Are we willing to settle for less - just because she happens to be trans?

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Originally Posted by TheSkronkDonkey

as much as I may admire and desire a gorgeous body and complexion, the personality can kill objectification in seconds.

I think TheSkronkDonkey has hit the proverbial nail on the proverbial head. I have fantasized to trans porn for some time now, but over time and especially most recently I have found that while I still get aroused by pictures or videos of a beautiful body (and the pictures I've shared in various threads show what gets me most aroused in this respect), I am drawn more and more to stories of passion and romance that are not exclusively sexual (although with some more or less explicit sexual component).

New things really turn me on now. I am drawn to a tgurl who signals that she does not objectify herself (although I'm not sure I can define what that means, I "know it when I see it"). I am drawn to a tgurl who disarms the objectifiers at the same time that they think she is playing to them (again, I know this when I see it). I am drawn to the idea of just melting into each other because the attraction has been built up over time without, perhaps, even seeing what each other look like. I know I'm not the best-looking guy in the world; why should I set a standard (or even be in the business of standard-setting) that is as ridiculous as the teen boy who puts up a poster of the latest, hottest supermodel and imagines that she could be his.

There's an ad I see in magazines sometimes for some language-training program on CD. It shows a young kid outside on a farm, and it says something like: "He's a Nebraska farm boy. She's an Italian supermodel. He knows he'll have only one chance with her."

Yeah, right! It could happen, but any of us who wait around for that kind of stuff are idiots. Yes, it's a cliche, but I'm old enough to have found that almost without exception, someone who radiates beauty, passion, romance, confidence, humor, etc., etc., from the the inside can have almost any physical look and still project beauty. You all know this, unless you're really, really young and still in the clouds.

I'll still look at pictures and videos, but I don't imagine I'll be having sex with any of these tgurl stars, and I certainly don't expect to run into any of them and sweep them off their feet.