Are we willing to settle for less - just because she happens to be trans?

[TheSkronkDonkey]

Personally speaking, I would NEVER date someone with a bad attitude -- at least, I can't CONCEIVE of ever doing so (but there is that rule in life, expressed by a great contradiction: never say never). I don't know so much about intelligence. I favour intelligence, sure. But I'm quite a needy person and find myself drawn to girly-girls. Note: I'm using "girl" in the broadest sense my small intellect can handle (i.e. bio-girls and trans-girls). Intelligence can intimidate me. It might simply be that I'm a weak person and I'm scared of strong individuals. In the abstract, I like the idea of being challenged; in reality, I usually dislike it. It's not low intelligence (if there even is such a thing) that turns me off a person; it's ignorant judgementalism. A person could have all the intelligence in the world and still be an arrogant, small-minded, judgemental ass. And rude. Very rude. So intelligence is a very foggy idea I try to pay little heed to.

It's basically the person I'm after ... and, I'm almost afraid to say, their looks. Yes, I know. Very superficial, aren't I? The weird thing is that I tend to regard looks not just as sexually desirable, but almost an expression of a person's "residual self image", to quote The Matrix. For example, I immensely prefer slim girls to chubby ones. In fact, the thought of touching a fat stomach makes me somewhat queasy. I see slimness as that stereotypical expression of health, vitality, youth, vigour; someone looking after themselves. It's not that I herald stick-thinness as a "good" thing (e.g. all those "Size Zero" models -- no, thanks!), but that I aesthetically prefer slim contours and slim bodies (e.g. Sofia Coppola is one of my favourite genetic women). Maybe the "residual self image" is a bunch of BS I've used to try and rationalise that preference. I must admit that there are some heavier t-girls in pics and vids that turn me on. Y'know, I'm just coming to realise at this point ... I think I like the slimmer arms, hips and thighs of t-girls. Is that ... wrong?

Damn, I don't know what's happening to me. I don't know where I'm at. But I kinda like this change. I guess I am very judgemental myself. And vain. And looking for an ideal that can't be met. Everything used to be so clear to me, now it's all so blurred. Again, though, I like the change -- kinda. I guess, all told, I want someone diffferent. Someone who isn't "the norm". Not that anyone lacks uniqueness, of course. But some people are, well ... more unique than others? Yes, very Orwellian of me. However, this *is* a board for the discussion and veneration of transgenderism, so I'm sure you all know what I'm (perhaps very awkwardly) getting at. Again, it's not intelligence, so much; it's a certain boldness in being different combined with a gentility in nature. And someone who can couch their seriousness in a fun demeanour. I don't know if that makes any sense at all.