really relate to your comment about men making themselves look like women and all of a sudden they are sexually attractive, yes this is bullshit especially for the so called ladyboys in Thailand. They are "cute" boys pure and simple.
Yes the horny male mind does strange things.

[Jenae LaTorque]

Now the discsussion has shifted from self-centered concerns to those of social responsibility. There is no doubt in my mind that Gor Gar is right that some, if not many, cases of transgenderism are caused by abuse. I would like to broaden the definition of abuse to include mental abuse, and not just actual sexual abuse. I would suggest that there are many roads that lead to transgender status, and the map is far from being finished. From postings on this forum it is obvious that some members are inclined in a homosexual way in that they rave on about pics of guys butts and dicks, while at the other end of the spectrum we have guys who only like very feminine looking Tgirls. Then there are the members who are fully Tgirls, whose inputs are a very valuable asset to this forum and should be fully considered.

So...just like the Tgirls we all have pasts ( our path ) that has lead us to the present. You could just as well ask if the Tgirls are contributing or, as Gor Gar put it, "cashing in" on our behavior and fantasies. The nitty-gritty of the matter is that we all use one another. It is up to us to do so in an equitable manner. I see no reason for anyone to feel guilty about their participation in any facet of life if they are not harming others. Now that may be a very difficult thing to determine and in some cases impossible. Who can forsee every consequence of their actions? The best we can do is think (meditate, pray, etc) and inform ourselves about the matter and follow our conscience. Just remember that we all rationalize our behavior; it is your duty to get as much data as possible and never to set your conclusions in stone; more information may present itself to modify or reverse your conclusion.

For those of you who read these discussions and never comment; I, and others here, urge you to do so. Your input is valuable data and is appreciated by many regardless of your position.

[TigerDragon]

Originally Posted by Gor Gar

Yes, I feel guilty some of the time, but not because I chalk it up to some sort of sin or anything along any religious lines. I used to work in an outpatient mental health facility, and we would sometimes get people in there suffering from sexual identity crisis, sometimes showing up crossdressing (and failing pretty miserably at being "convincing") and those particular cases were almost all brought on by sexual abuse at a very young age. Likewise, I have a male cousin who longs to be a lady, swearing and declaring he was born with the wrong plumbing, and yet he too suffered sexual abuse when he was very young.

So the main reason I sometimes feel guilty is because I feel like I just might be "cashing in" on somebody else's trauma. I don't know how or why all of these t-girls are or rather become what they are...the life decisions that have brought them to the point where I'm seeing pics or videos of them...but the nagging thought in the back of my mind is: "*What if* they were molested and/or abused? Am I feeding into their emotional turmoil?" In other words, I sometimes think I'm digging on exploitation of a deeper issue, and deriving pleasure out of somebody else's misfortune is simply not cool.

Another reason I feel guilty is that I sometimes think I'm doing nothing more than bullshitting myself. Every so often a "before" pic will hit the internet of a t-girl, and that kind of reality check is like a slap to the face. The way I see it is: I would never in a million years find a man attractive, but shave his body, grow his hair out, slap on some make-up and boobs, and suddenly I'm like "Oh what a beautiful woman!" Bullshit...I'm drooling over a guy that's had some work done. I'm not saying that is how I truly feel all of the time, just some of the time when I'm in those moments of guilt. Why? Who knows. Like our attractions, we can't always control our thoughts on things either, no matter how invasive they can be at times.

Gar Gor, you are like me and think too much. If you love the person, and 'she' was born with a bit more plumbing? So what! Does it really matter at the end of the day? I was raised a strict Catholic, right is right, wrong is wrong, no black & white...yet there is! I have found that t/g girls are what they beleive, in their minds, hearts and souls. What right have we to have our guilt trip upon them?! It is almost like judging them. Anyway, enough said. Your heart is probably in the right place, just don't think too much!